Annoyed at partner for farting next to me

[redvelvet7]

Hi, I don’t know whether I’m just hormonal from being in third trimester or whether this is a bigger issue in my relationship. For the longest time my partner has known I don’t like farting, especially not right next to me. If it’s away from me then fine. Instead of acknowledging that, he actively tries to push them out when he’s near me. It’s disgusting. I’m at a stage in my pregnancy now where I’m really uncomfortable, not feeling myself and stuff like that tips me over the edge because it’s so disrespectful. last night he did it right next to me in bed deliberately and I left and slept in the spare room. Was trying to talk to him this morning and he did it again. There’s no respect or appreciation for my boundaries.

To add to my general annoyance with him he prioritises his mum and family members over me and the baby. We had his parents over at the weekend and he let his mum go on and on at me telling me what to do in the kitchen until I couldn’t cope with it anymore and was so overwhelmed. Instead of recognising her fault or that he should have said something, he thinks it’s all on me. I am more emotionally vulnerable now than I have been in my life and trying to stay stable each day is a challenge.

so anyway AIBU to expect some decent respect and not have to put up with that?

I bet some of you ‘everyone farts all the time, it’s normal’ people are like Christine from dinnerladies with her farting that clears the canteen kitchen 😂

Well, I don't go into people's kitchens and tell them how to manage it. And, as the OP said, she couldn't get a word in edgeways. And he didn't defend his pregnant wife. So he farts (in spite of being asked not to) AND doesn't defend.

It sounds like he doesn’t respect you.

You need to demand change before the baby comes and while you’re in a stronger position. Eg you may have some levage over him, over whether you name him as father on the birth certificate. Use it.

There's a difference between the behaviour of children and that of adults!. Op's post clearly shows that that he is a man, in his head he's a child. What a turnoff!

That is always the question!

I even hate the WORD fart!!!!!!

The action - don’t get me started !!!!

I just can’t with this!!

Deliberate farting?? I could never find such a man sexually attractive and would definitely consider it serious enough to split. It’s not about the fart, it’s the attitude shins it.

As for his mum, he will ALWAYS take her side, not yours.

The future you want is in your hands. Do not think that you can change him

I think it’s disgusting, yes everyone does it and I would of course excuse accidental farting but deliberately doing it next to your partner is vile. Would you do it in a client meeting, school assembly, on the train etc? I think some of these men have a fetish for inflicting this on their partner.