Is this split of household tasks fair?

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My fiancé and I both work full time. We have set jobs that we both do that are seen as “our” tasks. So I cook and clean the kitchen and DP does everything else.

I ended up getting a bit fed up of doing the cooking every single night (on the rare occasion that I won’t be back late, he will cook) and then cleaning the kitchen. So I asked if we could split this instead of it being just one persons task. He argued that those are my only two jobs whereas he does literally everything else. I just feel like “everything else” is not as big of a task as cooking and washing the pots.

We don’t have any children, he will clean all other rooms of the house and hoover and do the laundry and clean litter trays. I work hybrid so work from home 2 days a week. This set up has worked nicely tbh because we both know what we are expected to do and just get on with it and are in a routine with it. But would I be unreasonable to think we should take the cooking in turns?

But that's the entire point.

If you work a 50 hour week and are shattered then just do something quick - jacket potatoes, beans on toast, a traybake, stir fries, pasta, pan fried fish with veggies and frozen ash, or something.

There's no need to spend ages cooking your dinner at night unless you want to. There are so many healthy, quick,cheap ways to feed a family - it may not be your ideal meal or your favourite thing, but it's perfectly doable.

Each to there own. What works for one family doesn't work for another.
After a 50 hour week I want to check in with my kids/husband not feed 4 people.
The original post was about couples sharing the home life workload.
Not everyone finds cooking easy, quick or enjoyable so families share it or pay for it.
Each to their own....

I love a good household tasks division! However, sorry OP but it seems very much in your favour already.
We do:
DH: cooking and cleaning up, bins, any house/garden work needing power tools.
Me: all laundry related tasks, meal planning and shopping, tidying, all life/house/DC admin, DC clothes (buying, sorting out, reselling), luggage packing, all light gardening.

For cleaning we have a cleaner

I still feel I have a good deal - but if DH asked me to cook a few nights he would definitely need to take on something else. Would you be prepared for example to swap a night of cooking for washing all linens / making beds?

You think DH has got a good deal?? You’re being jipped.

It was, and OP has a pretty good deal. All she has to do is shop and cook for two adults while her partner does absolutely everything else!

Blimey, your DH has it good!

Just filmed myself chopping an onion to time it. Yes, I know I’m sad.

35 seconds including peeling. 20 just for chopping.

I finally watched the gordon video. My onion bits are about 6* that size. Small, not tiny. Takes about as long as @Poiuytrewqa to chop. I'm happy with the choices and dinner quality. We did order a delivery dinner tonight though. 😄

You seemed very insistent that one should just “bung [the food] in the oven” and be done with cooking, in the context of being the one responsible for cooking every day.

None of what you’re describing only takes five minutes.

You can make healthy meals that don’t take long, it’s just that it generally looks, tastes, and satisfies better if you put in a some time and effort to make it in specific ways. Maybe it takes a few minutes to pour citrus juice over seafood for a simple ceviche, but it’s gonna take you longer if, for example, you want to season it, top it with a fresh mango salsa, and serve it with some elote fritters. (Generally people want sides with their proteins.)

Having modern appliance doesn’t mean that the food magically cooks itself, even if it’s easier than having to cook with a literal fire.

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You're not unreasonable to ask him to cook sometimes. Can he cook?
My husband and I often cooked together, he loved chopping vegetables and the like. It was fun.

Then he wouldn’t be unreasonable to ask her to do a bit of cleaning and laundry, would he?

Fritters and mango salsa shouldn’t be anywhere near ceviche. It should be onions, avocado, coriander and sweet potato only.

That’s your opinion. I’ve had excellent ceviche with salsa and sides other than sweet potatoes.

Edit: I also filmed myself peeling, washing, and cutting a full-sized onion. Not hurrying, so that I wouldn’t cut myself, not going slowly either. 2 minutes 40 seconds. That means if I did two onions (which I sometimes need to do in order to feed… wait for it… multiple people), it would already take me over five minutes just to do the chopping for one vegetable I would use in the meal.