Over 50s. Have you outgrown/got bored of anything?

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Mine is spas or spa days. I used to love them. Went to one recently and was so bored.

Dh and I camped (tent) recently and the place was so peaceful and beautiful I realised I enjoyed this much more than spa days or stays. The weather was good admittedly. But even so walking in the beautiful dales was so therapeutic. Also the wild swimming under waterfalls was blissful. Dh and I often camp but have found the best site. Cost less than £60 Inc electric hook up. First time we've used electric.

Dh and I walk lots. Loads of long distance walking. I also walk with friends. So it isn't a new realisation that I love the outdoors. Just a sudden realisation that spa days bore me now.

Have you outgrown anything? Or found a new love of something?

I would say my friendships are more authentic now. I don't bother with those who I don't feel a good rapport with. I trust my very close friends. Also have some I socialise with and we have a great time. No jealousy or bitchiness. I work with some bitchy people but thankfully most of them are OK.

So I've backed away from 'friends ' who are flaky etc.

@HRTQueen - I was thinking the other day how much more content I have been recently. Some of that is down to fortunate circumstance but I think a lot of it is because of attitude changes (mine).

I rarely have FOMO or envy these days and, like many posters on here, I don't do things, or spend time with people, that I don't genuinely like. My tastes, ambitions and expectations are also more modest now - so more easily and likely achieved.

The world of work seems a lot more effort now. When I started the CV didn't really exist. You filled in an application form and they gave you a job. If you wanted to move you got a transfer. Now you have to apply for a new 'role' and it's hard. Appraisals were something that your manager wrote and you just signed it (when agreed). Now it's like re-applying for your job every year. Development plans...targets...ugh...

@beguilingeyes totally agree. I hate all the performance & development crap, giving feed back, we are expecting to be continuously 'reaching up' to the next level above, SMART goals/objectives, ensuring all the team get equal opportunities/exposure/fairness, dealing with MH issues, being assessed against performance AND behaviours, promotion used to be given to you if you deserved it, now you have to formally apply for it and go through a whole process inc an interview where you are assessed and marked. SMART written responses needed on all applications at work, with worked examples to support blah blah blah

I would happily quit work and spend my day time running the house, cooking, making the house look nice and DIY.. in-between running/walking miles every day.

Alcohol, pubbing and clubbing.
Still like to go out for food and to the cinema etc, but the idea of a nightclub these days makes me instantly long for my pyjamas.

I sometimes like the idea of clubbing or a loud pub .. I'll get dressed up, get to the club/pub, spend an hour there and then realise how shit it is with pissed up people stepping on my feet, spilling drinks down my back as they push past me, dirty toilets, idiots, loud, crowded, standing all night, cant get to the bar, can't have a conversation and then I am ready to leave and regret wasting my time getting ready.

Buying stuff for the house. I used to be so concerned about having a beautiful house, with pretty cushions, flowers, throws etc. Now I just can’t be arsed caring about it. I shudder at the drawers full of decorative shite that I have collected. I am having fun chucking it all into bin bags and donating. My idea of aesthetic is an empty drawer.

Shopping as a recreational activity
Most social occasions
Dressing up
Dining out
Sex
London (and other big cities) unless in very short doses

I used to love shopping as a leisure activity, @Sossijiz - but that is definitely a thing of the past now. Partly it’s due to disability/mobility issues and long COVID exhaustion, but partly it’s just that I can’t see the need for any more stuff, and wandering round the shops always led to me buying things I didn’t really need. Of course this never applied to purchases in book shops or craft stores - I do miss them, a bit!

Well…shopping, pubs, clubs, drinking culture generally, any very noisy/busy places especially parties and parades and one sided friendships.

but mainly I think these are all things I never really liked and the main thing I have outgrown is giving a shit what other people think of me.

So now I go my own way, do my own thing and am (I suppose) slightly odd but I don’t care as long as I’m not hurting anybody.

Agree with so much of this
Have outgrown:
High heels
High maintenance hair
Running races (half marathons, 10ks)
Alcohol

Have rediscovered a love of dogs, like growing my own fruit and veg and want to keep chickens.
prefer reading non- fiction
(Still like DH)
Probably happier?

