to find this rude…

[curlygirlietwirly]

Our new neighbours have a child who my son plays with outside in the communal garden. Today the mum came to ask me something, my son opened the door (he’s almost 12) and shouted for me that Nadia (fake name) was at the door. By the time I’d got to the hallway, she was inside my home almost in my lounge!! She entered my home without being invited and I felt really uncomfortable, as I’ve only met her once before shortly after they moved in a few weeks ago…
Am I BU to find this rude???

If so, advice on how to tackle this!?!?

Yes this! It would be considered rude where I am to leave someone you do know on the doorstep and not invite them in!

Yes I find it rude. Some people have absolutely no boundaries though, you speak to them once and they think they are your best friend. She’ll probably start making herself a cup of tea next time.

The only people I would do this too are my immediate family and 2 best friends. I wouldn’t just waltz into a neighbours house unless I was very very close to them.

"Hello, person. Please wait here while I get my mum"

Practice this with your son if he is in the habit of answering doors (I mean, good for him, really, most kids would run a mile or ignore. So better to teach him confidently.)

She doesn't even know her.

She has met her briefly once... imagine thinking all your neighbors or any parents from your kids school should just be allowed to waltz into peoples houses because of that tenuous connection.

Did she push your son out of the way? Knock him down? If not, your son opened the door and invited her - an adult he knew - in. He's not a small child, but if you don't want him doing letting anyone into your home then don't let him answer the door. You're unreasonable.

I wouldn’t have come in unless invited, but I’d always invite someone in who was clearly making a social call & not trying to save my soul or sell me double glazing.

If the thought of a neighbour crossing your threshold makes you uncomfortable enough to tackle her, you need to go full Mumsnet and stop answering the door at all.

Get a chain on the Door ,so it can only be opened a couple of inches .tell your son ,to only open the door with the chain on ,and wait for you to come and remove the chain .

Your neighbour is a nosey article..she came in uninvited for a nose ..she only did that because your son answered,she would not over overstepped if an adult had answered the door