Over 50s. Have you outgrown/got bored of anything?

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Mine is spas or spa days. I used to love them. Went to one recently and was so bored.

Dh and I camped (tent) recently and the place was so peaceful and beautiful I realised I enjoyed this much more than spa days or stays. The weather was good admittedly. But even so walking in the beautiful dales was so therapeutic. Also the wild swimming under waterfalls was blissful. Dh and I often camp but have found the best site. Cost less than £60 Inc electric hook up. First time we've used electric.

Dh and I walk lots. Loads of long distance walking. I also walk with friends. So it isn't a new realisation that I love the outdoors. Just a sudden realisation that spa days bore me now.

Have you outgrown anything? Or found a new love of something?

I do lots. Am always out or away. Just not keen on spa days now. Prefer more adventurous breaks and hiking.
When young it was all clubbing.

I'm out today and tomorrow night. Working all weekend though but I enjoy that most of the time.

I think a lot posting probably feel freer now.

Yes, I think this is me, too. Not necessarily the clubbing, as I’m still in mourning for ‘our’ legendary club, which was demolished (for a car park), but I’m doing more different things, travelling more, making more friends, making a garden, renovating a house, trying more new stuff. Weird therapy. Campaigning. Volunteering. Going to festivals. I’m 52. There’s a lot more life, and I’m not going to waste a minute,

It's taken a long time to get here but it is possible. 😊

I wonder if where you sit on the don't want to waste a minute vs can't be arsed to do that anymore continuum depends on where you also sit on the introversion/extroversion continuum.

I think many of us introverts often had to 'mask' as extroverts to fit in when we were younger and so appeared more outgoing than we probably were. I also think that we become more true to ourselves as we get older.

Now that we're empty nesters, post-menopausal, approaching retirement or already retired, we've reached the d.g.a.f. stage and just want to be who we are without having to explain ourselves to anyone else.

Work. I’m so over it.

Haven’t done any ironing for at least 5 years now. None of us do. Always look ok.

I’ve outgrown friends who create drama, camping (having loved it all my life) and rollercoasters. I have friends who still want to spend weekends at Alton Towers despite our kids having grown up, but I’m really done with queuing for hours in the rain for 90 seconds of nausea inducing ‘fun’.

I’ve had to accept that despite my optimism there are things I just cannot do. Anything that involves boats will make me sick. I now know not to even try Dh and teens love hiring boats on holiday despite wanting to go with them I now sit out otherwise I end up spoiling it for everyone and feeling awful.

this absolutely

Men, frenemies, wasting my time , pretending to be sweeter/ nicer/ more polite than I am, social drinking, politics. I’m more authentic , self assured and content now

@TheaBrandt1 yep I get that - I’m also the same about anything theme park ish involving rides.

I don't think I've necessarily grown out of things, really. I think I never really like most of it in the first place but have just gone along to fit in.

I always hated works dos and I remember vividly never, ever wanting to go home after a day at work and then having to get redressed to go back out again.

I'm just now realising I don't really care, and some of my happiest times have been/are when I am on my own. I've never really enjoyed going out a lot and now am more selective about it.

We're in good company, though. When asked what advice she would give to her younger self, Liz Hurley said something like 'Don't go out!' That she used to be out all the time and now not so much and she's happier for it.

Oh God no. I rarely iron. I remember ironing something when away with dh and dcs. Dc1 was 3 ish. He said what you doing mammy? I said this is ironing 😂
I did do school uniforms when they were older.
Adults now. Ds1 once asked me to iron a shirt when he was a teen. I said I'll show you once how to do it then it's up to you. Give him and ds2 their due they do their own.

Agreed. I hate bridges but I work in an office with floor to ceiling windows and I can work right next to them with no problems at all.

Edited: we are 6 floors up, not on the ground floor ;)

I did realise this week that a lot of the limitations I place on myself is because I don't like long distance driving and if I was happy to leap in the car and drive a couple of hundred miles somewhere, I'd do much more and would have done much more during my life.

