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If your head office is in the arse end of nowhere that’s not my problem

224 replies

Sagepage · 29/05/2025 11:10

I’m based in London, do a highly specialised job. I’ve been contacted by a recruiter about a new job, and it seems absolutely amazing. There aren’t many people working in this sector yet and I have been at it for 15 years.

The company want someone in the office 2 days a week, but their office is in the arse end of nowhere in Norfolk.

Now I’m happy to go into the office as a when needed. But if you are going to go for presenteeism and require people to be in regardless, AND want to start recruiting for specialised technical roles, having a head office in a small town 30 miles from Norwich and 100 miles from London is a bit fucking stupid.

The recruiter has phoned me twice asking me to reconsider the offer. But they won’t budge on the 2 days a week, and I am not up for uprooting the family.

It’s a shame as I really like the team and the job. But they just seem unrealistic. They can’t find anyone else apparently….but with that office location I am not surprised.

OP posts:
JustMeAndTheFish · 30/05/2025 19:32

My daughter works in a scientific job in the south east and has to be in the office for 20% of her time. She lives near enough to cycle in 3-4 days a week but her line manager lives in Dorset and does one week a month in the office. Could this work for you?

Lovemycat2023 · 30/05/2025 19:59

Agree that good connectivity, wherever the office is, is important. I think Norfolk has no motorways (the only county with none? Or maybe Suffolk too), and the roads are slow. Trains fine to Norwich but not great elsewhere. It can’t be good for visitors going for meetings either.

That doesn’t mean all offices need to be in the south east! In fact getting to York from London by train is quicker than many places in the south east.

Jabberwok · 30/05/2025 20:11

ilovesooty · 29/05/2025 12:26

Outside London needs growth and opportunities. If you don't want the job don't take it. I doubt you're the only person who can do it.

ETA it's in a small town, not "the arse end of nowhere". How dismissive you sound.

Edited

I'm from Bristol, live just outside and have never left...but it's a shite place to live! I know people rave about it but you have to travel outside the city for everything so I understand where the op is coming from. Aside from health care.

A medium sized band - you have to travel
A decent set of shops not just high street brands - travel
A theatre show apart from ex West end hits - travel
Decent art/classical music - travel

We have decent food offerings and a balloon fiesta but that's about it. Thankfully it's on 2 motorways and mainline rail

Remember the op.is up.routing her family, so if they stay say 10 years, the kids will have to move away for uni/work (please visit Cornwall and see how many kids move away).

there are no motorways if they want to visit family in Norfolk

maddening · 30/05/2025 22:08

Tbh this is what the job market is like for professionals that lives anywhere other than London- a great deal of the fucking jobs are in London - it is great to get opportunities outside of London.

Iceboy80 · 30/05/2025 23:03

Ok the jobs not for you so don't take it.

browneyes77 · 31/05/2025 00:10

I’m in a fully remote role

However I do have to go to our head office sometimes.

Our head office is in North Wales. I live in Birmingham. It’s a 200 mile round trip.

One of my colleagues lives in Norfolk. And has to travel to North Wales for meetings. So I’ve got it quite quite good compared to her. She also covers the London area so frequently has to travel to London from Norfolk.

You either want the job, or you don’t.

RareFatball · 31/05/2025 05:54

Sagepage · 29/05/2025 11:10

I’m based in London, do a highly specialised job. I’ve been contacted by a recruiter about a new job, and it seems absolutely amazing. There aren’t many people working in this sector yet and I have been at it for 15 years.

The company want someone in the office 2 days a week, but their office is in the arse end of nowhere in Norfolk.

Now I’m happy to go into the office as a when needed. But if you are going to go for presenteeism and require people to be in regardless, AND want to start recruiting for specialised technical roles, having a head office in a small town 30 miles from Norwich and 100 miles from London is a bit fucking stupid.

The recruiter has phoned me twice asking me to reconsider the offer. But they won’t budge on the 2 days a week, and I am not up for uprooting the family.

It’s a shame as I really like the team and the job. But they just seem unrealistic. They can’t find anyone else apparently….but with that office location I am not surprised.

Well of course the recruiter wants you to reconsider. They lose out on a placement fee if post is not filled.

TiswasPhantomFlanFlinger · 31/05/2025 09:04

rosemarble · 29/05/2025 13:06

I really want to know where it is!
I grew up near Norwich.
Is it in North Norfolk? 30 miles takes you into the sea if you go East. SE and S takes you info Suffolk or nearer to London.

The train takes about 1hr 45 from London so that's not too bad, but then the journal to North Norfolk (?) is another hour.
I suppose if you could do 2 days in the office and stay there overnight it would be doable.

My head office is in Hong Kong. Thankfully I don't have to go there often!

