Over 50s. Have you outgrown/got bored of anything?

[JumpingDizzy]

Mine is spas or spa days. I used to love them. Went to one recently and was so bored.

Dh and I camped (tent) recently and the place was so peaceful and beautiful I realised I enjoyed this much more than spa days or stays. The weather was good admittedly. But even so walking in the beautiful dales was so therapeutic. Also the wild swimming under waterfalls was blissful. Dh and I often camp but have found the best site. Cost less than £60 Inc electric hook up. First time we've used electric.

Dh and I walk lots. Loads of long distance walking. I also walk with friends. So it isn't a new realisation that I love the outdoors. Just a sudden realisation that spa days bore me now.

Have you outgrown anything? Or found a new love of something?

Alcohol mostly. And working. My work was my whole world at one point. Now am trying my best to muster up the energy to care. Not sure if that is an age thing or shit management though.

I never go out in the evening now. Hate it. I only book matinees and day activities. I need to be in my pyjamas at home whenever I finish work, it’s a very strong desire.

Great thread. Don’t know if it’s been mentioned but dieting. I’ve spent years of my life being unhappy with my weight & trying all kinds of fad diets. I turned 50 in February & about 18 mths ago I just stopped caring. Yes I try to eat decent food & not eat too much treats and yes I try to exercise but I don’t do it to lose weight, I do it to be healthier & mobile as I get older. I’m a size 18 and 5ft 5 so I’ve got rolls but so what. A year ago I joined a pool & I walk up & down the water every morning for an hour before work. I started a new job last week & I’m now walking to & from work every day. I’m so much more confident & happy. I even met a man at the pool where he’s seen me in a swimsuit with a hideous rubber swim hat on lol & he appears to really like me :-)

I think it’s probably more not caring what people think really.

Yes I've definitely changed in the last few years, and few things excite me, which is sad. Those that still do, I really enjoy.

People pleasing
Pleasing of any kind
Rude little egotistical men
I won’t stand for anyone being rude or snappy
I can’t bear any kind of litter
Late nights
Dinner parties with strangers
Back to back events
Any friendship drama of any kind
Cheap shoes
Cheap food
Cheap wine
Rubbish hotels
Overrated books, restaurants, destinations, theatre shows
Superficial surface level friendships
Driving fast
Adrenaline based activities
Poor customer service

Can you tell I’m not in the best mood today? God help anyone that crosses me today is all I am saying.

Ironing... but that started way before my 40s 😁

@JumpingDizzy please could you share the name of the campsite you stayed at?

Driving
Shopping
Busy events
Caring what other people think of my dress sense, my hair etc. if I’m happy with these things what do I care about opinions of other people
I also no longer suffer fools and I now always call out those who think they can gas light or undermine me. I’ve had a lifetime of that and I’m done.

I mentioned people yesterday

Just to add: MY IN LAWS

58 here. I’ve lost interest in watching telly, parties (particularly pointless dinner parties), buying new clothes and staying out late.
I find most stuff on TV to be an insult to my intelligence and/or gratuitously violent (especially towards women). My suspicion is lots of TV commissioning is still dinosaur land.
i have great enthusiasm for reading books (especially women novelists from the mid twentieth century), visiting new places, my dogs, the countryside, hanging out with my children, sitting in nice cafes.
I’d describe it as winnowing out the superfluous,

I was a real party animal/socialiser in my day. In my 30s I lived in London in an area which was very trendy at the time and frequented all the cool pubs, restaurants etc. Gave themed dinners and went to lots of crazy parties. Drank like a fish.

Now, I can think of nothing worse. We moved to another country at the very beginning of the pandemic, and in the past five years since then I have never left the village where I live at night time (I've been away for holidays, but never been out at night here except for very occasional suppers at the village pub and a few barbeques with neighbours). I don't even know what the centre of the (lovely) town I live near looks like after 7pm, despite it being famous for its nightlife, pubs, "food scene" and arts/music/theatre scene. Regular festivals of various sorts, summer and winter.

I largely gave up drinking a while ago so could easily be the designated driver for me and DH to go to town at night. We've thought about it but then look at each other and go "nah let's just stay at home".

Oh my god I could have written this word for word! Thank you for articulating it for me! I would add that I no longer enjoy any talk radio. Possibly this is because my hearing is quite poor and obviously you can’t lip read the radio.

Music. I have a play list of 300 songs from the 50s to the present day. It takes a lot to make it on to the playlist but once it’s there, it’s there for good. I add to it by asking my DC and their partners for present day recommendations. No way I’m listening to radio 1, but I’ve always hated that.

