Tell me about your nightmare detached neighbours

[AmpleTealWasp]

Hi
I live in a semi detached and neighbours are annoying noisy and i see on here people say they stretch themselves to afford a detached

is detached worth it or does anyone have nightmare neighbours whilst living in a detached id like to hear your nightmare detached house neighbour stories!

My parents live in a detached house in a very very wealthy neighbourhood and the neighbours are awful. Far worse than my HA ones. Money doesn't buy you decency or respect.

Their neighbours on both sides seem to believe their money entitles them to what they want, when they want, how they want. It has been horrendous.

Some detached houses might as well be semis tbh. I'm in a detached on a street of mostly semis, neighbours both sides are semis, gardens are still attached with just fences separating us. The only difference is that we don't share any walls but I can still hear them in the garden.
Luckily I like my neighbours!

The only trouble we have with neighbours is the people across the road. So there's really no point splashing out an extra £50-£80k just to not share walls because you could have Mr and Mrs Loud Mouth Chav across the road from you anyway, and where your walls are won't matter when they're shouting their heads off at each other in the street at 3am!

I think detached is better in many ways if you can manage it. I don't have to hear my neighbours indoors lives, listen to them go up and down stairs, hoover, socialise, etc. And my neighbourhood is really nice and peaceful and quiet. We know most of our street quite well and it all feels very friendly and that we can go to one another in an emergency or to join in on celebrations, meet up for dinners. One new set of neighbours though do come across as quite entitled, demanding and superficially pleasant (which of course is all that's needed) but deeply unpleasant. The fact that we don't share a wall really helps mitigate things.

I live in a detached house but never lived somewhere so fucking noisey! Dogs barking all day, kids screaming and shouting in the garden over the back, it’s like living next door to a school but it goes o n all weekend too. Absolute nightmare! I’d rather be attached to quiet neighbours.

I live in a detached house. To be fair my neighbours are fine but honestly I never even see them. I can hear them if they are in their gardens but nothing too bad.

Depends on the house and the neighbours.

Moving to a detached increases the probability that you won't get bothered by neighbour noise. But it is not a cast iron guarantee.

It's a bit like living in a cheap area and an expensive one. Y

Yes the probability is in the expensive one people will be better behaved. But that doesn't guarantee you won't end up with someone entitled with 3 massive barking dogs a fleet of poorly parked cars and a teenager that plays the drum kit in the summerhouse right next to your fence.

If you are really after quiet bungalows are probably the best thing to go for, in an area of bungalows. But again no guarantees.

After years of neighbours from hell we went detached. You can't control outside noise unless you live on acres of land, but not having anyone on our wall slamming doors, loud parties til early hours howling dog in and out, best thing we ever did.

I know some are lucky with neighbours but my experience and stories on here I wouldnt go back unless there was no other choice. It wrecked my mental health.

I am mid terraced and my adjoining neighbours are wonderful. I don't mind music and party type noise outside, but some do and a house a few doors down essentially live in their garden. It is loud a lot of the time. I just song along, but it does annoy another of my neighbours a lot. It's always a risk moving anywhere.

I've owned (over the last 35 years), one maisonette (block of four), one semidetached house, and two detached houses.

At the maisonette, I caught the Asian man downstairs stoning my cat for fun. When I reported him to the police he started threatening me and said he knew I was on my own.

My next (semi-detached) neighbour was a shift worker from Swindon. He used to scream and bang on the walls if my alarm clock went off (for three seconds) at 7am. He threw weeds and dog poo into my garden. One New Years Day I was sitting on my garden bench in the sunshine chatting quietly with a friend at 11am. He came storming out of his house and screamed that if we didn't shut the f**k up, he's set the house on fire. Luckily my friend was in the police so he soon shut him down, but advised me to move, because it wouldn't get any better.

Since then two detached houses in rural locations. Lovely sane normal neighbours who swap garden produce and lend tools.

And they wonder why older more vulnerable people don't want to give up their detached houses !! 🙄

My previous house was a big detached. The next door (detached and good 100 metres away) was an Air B&B. For some reason (well, because it was a very big house) it was always let to groups for things like hen and stag parties, big family get togethers etc, and at least once a month our very very quiet village would be disrupted by GIANT all-night parties with music played so loudly that even the far end of the village couldn't sleep. Screaming, people running down the road naked and drunk, fights, drunken barbecues until five in the morning...

Eventually the PCC had a word with the house owners and they stopped letting to groups and peace was restored.

Detatched but our gardens are joined in the same way many roads are. So you know when people are in their gardens.

We live next to the biggest/richest house on the street, and while it doesn't bother us, they have big parties, with loads of adults and kids, staff running their outside bar, and last time, 4 separate inflatables. But they don't bang out the music late and it's only maybe 6 times a year.

Do they give you a few days advanced warning? I think a bit of communication helps a lot.

Now I live in a pre-Victorian terrace (same village as previous Air B&B). The walls are two feet thick. I have to look outside to see if their car is there to check whether my neighbours are even in, can't hear a thing. So it's not just terrace v detached, it's the actual quality of the build.

I like the cut of your jib @ExitPursuedByABare

I do too.

Live in a semi... attached to the only assholes on our lovely street... I hate them and wish they would die move...

Neighbours can be a nightmare whether you live on a detached, semi or terrace, but a detached should at least remove the issue of noise and smells through party walls. Noisy gardens, access issues etc can happen regardless

We live in zone 4 London, there are loads of detached properties our way, but the gardens are adjoined. We’ve been told that terraced wall noise pale into significance compared to massive garden parties thrown every weekend, think swimming pool parties, DJs and fireworks being set off, pretty much all the way through summer. My main takeaway is that detached house people sure know how to party!

Why was it relevant the man was Asian?

Yes, the slamming of doors is a persistent wearing on your nerves and you end up with a dread of it happening and a dread feeling every time it does happen. Feeling trapped on the other side of a wall is horrible.

You can still have noises and nuisances even with acres of land if there is a barking dog two fields over. Many other hazards in the country from various activities but not much you can do about farm animals and machinery and there's always that threat that someone will start building something next to you or in front of your lovely view.

Wherever you live and no matter what type of house, you can be lucky or unlucky with next door. The other thing is that there is always a chance that it will change. Someone leaves and someone new moves in. Children grow up. People get old or die. Things don't stay the same forever. So there are no guarantees.

Very true that, well that's dashed my dreams of one day living on a farm with acres of land 😂 my luck I would end up with a noisy neighbour even then!

We put in for planning for an extension 5 or so years ago. Nothing major and we actually had 3 support letters from neighbours. We did however have one neighbour who objected, the letter the wrong to object was hilarious. Apparently our extension broke the Geneva Convention (basically the international rules of war!) It was really quite the read!

Shortly after planning was approved the decided to F.O so that was that.

Detached plus a restricted covenant to help enforce neighborly behavior. Absolute bliss.