It’s probably somewhere such was Fakenham, Wells-next-the-Sea or Swaffham.

angela1952 · 31/05/2025 10:52

Sagepage · 29/05/2025 13:15

This is the thing. Once upon a time I would have. But employers loyalty only goes one way. The organisation has just gone through one round of redundancies and seen the need to branch out into this area. What happens in 2 years time when they decide it’s no longer a priority? Or if they can’t offer me career development?

I am then in a niche business area looking at having to move again.

It's always risky to take on a job like this, even more so if you decide to move house.

My DH's firm chose to move, admittedly not that far from London but a difficult car commute for many employees as the office wasn't close to a station. Many employees who lived on the wrong side of London moved to the area and were repaid by being made redundant a couple of years later. In some cases they had moved from more expensive housing areas and couldn't afford to move back.

DH and I decided not to move but he had to commute for well over an hour by car each way every day. A real slog but worth it in the end when they moved him back to a very small London office close to the HO.
Obviously WFH gives a different scenario, but you are quite right not to want to do it if it isn't necessary - why on earth do they keep contacting you?

angela1952 · 31/05/2025 11:01

AnonymousBleep · 29/05/2025 16:00

The two are linked - they're trying to recruit for a role they are struggling to fill because of their location. The recruiter and company are presumably feeding back to each other.

I agree with others saying jobs shouldn't be London-centric. BUT if you're in any kind of specialist industry, that makes it harder because you don't want to relocate for one employer who goes bust or makes you redundant a couple of years later, and then you're stuck in a part of the country where you can't find another job, with your kids settled in at school. You need to know you can find another job easily if you lose your current one, the job market being as volatile as it is and most employers being pretty ruthless in dumping staff who no longer serve them (the voice of experience here - I've been made redundant four times now). The London-centrism does exist for a reason.

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And if you relocate and then lose your job you've slipped behind on your house value and probably can't afford to pay London (or Greater London) house prices where many jobs still are based.

crumblingschools · 31/05/2025 11:07

Presenteeism pre COVID was called going to work!

angela1952 · 31/05/2025 11:10

Carrotsandgrapes · 29/05/2025 13:25

YANBU. It's great that companies want to base themselves outside major cities. One of the benefits of the move to more remote working is that companies like this can now have access to a much larger talent pool when recruiting. They don't have to just recruit from the local/commutable community - they can have their pick of people from across the UK.

So I just don't get companies who demand people come in for an arbitrary x days a week, just to show their face.

If that's what they want to do, fine. But it restricts their recruitment options.

I can never see myself relocating for a job. It's increasingly common for people to move jobs more often. (I'd say an average 2-3 years for me and my friends as we progressed up the career ladder). Who wants to relocate for work these days? You'd be moving all the time!

I hope you've made it clear why you've turned down the role. It may make them rethink their policy.

Edited

You've hit the nail on the head here. My DD also changes job every couple of years and always has good options when she wants to move on, but that is because she is based in London and there are so many jobs here.

Being stuck at the far side of Norfolk would reduce opportunities to almost zero for many people, which is why many would not consider moving there for a possibly insecure job.

Helen483 · 31/05/2025 15:38

Badbadbunny · 29/05/2025 12:18

YABU. More workers in the country live away from London and the SE, so having a head office in Norfolk is just an inconvenient for most as having a head office in London.

Seriously?!?
Have you even looked at transport options for getting to Norwich? And it's not even IN Norwich!

I agree that being too London centric is a national problem, but if a company insists on locating their head office in the wilds of Norfolk then they can expect problems finding skilled people who are willing to attend the office 2 days a week.

CleverButScatty · 31/05/2025 15:48

ForZanyAquaViewer · 29/05/2025 12:29

The issue is that most of the highly qualified, super specialised talent is generally located in or around the big cities, often London.

So, they can have their offices wherever they want. However, if they expect people to actually go to said offices twice a week (as opposed to working remotely), they will have a much harder time recruiting people if they’re based in a random little town (however picturesque). As evidenced by the fact that they’re still struggling to fill the role.

Unbelievable. Is this what some Londoners tell themselves about the rest of the UK outside one city?

I thought this was just a daft stereotype!

LakieLady · 31/05/2025 15:58

Badbadbunny · 29/05/2025 12:28

Yep, works the other way too. Lots of people in the regions can't accept London/SE jobs because they can't/won't relocate to London/SE.

Given the difference in house prices between London/SE and much of the rest of the country, I think that it's unaffordable for a lot of people, unless they're prepared to cram themselves into a shoebox.

A friend's parents were considering moving to the SE from a village in Yorkshire to be closer to their kids and GCs, but when they saw what they could buy here for the price of their lovely 4-bed detached period house, they soon changed their minds.

ForZanyAquaViewer · 31/05/2025 16:38

CleverButScatty · 31/05/2025 15:48

Unbelievable. Is this what some Londoners tell themselves about the rest of the UK outside one city?

I thought this was just a daft stereotype!

