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Is it rude to message a seller late at night?

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SelectiveSarah · 21/05/2025 00:48

Specifically now.
I’ve just seen something I want to buy from fb marketplace. I’ve been searching for ages for one near me within my budget but would it be rude to message them now.

I have such busy mornings that I forget or don’t have time and when I do message it’s gone! Don’t want to miss my chance with this. But obviously if it’s rude I’ll wait.

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MyIvyGrows · 21/05/2025 00:53

Not at all. The beauty of text-based messaging is that the recipient chooses when and how they are notified.

SelectiveSarah · 21/05/2025 01:04

MyIvyGrows · 21/05/2025 00:53

Not at all. The beauty of text-based messaging is that the recipient chooses when and how they are notified.

Thank you. That’s all I needed to hear and will send a message haha.

Jokes aside, I have previously messaged a few sellers late at night but they never get back to me and when I ask at a reasonable hour I always get a response so it probably is considered rude to some.

These are my only browsing hours in the day otherwise I would never get any shopping done lol.

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Dunnop · 21/05/2025 01:07

I don’t think it’s rude at all, but I do wish schedule send were an option on more things.

Caligirl80 · 21/05/2025 02:42

SelectiveSarah · 21/05/2025 00:48

Specifically now.
I’ve just seen something I want to buy from fb marketplace. I’ve been searching for ages for one near me within my budget but would it be rude to message them now.

I have such busy mornings that I forget or don’t have time and when I do message it’s gone! Don’t want to miss my chance with this. But obviously if it’s rude I’ll wait.

Of course it's not rude - that's the whole point of the messaging system - no different than sending an email. You're not expecting them to reply straight away so who cares?

Holidaywarning · 21/05/2025 06:19

Dunnop · 21/05/2025 01:07

I don’t think it’s rude at all, but I do wish schedule send were an option on more things.

This x 100. So often think I'd like to be able to do this in what's app groups.

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