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Why does the UN and other organisations not do anything about women in Afghanistan?

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SCANDEL0US · 28/05/2025 22:01

i just don’t understand, how can it be okay to stop someone from having an education, from speaking, from going out . Why is nobody doing anything, is it because it’s in the name of religion?

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SerendipityJane · 29/05/2025 10:08

SCANDEL0US · 28/05/2025 22:01

i just don’t understand, how can it be okay to stop someone from having an education, from speaking, from going out . Why is nobody doing anything, is it because it’s in the name of religion?

It's very simple.

Interfering in other countries affairs is guaranteed to go wrong.

Complete answer.

1dayatatime · 29/05/2025 10:09

@Whammyyammy

"Ablondiebutagoody
You mean something like sacrifice thousands of people and spend billions of dollars to occupy the country and create some kind of western democracy? That should work."

"This. And then receive negativity for sticking our nose "

Absolutely- it seems that those that were so critical of Western troops being in Afghanistan and trying to improve the lives of ordinary Afghans are now wringing their hands at the plight of Afghan women.

StandFirm · 29/05/2025 10:12

SCANDEL0US · 28/05/2025 22:01

i just don’t understand, how can it be okay to stop someone from having an education, from speaking, from going out . Why is nobody doing anything, is it because it’s in the name of religion?

It is tragic. Always has been. The US has a lot to answer for on this. Trump basically did a deal with the Taliban towards the end of his first term but Biden was the one to follow through on the disgraceful withdrawal from the country. Whether or not their presence was right, the way they left was beyond chaotic and in my view pretty unforgivable. The Afghan army could not even fight back because the sting in the tail is that US equipment can only be serviced by US contractors - so lots of planes and other stuff were useless. Taliban marched in and the rest is history (or rather current affairs as it's very much ongoing). To make matters even worse, Trump 2.0 happened and guess what? He's crippled or completely cancelled international development aid (when he killed off USAid) which is having a DISASTROUS impact on organisations trying to help women in Afghanistan. So, yes, thank the orange wonder for this sad state of affairs. For him though women are worthless so I wouldn't hold my breath that anything will improve any time soon. Other countries may try and help but it's all pretty toothless without the juggernaut that the US used to be.

1dayatatime · 29/05/2025 10:12

@Bigearringsbigsmile

"Because there is nothing we can do.
Literally. "

It's been said that the only thing Afghans like more than fighting and killing each other is fighting and killing foreigners in their country.

Honestly it's just one of those places in the world that should be marked on maps with "here be dragons" and avoided.

LeftieRightsHoarder · 29/05/2025 10:14

Never2many · 29/05/2025 00:05

If the women of Afghanistan want things to change then it is them who need to stand up against these regimes and they’re not.

Change can only come from within. Women’s rights here and elsewhere haven’t been won by foreign invasions, they’ve been won through the women in question standing up against them.

Yes, of course, when it’s a question of women with basic human rights striving for something nearer equal rights, eg suffragettes.

But in countries where women haven’t even basic rights, how the hell do they rise up against their oppressors?

How do you organise when you’re not allowed out of the house, let alone go to a meeting? When your owner may not even allow you the use of a phone? When he’s allowed to beat you up, and even if he kills you he’ll probably get away with it?

All civilised countries should take what action they can.

StandFirm · 29/05/2025 10:15

The world does not care enough about women. Never has never will.

Moonmelodies · 29/05/2025 10:19

Perhaps the women there like it that way. Not everyone shares western ideals.

Dangermoo · 29/05/2025 10:20

Nameychangington · 29/05/2025 08:10

Oh and WRN hold silent vigils in many towns if women want to show their support for the women of Afghanistan.

Sometimes TRA local councillors come and shout at them that they're Nazis while they do it : <a class="break-all" href="https://archive.ph/2025.02.11-071036/www.edp24.co.uk/news/24923415.norwich-green-councillor-accused-calling-women-nazis" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://archive.ph/2025.02.11-071036/www.edp24.co.uk/news/24923415.norwich-green-councillor-accused-calling-women-nazi