I agree, I have dreaded the last few salon visits mainly due to my dislike of sitting waiting for my colour to develop and doing nothing when I could be doing something useful. I also dislike having to listen to bitchy conversations going on around me from women moaning constantly about their children/female friends and boyfriends. Plus the dread of knowing that in 6 weeks I will have to do it all over again so I'm also in the middle of letting my colour grow out revealing my natural dark/grey hair, it's actually quite liberating!

Going out for drinks and a dance. I'd actually really like to be able to do it but my body won't tolerate alcohol any more.

I've always hated shopping, spa days, hairdressers.

Outgrown afternoon tea. Used to love it. Dietary issues and the feel that I'm.being ripped off mean it's a no no now.

I've not ironed for 15 years 😁

Oh I don't know the last time Ironed I purposely buy clothes that won't need ironed, if I need something ironed Dh does it,

Glad other women hate hairdressers too. Only thing I like about it is having my hair washed, that's soothing. I hate the 'who normally does your hair' shit. I really envy men with barbers where you just walk in to any one, anywhere and don't have to have been part of a clientele since 1998.

I had some delicious mocktails recently as often just don't fancy a drink. One had cucumber lemon and mint. Can't remember the name of it? Quite like 0% Guinness too. There's so much choice for non drinkers now.

Just looked at the menu. It's cucumber cooler. Cucumber, Mint, Lime, Apple, Soda, Garam Masala. It was so delicious.

Just tell them you don’t want to talk! I like my longtime hairdresser, but I often tell her I’m just going to read, and she only asks questions if necessary. It’s perfectly pleasant. I’m sure she’s relieved not to have to make small talk.

Dh and I cut my hair. I taught him how to do the back. I was a hairdresser for years. I got sick of them not doing it right.

Lots that people have already covered.

I CBA with going out at night, and always try to get a matinee performance for any theatre show or film at the cinema.

I dislike going out with big groups at the pub at night. I have turned down 2 hen parties in the past year and a half, where a group of women (15-20 or so of them) were all going to pub crawl for 3 hours, and then go to a nightclub til 3am. No thanks. I'm in my mid 50s not my mid 20s.

Going abroad. I reeeeeealllly want to go somewhere wonderful (haven't been abroad since 2018) but it all seems like too much effort. Closest airport is 40 mile away, and we would need a taxi to get to it as public transport is non existent near me. (No train station for 15 miles, and even then it would take 90 minutes to get to the airport with the changes.) And I am worried about strikes, bad weather, shit happening that gets the planes massively delayed or cancelled, and we end up being stuck for days at the airport/in another country.

Sex. CBA. Used to love it pre age 50. DH feels the same fortunately. I am really baffled when I hear of people 55, 60, 65+ going at it. I literally CBA! 😆

Children. Love my own adult children. Really can't stand young children anymore. I have zero tolerance for them. Several of the families in my street have children who are a PITA, and out of control, and the parents don't give a shit where they are as long as they're not under their feet. Can't stand the squealing and screaming that comes from them either. I have 2 adult DC (late 20s) and they have no children (and no plans to have any anytime soon,) and I am in no hurry to have grandchildren. (Though I'm sure I'll love them if/when I do have them...)

Having people around. Right up to my early to mid 40s I used to have visitors once or twice a week (family/colleagues/neighbours/friends.) And there was always friends of my DC around. (3-4 times a week.) Had a houseful of people quite often. Now I HATE having people in, and much prefer to just meet them for a coffee out, or pop to theirs. I can control how long I spend with them then. I had a bellyful of people coming at say, midday, and overstaying their welcome, and still being here at 8pm 😴 Why do people have to stay so long?! I just get stressed out now at the thought of people coming to visit. I am only OK with my adult DC coming. Fortunately my social circle and extended family is much smaller than it was when I was in my teens/20s/30s/early 40s. (Mid 50s now.) So there's not that many people to see. 😄

DH loves Bob Dylan, goes on his own, Dylan usually comes on at 7.30, and is finished by 9.30. Still not bad at his age, he turned 84 last week and still touring,

I seem to have gone off TV! I watch a couple of programmes I really like (on the BBC, traitors, strictly, have I got news for you)

im thinking of stopping my Netflix subscription as seems a waste! Im enjoying YouTube, podcasts way more.