I'm not keen either. Dh loves driving. I prefer train travel.

I’d definitely agree with work. After doing well (especially for my background), I simply and genuinely can’t be arsed. Which is a problem because my job needs commitment and enthusiasm. 🙁
Due to getting equally pissed off with XDH and subsequent ££££ divorce , I’m stuck 🙁🙁

as per a previous poster up thread:

cheap shoes/clothes/bags
cheap food
cheap hotels

Plus:

ASDA - our local one is full of the dregs of the town
Likewise Iceland supermarket and the food hall type shops they have
Costume jewellery
Night clubs
Busy/noisy pubs - I need a seat at a table all night
Pub crawls - no thank you
Socialising too much - I need a lot of down time these days
Working - I am too young to retire but I am fed up of playing the game, HR policies/rules/bullshit, managing people, turning up every day (even if that is when WFH some days) and acting like I give a shit. I am only there for the money, end of.
A traditional Christmas - I would prefer to go on holiday for the Christmas period and new years, the holiday would be the children's Christmas gifts. But I have other immediate family to consider, and because of that we cannot go away.

I now prefer to just be at home. We have a huge mortgage, I want to be able to enjoy what we are paying for. I have found a new passion for walking/running and enjoy taking myself off across the countryside for 10 miles or so. I have 2 friends who I meet for dinner in a pub - we have a table all night, we can actually hear each other for a conversation, there are no dramas or awkward put-on-the-spot-type expectations for anything. It is always a lovely evening and we are never past 10.30pm.

Reading through the thread I am nodding to a lot of the replies, I am sure there will be more to add to my list as the thread goes on !

@coldanddark I get you on all that with the exception of costume jewellery - I still like that at times.

idiots. I have grown out of suffering fools gladly. Makes it hard keeping to posting rules sometimes 😋

My hair. I used to be really particular about hair - the cut, the colour. Now I really could not care less. I’m transitioning to grey because I cannot stand the tyranny of 5 weekly salon visits to sit there bored out of my mind for four hours. I can’t believe I ever enjoyed it or cared that much about my appearance tbh.

Groups of women friends. Always a queen bee who creates drama.

People who won’t help themselves. You’ve told me six times about your bad back, I’ve told you six times to go to Pilates but you haven’t. Now STFU please.

About 99.9% of men. I see you properly without my oestrogen goggles on and most of you are lazy or abusive or misogynistic or sex pests or selfish.

Worrying about being a certain weight. If I want ice cream I will have it.

Alcohol, parties, loud music, staying out past 10pm, just can’t do it any more. Get easily overwhelmed and grumpy.

Spending stupid amounts of money on eating out, would rather get something from Marks or Waitrose.

Lingerie. Uncomfortable.

Listening to friends talk about their relationships or dating experiences. I can’t listen to the intricate he said, she said of it any more.

Clothes shopping. Mind numbing.

You and me both! I’ve had the occasional rap on the knuckles when I’ve not managed 🤷🏼‍♀️

I have noticed a number of us have mentioned being more content

Its such a nice feeling

I have a life now where I do very little other than work, see close friends/family and home stuff and I am really content with this. I really enjoy the simple things in life

We also like staying at home partially as we have a huge mortgage too, but also because I find quite a lot of restaurant food overpriced and lacking these days - much prefer cooking at home and not having the inconvenience of having to get a babysitter and a taxi home.

i need to get back into running though - feel like it would be good for my mental health (and waistline).

I have just written a list of the positives and negatives of my job - other than the fact I’d rather do nothing or something else (which I can’t do due to huge mortgage and the need to save for retirement) I do find the only negative is the couple of arseholes I have to deal with once a week for an hour max. So from now on I’m just going to tell myself, in the words of Nick Cope, “it doesn’t bother me, it doesn’t bother me” in the hope I can ignore them and just take the cash