Tell me about your nightmare detached neighbours

[AmpleTealWasp]

Hi
I live in a semi detached and neighbours are annoying noisy and i see on here people say they stretch themselves to afford a detached

is detached worth it or does anyone have nightmare neighbours whilst living in a detached id like to hear your nightmare detached house neighbour stories!

We're detached in a mews. Nightmare older couple who over the years fell out with everyone. Our washing lines were cut, verbal abuse to every family member including cat, piles of fag ends left outside our door etc etc.

Thankfully they eventually buggered off blaming everyone else.

So no, being detached doesn't save you from nightmare neighbours.

Your neighbours are your neighbours. You can be lucky or unlucky with what they do outside. The difference is, unless they are crazy loud, you can’t hear them through the walls.

I live in a detached house and can constantly hear my neighbours kids screaming, their dogs barking and the neighbour at the other side of the street has a dodgy car alarm that likes to go off in the middle of the night. We had none of this in our nice little semi detached house, it was a very sleepy street.

Detached is great in that there's none of that horrible invasive noise of other people's music or tv coming right through your walls, and you in turn can watch your own tv as loud as you like, but you need to select your house quite carefully nonetheless.

We were in a detached on a new build estate and it was screaming kids and footballs being booted nonstop for several months of the year. Back garden, front garden, playing on our drive, constantly pestering when their balls went into the back garden. It could admittedly have been a lot worse, there were no noisy adults, hot tubs or outdoor bars.

I'd definitely look at properties that are on a regular road not a quiet cul-de-sac so there's no risk of noisy children playing out, and preferably somewhere with front fencing and gates so your whole garden can be private and secured.

We lived in a detached but house very close to neighbours. Awful. They had their windows open all the time and could hear every word. They also kept asking for favours, just random bizarre things. Moved to another detached, much more distance away from nearest house and it's lovely. However when I win the lottery I'm going to buy an island just for me.

Our former neighbours were under the impression that we wanted to stare at them whenever we walked down the (public access ) lane which we use to access our house. He was charming and once said " I'll fuxking bury you if you look at my wife again".

We put an application in for planning consent and she got her mother - who doesn't live in this village - to write an objection.

Another neighbour once saw her toddler son was somehow up on a windowsill with that window open, she ran round to warm the mother and the mother was indifferent and rude about it.

The husband was a sweaty psycho and she was a spiteful, nasty piece of work.

Thank God they moved away.. everyone in our little run of houses raised a celebratory glass when they'd moved.

Hard to rename the house. It's Willow Cottage but we always called it Wankers Cottage..new neighbours are wonderful.

I'm so glad we are detached, we used to live in a semi with paper ghin walls, and the adjoining neighbour was our landladies husbands fucking boss!! Every bit of noise we got moaned at for. Got to the point we hated living there, the hypocritical twats had noisy gatherings of their own. We are now detached and can relax a bit more, we never hear or get heard unless any of us have a bbq

We trebled our monthly mortgage payment to buy a bigger detached house after years of noisy abusive neighbours.

Over 3 years it is simply the best thing we will ever have done for a better quality of life. Every day was a misery before and there hasn't been one day of angst since

When attached neighbours cause problems it feels very personal and it's hard not to spend your days anticipating trouble.

Of course we hear noise now but its everyday passing noise and it isn't our neighbours having a karaoke party at 2am

in a nutshell, no, there are too many variables, you can be in a detached and have shit, insufferable neighbours, as demonstrated by this thread.

we lived in a detached house many years ago, but it was part of what had once been a very grand Manor House. So we lived in a converted stable, and there was also a gatehouse etc etc as well as the main house.

all totally beautiful. All totally separate with separate, walled, private gardens.

however, there were some ancient rights of way and rights of access, and access rights to access septic tank etc. things that were only ever needed to be used / accessed once in a blue moon, or in some cases never. They were just old and still on the deeds, but very much irrelevant.