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A Green councillor has been accused of calling a group of women holding a silent vigil for Afghan women and children "Nazis".
Charlie Caine, a member of Norwich City Council, is said to have launched the verbal attack on the event outside the Forum.
The vigil was organised by the Norwich Women's Rights Group and Women's Rights Network (WRN) Norfolk, which have previously raised concerns about the impact of gender ideology on women and girls.
The councillor, who is a transman - the term for someone born female but who identifies as a man - is accused of shouting at the gathering, calling those assembled "Nazis" and "transphobes".
The organisers of the event say some of those present were Jewish and have described the councillor's actions as "unhinged".
They have lodged formal complaints with Norwich Green group and the city council, which says it is investigating.
The vigil was hosted in Norwich city centre
The vigil was hosted in Norwich city centre (Image: Norwich Women's Rights Group)
Norwich Women's Rights Group and WRN Norfolk have organised two vigils in the city in response to the Taliban enforcing ever tighter restrictions for women in Afghanistan.
It stressed the events are organised without any political party affiliations and are open to women of any religion or none.
The groups - which are known for their gender-critical views and defence of the importance of biological sex - claim they were "abused and verbally harassed" during the most recent 30-minute-long vigil, which was held on February 1.
There was another vigil in December
There was another vigil in December (Image: Norwich Women's Rights Group)
Sarah Walker, a member of the group, said: “As soon as I announced our vigil we were approached by Green Party city councillor for Mile Cross, Charlie Caine, who stood on the library steps above us and screamed abuse, yelling as loud as possible that we were 'transphobes' and 'Nazis' and looking around at passersby as if trying to rouse them to join in abusing and harassing us. It was quite extraordinary.”
Liz Wills, a WRN co-ordinator, said “It’s worth stressing that this situation had nothing to do with trans issues.
"The women who turned up, including the Muslim women, were there solely to support Afghan women who are actually the most oppressed group in the world.
"This cannot be dismissed as a battle of rights, it was abuse, harassment and public disorder.”
Nathalie Kail, a local member of the Women’s Rights Network, said: “I don’t take lightly being targeted and called a Nazi, especially in view of my husband’s Jewish heritage and family background: his grandparents’ side of the family were exterminated by the Nazis."
Ms Walker added: “I’m old enough to have known people who suffered under the Nazis and under the fascist regimes in Italy and Spain.
"The woman next to me’s grandfather was murdered by Spanish fascists, another is someone Caine well knows is Jewish.
She added: "'Nazi' has a very specific meaning and it’s a horrendous one, not to be used as a kind of playground insult to harass and intimidate women exercising our right to peaceful protest.
"It is particularly offensive that councillor Caine knew that several of us present were Jewish and left wing, having known us in local politics over many years."
The councillor has previously clashed with the group after attending a counter protest at a women's event outside City Hall.
The Let Women Speak rally last summer was designed to promote free speech and provide a platform to defend women's sex-based rights, which they say are threatened by trans ideology.
The Green activist joined a rival demonstration, during which the crowd shouted "trans rights are human rights", "we just want to survive", "shame on you" and "fascists go home".
The councillor and the Norwich Green party have declined to comment on the latest accusations.
A spokesman for Norwich City Council said: “We have received complaints about councillor Caine which our monitoring officer is currently investigating”.

Edited

How on earth is Caine still a Councillor? Shocking.

StandFirm · 29/05/2025 10:20

Moonmelodies · 29/05/2025 10:19

Perhaps the women there like it that way. Not everyone shares western ideals.

Oh come on!
They are not even allowed to speak in public anymore! Have you ever read memoirs of Afghan women during the first Taliban regime? It was horrendous and I guarantee you that saying perhaps they like it is akin to telling a raped woman that deep down she wanted it.

JHound · 29/05/2025 10:20

SCANDEL0US · 28/05/2025 22:01

i just don’t understand, how can it be okay to stop someone from having an education, from speaking, from going out . Why is nobody doing anything, is it because it’s in the name of religion?

It shouldn’t be a surprise. The position of women in a large number (most?) countries is shit and little is done.

Nothing to do with religion.

Also in terms of grassroots activism - it’s not even like they have any kind of market or influence to boycott. If it was a wealthier country it would be easier and have more focus.

As it is, it has none.

HRTQueen · 29/05/2025 10:26

They tried and it was so corrupt that it fell apart and the decision was made to just let them get on with it

Utterly shameful

Fearfulsaints · 29/05/2025 10:27

Moonmelodies · 29/05/2025 10:19

Perhaps the women there like it that way. Not everyone shares western ideals.

They like not being able to access medical care? Seriously.

Badh · 29/05/2025 10:32

I wouldn’t say they have done nothing. It’s just looking like they did the wrong thing. Even after the debacle of leaving Afghanistan. The Taliban isn’t a recognised government. There are travel bans on top officials and sanctions. This aimed to put pressure on them.

It’s just looking more and more like they should have maintained a dialogue with the Taliban, if you’re not talking you have no influence.

zippertydooda · 29/05/2025 10:38

Because it's not just in Afghanistan it's common
This French TV producer sees women in Algeria veiled and only allowed to see out of one eye
.Link

https://x.com/i/status/1927220578802381064

SerendipityJane · 29/05/2025 10:38

1dayatatime · 29/05/2025 10:12

@Bigearringsbigsmile

"Because there is nothing we can do.
Literally. "

It's been said that the only thing Afghans like more than fighting and killing each other is fighting and killing foreigners in their country.

Honestly it's just one of those places in the world that should be marked on maps with "here be dragons" and avoided.

