To think that women (or men) who drop their kids off at school in PJS, go shopping in Tesco in pj's and come down to the breakfast in a hotel in pj's are wrong in the head?

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I visited Amsterdam last year and was shocked to see an apparently middle class women coming down to breakfast in her pj's,dressing gown and slippers. Similarly going round Tescos where there are people, especially women in pj's and slippers. No doubt I'll be called an old right wing fascist or something.

Pyjamas are nightware. I have never seen a man out in PJs so I don't see why it is acceptable for women. It's just lazy and slovenly.

You should be grateful that you clearly have never had a disability or illness that means doing that bare minimum is 100% a flex.
I drove my childreb to work/college/day centre last week for the first time in 2 years. This has been a massive achievement for me that I often didn’t think I’d ever do again.

What is it teaching your child, especially a possible daughter, if their mum wouldn't go out without makeup and jewellery? Sounds very looks-conscious and a rather bad example, just of a different kind.

You keep repeating "it's an odd choice" but you have yet to explain what you think is wrong about people making choices that you find odd.

In an ostensibly free country, people should surely be free to be as harmlessly "odd" as they wish.

Because it is odd to actively choose to wear pyjamas, just as it would be odd to choose to wear a nightie or a onesie or a wetsuit or whatever.

Why.? Why is it odd?

Saying "but is IS" isn't a reason.

I expect better answers from my three year old than you give.

@ButteredRadishes I find it odd that some people choose to wear high heels. Why on earth would someone want to walk with their feet in an unnatural position?
Does their shoe choice affect me?
Do I care?
No to both.

Because odd means unusual ... It's an odd /unusual choice to go out in pyjamas, just as it's odd to go out in a tutu and vest...

So.... It is strange to actively choose to wear pyjamas as day clothes when out and about.

In your opinion.

You've been given lots of reasons why people will choose to and just continued to judge for no reason other than you don't like it.

I'm sure you do things that other people consider odd, let's hope you're lucky enough to people who are happy to just let you be you around you, rather than other people like you.

I've also seen more people out in tutu's than pjs, for some styles they're quite common, so I'm not sure you are the authority on what "odd" is.

Some children have disabilities. My child was in nappies the first year of school due to his diagnosed disability.

The blanket at cinema could be a weighted blanket due to sensory issues.

Also why do women have to wear makeup to look presentable and not men?

I agree with adults not wearing pjs outside but you just sound sexist and phobic to people with disabilities and mental health issues

How can you sit there and act like Hyacinth Bucket over people choosing to wear pj’s and then turn round and spell a basic word like Lidl wrong.

They are playing on the words Lidl and idle. More juvenile behaviour from the OP.

To the people commenting that they wear pyjamas to do school pick ups and to go to Asda ect., Do your children not say anything?
My son wouldn’t have been seen dead with me if I’d tried to walking in pyjamas outside.

Who's in charge, your or your son?

I’m struggling to believe that this whole post is actually real because it just comes across as being a massive troll post of all the things that they could’ve made a post about this is what they choose.

Totally agree, which is why I reported it a few days ago. As soon as the thread started, its unsavoury title was a giveaway.

I often go out in the garden in my nightie or dressing gown and I've even sat outside! The garden is overlooked but who cares? If something needs to go in the bin and I'm not dressed I put my dressing gown on and take it, it wouldn't occur to me to get dressed first! Presumably the OP would expect me to get dressed and put my make up and jewellery on first!

To be fair I wouldn’t knock about with someone who wore pyjamas to Sainsbury’s. It’s not about who is in charge, it’s lazy and embarrassing.
I can’t believe people argue to be honest, just put some day time clothes on.

If you've got your kid dictating what you wear, it's an issue. Different to not wanting to be seen with your mate in PJs. I do accept that PP might have just been using a throwaway term.

But it’s not always laziness. People with mental health problems have explained that getting up in the morning and getting to the shop is an achievement some days. I explained that PJ bottoms were the only comfortable clothes I had after surgery. Maybe try teaching your son not to judge other people

If you can put pyjamas on your can put clothes on, Jogging bottoms are day clothes so you are dressed appropriately.
I keep seeing videos all over social media at the moment where I hate to say it but it’s mums 99% of the time trying to normalise wearing pyjamas all day, not showering and getting there kids dressed all week or showing off their filthy homes all under the heading.. Dont judge me as a mum, I’m depressed ect.
I get people have there struggles but these children get one childhood and deserve better.
Ive had periods of depression and grief, I climbed back into to bed the second I’d dropped mine at school… fully washed and dressed. I was brought up by a woman who didn’t get help with mental health and that resulted in a shitty childhood where I never had clean clothes and lived in an embarrassing shit hole, children deserve more effort.

That's a terrible thing to go through, but let me ask you, do you think other people being judgemental arseholes helped in any way?

My mother was a stickler for us being turned out well, etc. 90% of it was fear of judgement. 'What will the neighbours think?' was her mantra, only to later tell me as a self-conscious teen that I cared too much what others thought.

But despite that adherence to propriety, she would have come down on me like a ton of bricks if I had commented on someone else's attire. Well-mannered people didn't remark upon other people. It was 'common' to do so.

Most children go through a phase of being embarrassed by their parents. Your son might also not be 'seen dead' with you in a bright shirt, or an outfit the other mums don't wear. If the 'norm' at drop off is jeans and T shirts, I suspect OPs kids might die of embarrassment at her wearing makeup and jewellery.

If I'd dared mention to my mother I wouldn't be seen dead with her in any outfit, I would have been walking.

I guess it’s a case of our different life experiences making us who we are. I’m one of those wouldn’t leave the house without makeup and nice hair types, it’s takes me an hour to get ready in the morning. I can accept people may be making comments about me, just like I do when I see people in Asdas wearing pyjamas. I don’t care though and will continue you to dress as I do, just as I accept the people on the school run in there dressing gowns don’t care about my opinion.
I don’t dress for other people though, I do it because it’s how I’m comfortable.

But why comment at all? If you know some people might comment about your attire and it might not only be negative, but also involve assumptions that couldn't be further from the truth, why wouldn't you think your assumptions about laziness, etc, might also be inaccurate.

You acknowledge that you dress for your own comfort. So do I. It's not pyjamas, but it's not makeup, etc. So my assumptions about other people are based on them doing as I do, only what makes them comfortable is different.

There's absolutely no need for me to attach value judgements. I'm in Sainsbury's to shop. So are they. What they wear has no bearing on the task at hand for me. It doesn't prevent me getting my groceries.

It might be human nature to judge, but it isn't something anybody should be proud of doing and it is something we can all decide not to do in situations involving complete strangers who aren't causing physical or mental harm to anyone else.

It's unpleasant and unnecessary and serves no useful purpose for anyone concerned.

Fair enough, I do only judge in the moment at the time in my head, I’d never say anything to anybody and I would not let my children be mean about anyone’s looks either. Like you said it probably is human nature to judge, no need to be mean though.