All the neighbours lived in harmony.

Except for one pair of absolute fuckers.

Elderly couple who had been there longer than everybody else and just ruined it for everybody.

there house was a disgrace. They had a lot of money but wouldn’t spend it. So they had single glazed windows held in their rotten frames with manky old putty and cracks in the glass with brown tape over them. Junk all over their garden.

Of course, they insisted on making use of all the old rights of access etc, even though they had absolutely no need to. Would walk past our windows staring in and stand in our garden for no reason.

Would come to our door ranting and raving about our cat killing birds which they were feeding ON THE GRASS in their garden (very rural location, so lots and lots of cats and wildlife about - the assumption that it was our cat was a bit of a leap).

They would invent problems with their house and try to pin them on us. Said we’d damaged the walls by driving too close to their house as we drove past on the road.

The list was endless and we eventually moved because of them.

Would wait until we had guests round in the garden and then come round and start complaining that their toilets were blocked and it was our fault as we were further up the drainage than them and basically just really embarrassing us (our drains weren’t even connected).

Big long rambling notes through the door sometimes weekly, moaning about total nonsense and asking what we were going to do about it.

Complained about being allergic to our dog! It somehow affected them even though we had separate houses and gardens and they were never within 15 foot of the dog. Apparently he shed a lot and it drifted all the way over to their house and garden. Constant requests for meetings about “what are we going to do about the dog situation”.

Loads and loads and loads of things.

The houses weren’t even close, they were a decent distance away, if they didn’t like us they could have just kept away.

but it wasn’t about that for them. They didn’t want to keep away. It was their entertainment. So if you get someone like that nearby, detached means nothing.

We had awful neighbours in a very small semi detached. We needed more room anyway when we had kids so we moved to a detached on a newbuild estate. Lovely house but the noise! Most houses had kids between 6 and 12, so they played out all the time. Footballs all over our front garden, banging all day long at weekends. Then our ndn got a puppy and they left it outside all day while they were at work (so it didn't chew the furniture) and it barked non-stop. It drove me crazy. I had a word and they apologised but said they couldn't do anything about it! Then the older children on the estate started bringing their friends from elsewhere to hang round in the evenings, so shouting and shrieking till about 10pm.
Eventually we moved to a big semi in an established road of older houses. Fabulous neighbours, we've had new neighbours on both sides too and they're lovely. Fingers crossed they stay!

Not sharing walls or floors/ceilings with other people is absolute bliss. You couldn’t pay me to live in a semi, or block of flats now.

Of course there will be things from other neighbours that annoy, but if I’m sitting in my house and can hear someone on the other side of the wall, all the time, then that’s going to impact my peace and quiet far more. And a barking dog two houses down bothers you if you live in a semi too.

That’s just the luck of the draw isn’t it? When I lived in a semi detached house, we had all of these thing happening too.

Semi detached with a lot of land space
Small cul de sac in a rural village
My neighbours (both sides) are elderly and very quiet - I dread this changing
I have lived here for 35+ years and they were both here before me
All other residents are on polite waving and nodding terms, no parking or noise issues
I hope I can stay here until I die - it’s so peaceful

You can have awful neighbours in a detached but it's still better than terraced or semi, in my experience. Had a nightmare time in terraced with loud music being played with low bass one side, anti-social behaviour of various kinds, including musical instrument noise, on the other. In a semi had noise coming through the wall.

Moved to detached: neighbours used to pump music out into the garden every Saturday. Then there was playing a keyboard accompanied by caterwauling singing; would scarcely have been heard if the caterwauler didn't open an outside door to let the sound invade the neighbourhood, specifically my house and garden. The Saturday pumped out music stopped after about three years and the keyboard + caterwauling after about five.