Edited

Everything in that comment is objective fact. There is peer reviewed published research on the ‘skills chasm’ between London and the rest of the country. I can provide links to the research, if you’d like? There’s also an article in the Financial Times that explains how this concentration of high-paying jobs in London limits opportunities elsewhere.

It’s not about Londoners ‘telling themselves’ anything. It’s the reality, regardless of how you feel about it.

CleverButScatty · 31/05/2025 17:11

ForZanyAquaViewer · 31/05/2025 16:38

Everything in that comment is objective fact. There is peer reviewed published research on the ‘skills chasm’ between London and the rest of the country. I can provide links to the research, if you’d like? There’s also an article in the Financial Times that explains how this concentration of high-paying jobs in London limits opportunities elsewhere.

It’s not about Londoners ‘telling themselves’ anything. It’s the reality, regardless of how you feel about it.

It's the capital city and of course there will be a disproportionate number of large, international companies having their head office there.
However the idea that a company is being a bit daft locating a head office outside London, because there is limited available 'talent' is laughable. There may be more experience, but that balance will easily redress if companies create opportunities elsewhere. The idea that all of the urban, suburban and rural areas outside of London are filled with unskilled, uneducated oiks, making recruitment impossible, is arrogant to say the least.

I do feel that there are wealthy and influential organisations and individuals, who benefit to the tune of billions from the inflated property prices and cost of living etc in London, who have a vested interest in maintaining the idea that companies and individuals must be located in London to be successful/globally focused/talented/finger on the pulse etc. It is high time companies and individuals do challenge that perception and stop being manipulated by parties profiting from this.

TunnocksOrDeath · 31/05/2025 17:25

MaidOfSteel · 29/05/2025 13:47

I find your description of anywhere that is not London as ‘the arse end of nowhere’ quite offensive.

That not actually what the OP said though. The role is in a location 30 miles from the nearest big town.
Compared with many other towns and cities in the UK, and even within Norfolk, that is the arse end of nowhere.

eastegg · 31/05/2025 17:53

IcedPurple · 29/05/2025 12:52

She could stay in the Norfolk Travel Tavern.

I hear it's equidistant between London and Norwich. That's the genius of its location.

Or perhaps in a static home?

ForZanyAquaViewer · 31/05/2025 18:51

CleverButScatty · 31/05/2025 17:11

It's the capital city and of course there will be a disproportionate number of large, international companies having their head office there.
However the idea that a company is being a bit daft locating a head office outside London, because there is limited available 'talent' is laughable. There may be more experience, but that balance will easily redress if companies create opportunities elsewhere. The idea that all of the urban, suburban and rural areas outside of London are filled with unskilled, uneducated oiks, making recruitment impossible, is arrogant to say the least.

I do feel that there are wealthy and influential organisations and individuals, who benefit to the tune of billions from the inflated property prices and cost of living etc in London, who have a vested interest in maintaining the idea that companies and individuals must be located in London to be successful/globally focused/talented/finger on the pulse etc. It is high time companies and individuals do challenge that perception and stop being manipulated by parties profiting from this.

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The idea that all of the urban, suburban and rural areas outside of London are filled with unskilled, uneducated oiks, making recruitment impossible, is arrogant to say the least.

Indeed. Which is why that’s not what I said. I said that most of the highly qualified, super specialised talent is generally located in or around the big cities, often London.

However the idea that a company is being a bit daft locating a head office outside London, because there is limited available 'talent' is laughable

Didn't say this, either. I said that if they were based outside London and refused to let people work remotely, they would have a much harder time recruiting.

Again, it’s not ‘perception’. There is actual academic research to back up every single word I’ve written. I’ve offered to provide links if you want to read it.

If you choose to disregard that, because you don’t like it, then that’s nothing to do with me.

LakieLady · 31/05/2025 19:20

rosemarble · 29/05/2025 17:39

I'm pretty sure it does not mean either of those places. The indication is that OP would need to travel 30 miles FURTHER than Norwich, not go back on herself to Thetford, or into Suffolk (Bury St Edmunds). BSE is about 40 miles from the M11.

It's a quick 40 miles though, dual carriageway most of the way. It's not like being 40 miles from the M23 in Sussex, where the roads are shite. It once took me 2.5 hours to do 44 miles home after a work thing, no crashes or anything, just normal for a rainy evening in Sussex.

But the OP doesn't want to go there anyway, and the recruiter needs to stop hassling her if they can't get the company to budge on the office time.

Sadworld23 · 31/05/2025 20:58

Go for the interview.
Liaise direct with the company.
Negotiate 4 days a month staying in a nearby hotel.

Take the job or forever wondet.

AmIEnough · 01/06/2025 09:02

Stand your ground, if they can’t find someone suitable, they may eventually relax their rules on this and then you are most definitely in the driving seat. Best of luck

EleanorReally · 01/06/2025 09:05

just dont respond to them,
sounds crazy

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