Fathers

[LostMum7]

Why is it when your childs dad is arguing with you they say things to the kids like your nothing to do with me anymore and I don’t care about any of you but is nice to his older kids with a different mum i just can’t get my head around this speaking to 3 year as if they know

That's an attempt to manipulate you and emotional abuse of the kids. Not all father's do it. My DH certainly doesn't.

Because he gets away with it?

That's totally inappropriate and emotionally abusive parenting. If he continues you leave in order to protect your kids.

Because there’s a high chance the mother has also in lives the children and the fathers are seeing this as a change to out their side forward.
Shame that the kids cannot be left in the dark when parents argue

He’s a shit father. Which is awful for your children.

I'm uncomfortable that you've written that as though it's quite a common thing?

'Fathers' and 'they' etc.

It's nothing to do with fathers in general, and everything to do with the nasty piece of work you've had DC with.

Sure, other parents can be nasty too but don't kid yourself that talking to his kids like that is common.

Yes I think that’s what it is but hes older than me so his 56 amd we have a 17 year old then 9 years later we he back together and had my 3 year old but I do everything with my 10 month old

Sorry to offend you wasn’t my intention I should have worded this different it’s my first post I guess there is good dads out there just at not my experience

I think you quoted yourself instead of me?

Either way, no-one is 'offended' obviously.

I presume when you say "fathers" you mean the father of your child... and not every other father in the UK?

Are you together or is he an ex partner? Either way, you shouldn't be arguing in front of your small children.

I wasn’t sure how to vote on this one, what I was voting first or against I mean.

You're not being unreasonable to hate him doing this. He’s bang out of order saying hurtful things in front of his own children.

Thanks for your advice

OP you recently posted on this with more information. Please stop having children with this terrible man. Put your children first and leave him. Sadly I suspect you’re one of those posters who will post different threads continually on the same subject but not take any of the advice you’ve been given. Your children have no choice but to be in this awful situation you’re both subjecting them to. If you can’t do it for yourself, do it for them.

This is not my experience at all, either with my own father or the father of my kids. This is not normal and you should be protecting your children and not letting them be subjected to such horrible abuse

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