Different noises come and go over the years. Another thing used to be a milk van coming at an ungodly hour (5am) and stopping outside my house and walking down the road to a neighbour's. Used to rearrange and rattle the crates and along with the clinking of bottles. The neighbours moved and that stopped. Then there were skateboarders banging and clattering on and off the edge of the pavement. That stopped too at some point. A detached neighbour backing onto my back garden and back of house, used to arrive home and sit in the car for maybe a half an hour with amplified telephone conversation which used to invade not only my back garden but also my living room. These days there's a yelping dog somewhere in the background. I don't really know where it's coming from. A neighbour several doors away had a loud music party blaring all over the neighbourhood one Saturday recently but that's a one-off and not regular.

There's no guarantee with neighbours but if you're thinking of buying, don't be put off, even though I know the above sounds bad. You can always go and visit the location at different times of day and night and observe the noise level in the neighbourhood and the general atmosphere.

It's the neighbour we aren't semi detached with who is causing us problems.

There’s nothing worse (imo) than hearing people above, below or through walls.

We’re detached in a very old stone property and can’t hear anything outside as the walls are very thick. It’s bliss really, although I take it for granted now.

I would be very careful about moving to a terraced or semi detached property, and do as much research about the area and neighbours as I could.

We have a farm that surrounded one particular neighbour, they were crazy getting angry if we went in our own fields, at one point the woman accused DH of creating a new pond especially for me to encourage me to walk past their house… imagine such a romantic gesture!
Regular full nudity at their enormous windows.

It was a huge relief when they moved.

DM also in a detached farm house had neighbours on four boundaries trying land grabs, stealing garden items and underhand purchases when we had to sell up for care home fees.

Detached means nothing next to the wrong people.

We have a lovely detached house and we had lovely neighbours who sold their house as they wanted to live near to her elderly parents. We live in a lovely affluent area. House is now rented to council/housing association and tenants are terrible. 4 houses down there is a lovely spacious 5 bed house again rented to HS. I don't want to sound snobby but our road has changed so much this last year. As these houses are not owned the tenants don't care both are a total mess with loads of cars/motorbikes. Our neighbours don't work and people coming and going at all times of day. Our neighvours visited us the other day and are so upset at what has happened to their old house.

I don't want to say nightmare cause they are not. Let's just say kinda annoying. The youngest on the right loves to jump on the trampoline. with 8 of his friends at the same time. And screaming. Not like a excited kids' laughter and odd screech, animalistic screaming.

The one on the left also loved to trampoline. He was quiet but the squeaky noise up and down. For hours. Then he grew out if it and discovered basketball. Bouncebouncebounce.

A lot of the indoor noise from neighbours really depend on the building quality. My bf's terraced house you can hear a lot from the neighbours. In my flat you never hear anything, my bf is baffled how there is no traffic noise, no washing machine sounds, no music. Nothing. And I live in a "young" building in the cutting center and he lives in the village with older neighbours.

We live in the country and have a big garden with a small wood at the bottom. One neighbouring house is a tumbledown cottage which is rented out - seems to attract hippy types, many of whom only stay a few months. One the whole they are fine, though there have been 2 chimney fires there, a lady who used to practise meditative drumming in the garden, an escaped parrot, one tenant who made herself a hole through our fence so she could help herself to our tree branches for firewood... At the moment there are about 6 rusting cars in their garden (accumulated over the course of several tenancies) but the hedge is high so we don't have to look at them 😁

We did it, moved from a mortgage free semi with awful neighbours. Yes we have amortgage commitment now and yes, neighbours one side have yappy dogs and loud kids in the garden but my god, to not share any walls with anyone is a blessing. I never feel hemmed in and stuck with the house like before. No comparison when you've had neighbours like my old ones and now, no matter the circumstances, I can escape it.
worth every penny for us.

We lived in a detached house when children were little. A horrible unfriendly vibe to the neighbourhood. Now live in a village with a massive mixture of people. Happy and sociable.

We can't hear anything. Dogs, parties, silence. Outer London detached period. Biggest downside is also the upside - more space more to upkeep. No one on our street really sees or know each other.