I used to love standup so much! But one year at Edinburgh I realised I’d heard all the jokes before so I just stopped.

I haven’t just gone off men, I actively despise them.

Travel. I did loads in my 20s when the world wasn’t so ‘packaged up’ for tourism. Now it feels both exploitative and uncomfortable. Happy to stick to the UK, only camping or shabby places. I ended up at a ‘resort’ in Scotland one night and felt so murderous!

Excellent TV, theatre, ballet and books still transport me, perhaps even more than when I was young. And I like sex much more, now I’ve got a man (honourable exception to the above!) who is good at it.

Yes! Has to be a special gig... and the last one we went to, we went early to get good SEATS at the front; then as the act started, the boozy latecomers tried to push in - but we are mean old feckers now and weren't having it... 😆

Also, used to be a real world traveller, loved going to new places all over the globe, now I go on holiday to the same place (in Europe) every year because I love it, feel comfortable there, know the local people and facilities, and can just relax. I could easily jet off to anywhere but I don't want to.

Staying up late. I’ve always been a night owl but these days I long for bed at 10pm.

Staying up late. I’ve always been a night owl but these days I long for bed at 10pm.

Another ex-Archers fan of many years standing, even after I moved from the UK I would listen on BBC Sounds religiously. After about a year it faded out and I have no interest in it now.

*nights out which involve large groups of people, in loud bars/clubs where you can’t hear anyone, copious amounts of alcohol and getting home really late.
junk food/fast food
also, group holidays/weekends away with loads of other women (shudder) or hen dos etc. I like to have the autonomy/freedom to escape home when I want to.

I've never liked those things any way
As a 14 year old i learned quickly that I didn't mind go to the cinema, gigs,swimming etc by myself if my friends were about or didn't want to go. At 19 I went away with my friends to Ios and hated it. My friends absolutely loved the trip.
Since then I mostly travelled by myself and then with my family and also one friend at a time.
I have turned everything do down and never been on one.
As for food, I've always been interested on cooking and love trying g new you me things. I've never had anything from Greg's or similar.
My mum thinks I most have been swapped at birth because she just can't relate to me!! Lol 😆

I stopped listening during Covid when they were doing those one man monologue episodes. Never got back into it. I did try once, listened to one or two omnibuses but couldn’t rekindle the old enthusiasm. Grown out of soaps in general.

@Largerbreakfast I think some are genuinely content this way but I do sense quite a lot of low grade depression on ‘some ‘ posts . I think Covid changed a lot of things too as has a lot of WFH - it’s sent one of my lovely friends mildly agoraphobic - she admits it - finds it a real effort these days to meet up with anyone , and is she isn’t partnered up and doesn’t have kids ( or want them , now in her early 40s) it’s not necessarily how she wants to be.

Oh I am not depressed. Just different priorities now.

Pretty much all of these! I do still love telly though, but I've never been someone who just puts it on and watches whatever comes up, or has it on in the background; I've always sought out good stuff and sat and watched it properly.

I am very impatient these days with 'great novelists of our time', because they always seem to be men and the novels always seem to be about late-middle-age men with 'tiresome' wives, and much younger, very beautiful women throwing themselves at them, and we're supposed to feel their pain about this.

I haven't outgrown music, and I love 6 Music particularly, but I definitely don't follow bands or artists in the way I used to.

Petty rivalries and silly power plays: I've had grown women giving me funny looks or asking me to move in yoga classes because I've put my mat where they usually go, or because they wanted to be next to their friend. I don't argue, I just think, 'Who the actual fuck has the time and energy for this?'

I've also grown out of being offended or hurt by young people in the service industry being cooler than thou or deliberately offhand and rude to me. I just do a breezy smile and thank you and think, if it makes you feel cooler, then crack on love.

@angsty oh I get that - I think money comes into it too and people over a certain age tend to be more aware that it’s easy to spend an awful lot on fripperies with nothing really to show for it and as you say have different priorities - as an example I don’t automatically say yes to wedding invites with distant relatives / friends in the middle of nowhere meaning quite often 2 night stays somewhere random I wouldn’t ever choose to go to plus petrol etc - whereas when younger I would automatically accept .

Years of filling our house with fabulous flea market and antique fair finds. I'm slowly divesting them now.

Having cats. Used to love it. I want to be free of having pets, so that I can travel, but the strays keep coming Luckily, my DN now lives with me and helps mind them for me and I mind her DDog.

Music has pretty much disappeared from my life. I dip in every now & then.

I'm loving nature more so & still enjoy buying clothes, in store more than on-line.