That's not true. It's not a magic kingdom or any nonsense like that unless you aren't a grown up.

It's simply that the bloodshed need to occupy and maintain occupation over many many generations isn't something we - or any other country - are prepared to invest.

Badh · 29/05/2025 10:44

minnienono · 29/05/2025 08:31

What others said. You cannot force change on a people who are so stuck in the past, the dark ages. It’s not to do with religion, it’s cultural. Go to the national memorial arboretum and you can see a list of British (and others) men and women who made the ultimate sacrifice to change Afghanistan, it failed. I do think any Afghan woman who manages to leave should be granted asylum

There are also lots of Afghan men and women who worked with the US and Britain to change Afghanistan. As well as numerous activists and journalists who have been well and truly crushed.

https://www.hrw.org/news/2023/11/30/womens-rights-activists-under-attack-afghanistan

Women gather to demand their rights under Taliban rule during a protest in Kabul, Afghanistan, September 3, 2021.

Women’s Rights Activists Under Attack in Afghanistan

Since the Taliban regained control of Afghanistan, they have detained a steady flow of women, silencing them and terrorizing their families.

https://www.hrw.org/news/2023/11/30/womens-rights-activists-under-attack-afghanistan

JHound · 29/05/2025 10:50

zippertydooda · 29/05/2025 10:38

Because it's not just in Afghanistan it's common
This French TV producer sees women in Algeria veiled and only allowed to see out of one eye
.Link

Algeria, even in that clip is very diverse in how women dress. It’s not like Afghanistan with rules of the country imposing those on women.

I have been to Algeria for work and the women at the work site had a variety of dress.

HonoriaBulstrode · 29/05/2025 11:01

All civilised countries should take what action they can.

Such as?

Badh · 29/05/2025 11:03

zippertydooda · 29/05/2025 10:38

Because it's not just in Afghanistan it's common
This French TV producer sees women in Algeria veiled and only allowed to see out of one eye
.Link

Even covering your face in Algeria isn’t very common. There is a law against women covering their face for civil servants at work.

It’s a very different situation to Afghanistan where legally women have basically been made invisible. They can’t even sing inside their own house if there is a danger they could be heard by a man outside.

Puzzledandpissedoff · 29/05/2025 11:11

Octavia64 · 28/05/2025 22:40

Multiple countries have invaded Afghanistan (including Britain) in the last 200 years and tried to drag them into this millennium (I was going to say century). The Russians tried it, we tried it, the Americans tried it.

no-one can hold it. The afghans fight each invader and eventually their population/politicuans get fed up with British/Russian/Americans being killed to keep a foreign puppet regime in power.

nobody thinks it’s ok. But nobody wants to sacrifice the lives that it would take. And it would take a lot of lives.

This

We can all be sorry that the place has been turned into a hellhole, but that's what the male half of the population largely support, and within that culture men expect to drive things so if they want a change that's for their own society to sort out

helpfulperson · 29/05/2025 11:14

OchonAgusOchonOh · 29/05/2025 08:50

Afghan women had the vote before American women so it's not simply "culture".

One of the main reasons the taliban is in power is due to the support they were given by the US, UK and others when Russia invaded. When the soviet backed government fell, the taliban was able to rise to power, partly due to the huge levels of external support they had received.

But South Africa wanted to interact and trade with the rest of the world so there were sanctions that the international community could impose. But Afghanistan doesn't export anything as far as I'm aware and I suspect imports very little. And doesn't want anything to do with outsiders.

Dangermoo · 29/05/2025 11:15

Until civilised countries criticise the backwards religion, the less they can have a say. Until then it's all mouth. Nobody clutching their pearls on here is going to make a difference, especially when you refuse to condemn something, consistently.

ExpressCheckout · 29/05/2025 11:21

I'd love Afghanistan to join the 21st century and for all people, including women and girls, to live freely and without fear. My fear is that in doing so it would become like Saudi Arabia, pretending to be in the 21st century but stuck in a brutal medieval time-warp.

IReallyLoveItHere · 29/05/2025 11:23

The men in that country would need to object to the treatment of women, but they don't.

We could invade and occupy. It doesn't tend to work there could be sanctions but I doubt there'd be much support for that.

I do think though that if a country was treating another persecuted minority in this way (black, gay, etc) there would be greater outcry.

Buffypaws · 29/05/2025 11:23

The men in Afghanistan aren’t necessarily any happier than the women. Government employees aren’t paid for months at a time. They can’t dress how they want either. But they don’t rise up because the tolls of war have already been enormous. There are so many widows with nothing in a worsening economic crisis and they don’t want to make more. It is important to keep trying because that’s what many of the women and girls in Afghanistan want. Even though some people feel it is pointless. But there’s nothing worse is there than a complete absence of any hope?