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Tell me about your nightmare detached neighbours

98 replies

AmpleTealWasp · 30/05/2025 20:35

Hi
I live in a semi detached and neighbours are annoying noisy and i see on here people say they stretch themselves to afford a detached

is detached worth it or does anyone have nightmare neighbours whilst living in a detached id like to hear your nightmare detached house neighbour stories!

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QforCucumber · 30/05/2025 20:38

We’re in a detached and our out the back neighbour has 3 Great Dane dogs who are left in the garden all day and night, they bark and bark and bark and leave massive piles of steaming shit which in this weather carries the smell all through our garden too.

our neighbours each side are fab though and we all join each other for bbqs and drinks this time of year. I’ll be gutted if either side ever leave and we get awful ones!

cadburyegg · 30/05/2025 20:40

My friend lives in a detached and her neighbours were constantly blocking her car in her driveway.

i live in a semi and my neighbours attached to me are no issue but my neighbours round the corner used to leave a barking dog in their garden from 6.30am until 3pm. Their garden backs onto the side of mine, so very close. It wasn’t even their dog, it was their son’s who no longer lived there! I haven’t heard it in awhile tbf I think it might have died….

balcoly · 30/05/2025 20:47

I don't get the obsession with detached but I am a Londoner so they aren't too common here. Most of the time gardens are still attached anyway.

AmpleTealWasp · 30/05/2025 20:50

balcoly · 30/05/2025 20:47

I don't get the obsession with detached but I am a Londoner so they aren't too common here. Most of the time gardens are still attached anyway.

@balcoly thats what I was wondering a bit but I guess people on here say it due to attached neighbour noise being so bad sometimes

Just wondered if detached is really worth it if you can still end up with nightmare neighbours anyway?

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Spanador · 30/05/2025 20:51

We lived in a detached in a lovely village for a while. The closest neighbours were absolute nightmares. Stealing our parcels, setting off fireworks during the day and night, constantly having bonfires, leaving their dogs outside barking all the time. The police were constantly being called when they were beating each other. We ended up moving as it just wasn’t peaceful at all

AmpleTealWasp · 30/05/2025 20:55

Spanador · 30/05/2025 20:51

We lived in a detached in a lovely village for a while. The closest neighbours were absolute nightmares. Stealing our parcels, setting off fireworks during the day and night, constantly having bonfires, leaving their dogs outside barking all the time. The police were constantly being called when they were beating each other. We ended up moving as it just wasn’t peaceful at all

Dont blame you cant understand why some people are like this

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legsekeven · 30/05/2025 20:59

It depends on the house as well. I live in a 1950s semi detached and barely if ever hear my neighbours. The houses across the road are from the late 60s and apprently have walls like paper and very sound caries

ExitPursuedByABare · 30/05/2025 20:59

I live in a detached. It’s great. My neighbours are cunts but fortunately I don’t have to see them.

Lavachicken37 · 30/05/2025 21:02

I’m in a village. All detached, pretty big gardens. Neighbours 2 doors up have a tiny dog that has a very loud annoying bark that goes on all day when we are in the garden. I can only hear it when I’m in garden but my god it never gives up

PeapodMcgee · 30/05/2025 21:05

It ought to be an actual crime to be a noisy, nuisance neighbour. So much money wasted in moving fees, stamp duty etc trying to get away from these idiots.

At least in detached it might be quieter in the winter.

Danikm151 · 30/05/2025 21:06

My friend lives in new build detached property. House is silent but in the garden there are 4 gardens connected- seems to be quite common for new build layouts. As the gardens are small if windows are open you can hear the neighbours very clearly.

IleftmybaginNewportPagnell · 30/05/2025 21:11

Moved now (terraced flat!) but detached neighbour “had” to use our drop kerb to access their paved front garden. They parked across my driveway too, but I never did. One day he got all sweary with me, I asked him not to, he said he hates swearing so much that he decked the last man who swore because it was in front of children! Great role model. Neighbour other side took bits of my side access by stealth (and throwing everything she didn’t want over my side). They moved and I had a wonderful neighbour after that.

Foodoverload · 30/05/2025 21:12

i live in a semi. My attached neighbour is great and no issues. The detached house at the other side is noisy. Kids kick football all day at fence. All I hear is banging. This sets off their little dog that barks all the time. This then sets off their big dog that constantly whines. Which then upsets all the other dogs in the estate that then barks.

no dogs in the estate bark until the whining starts. This detached house upsets the whole estate. Many complaints but nothing happens.

kids playing is natural so I can live with that noise. But the barking is annoying

user7638490 · 30/05/2025 21:14

Lived in a detached for years. We hear our neighbours in the garden, but don’t see them, as the hedges are high and our plot is quite large. Some newer builds are so close together, I think it depends on the house. Generally, I love our neighbours.

Supercompetitivesibling · 30/05/2025 21:20

I live in a detached house. My neighbour to the right is a complete and utter twat.
His cat has decimated the birds (he is proud of this and boasts about it), frequently attacks other cats in the neighbourhood, including mine, leaving them needing vet care. He is constantly drilling and diy-ing every hour of every day (he is retired), uses power tools all the time so we never have a quiet day in our garden, and even sits on his patio shooting squirrels in the trees in the garden. He treats his wife like a slave, argues with tradesmen and delivery people (even when they have nothing to do with him) and is generally despised by everyone on the street. The only way he would be an okay neighbour is if I won the Euromillions and lived in a palace with enormous grounds so he was far, far away from me.

Okiedokie123 · 30/05/2025 21:23

I live in a terraced house. My neighbours on both sides are super quiet, no issues at all. Ditto my neighbours that live in the terraced houses opposite.
My neighbours whose garden backs onto mine however......... live in a detached house and are incredibly annoying. They have a bar/cinema room in the garden and have regular noisy garden parties that often start at 10am and go on until anything from midnight to 5am. With any number of people - from just the two of them to 20+. }
Dont assume that people who live in detached houses are better or less of a problem.

Londonrach1 · 30/05/2025 21:24

After 5 years of hell best thing we did.....we had a strange neighbour who videoed everything we did and would message to say a dog barking in the street sort it at after 8pm
..I didn't have a dog or you got someone at your door who...we were a terrence and she used her ring doorbell to watch us ..last message to me leaving was you are lucky we not in and don't step on my path when you loading your van (I could fill 100 mn posts on the messages and I have asked about her before and was told I was lucky she had a ringdoor to keep me safe.. seriously...a medical situation was used against me)...... So glad we now detached...best decision ever....new neighbours seem normal so far but badly burnt and hurt at the moment.....

stripeymonster · 30/05/2025 21:25

My parents have a big detached property but the day they moved in their neighbours came round to introduce themselves as ' the noisy neighbours' with a smirk on their faces. They lived true to their name - loud parties every weekend - spilling into garden until 2 a.m., many cars between them. No regard for anyone else. Being detached is no guarantee of decent neighbours!

AmpleTealWasp · 30/05/2025 21:25

Thanks all for your replies keep commenting im interested

Where I live a detached house is around £80k extra and I could possibly afford it but it would be a real financial stretch and was thinking would it be worth it if i end up with nightmare neighbours in a detached anyway

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AmpleTealWasp · 30/05/2025 21:27

stripeymonster · 30/05/2025 21:25

My parents have a big detached property but the day they moved in their neighbours came round to introduce themselves as ' the noisy neighbours' with a smirk on their faces. They lived true to their name - loud parties every weekend - spilling into garden until 2 a.m., many cars between them. No regard for anyone else. Being detached is no guarantee of decent neighbours!

@stripeymonster this is what i wondered you could be in a detached but still hear neighbours loud annoying music

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pontivex · 30/05/2025 21:37

Detached neighbours can still be wankers. You are just less likely to hear their indoor noise as no adjoining walls.

As for gardens sometimes the ‘detachedness’ means they are louder as gardens are usually bigger with a sense of space from neighbours even though it’s the same as any other house. We have a detached with half an acre. The neighbours on one side enjoy using their diesel wood chipper all day and then sit in their hot tub yelling at each other all night or having fire pit parties. The other side like playing loud music from their deck to reach all the way down the garden where they sit with their shrieky friends.

Both sides have barky dogs that get left out all day.

Greenqueen40 · 30/05/2025 21:40

There is a hell of a difference between noise in the garden which you can go inside and avoid or noise coming through the walls which you can't escape. I wouldn't hesitate to spend any extra.

Thelnebriati · 30/05/2025 21:40

YANBU. I wont put in all the gory details because you'll think I'm making it up, but we lived in a remote farmhouse, the 3 nearest neighbours were each nearly half a mile away in different directions and they were all nightmares.
One lot kept peacocks - if you don't know how noisy they are then imagine the whole family were learning to play the trombone in the garden.

Finteq · 30/05/2025 21:42

Kid 2 doors down plays football right next to my car. And sometimes uses my drive pissed my right off.

Kelticgold · 30/05/2025 21:45

I don’t live in a detached house but grew up in one. Very quiet and lovely most of the time. Our only neighbour would use his chainsaw every Sunday morning though 😅

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