A little extra homework for DD9

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Hi. A child support professional has contacted me to say she doesn't think my DD9 should be given extra homework by my parents as she believes DD9 gets bored in class in the belief it is because the work in class is now too easy.
I find this very hard to believe as she never does any / very rarely does when we are all together at their house. She has also missed a lot of classes for one reason or another and her school reports are always 'as expected' or 'needs to improve'.
AIBU to tell her to shut the f up that I disagree and even she was bored, to give her more advanced work instead if it is the case?

This is a little confusing.

if your DD “needs to improve” why would you (or your parents) be giving her more advanced work?

A child support professional? Presumably not a teacher, who should be able to provide challenging work for all their pupils?

@Octavia64 , apologies for the confusion, I mean for teachers to give her more advanced work if she was bored in class. Or even a little extra. DD9 is adamant to me the work isn't easy I'm 80% she is telling the truth.

@DelphiniumBlue The lady is from Early intervention, requested due to DD9's behaviour at school.

The school are only able to teach a finite amount of things to a class of children in a school day.

I am a firm believer that you and those around you have it within your gift to show your child some of the rest. This will often instill a love of learning more than pushing for the next more advanced thing on a school curriculum.

It sounds like your parents are keen and engaged which is brilliant- what do they love?

I wouldn’t tell a professional who is there to support your daughter to “shut the fuck up”. It sounds very confusing and it’s hard to work out what’s actually happening. Pupils who struggle with behaviour often have parents who are unsupportive or disrespectful of education professionals.

Her behaviour is more down to having a very soft grandparent. I hold my hand up to my share, but trying harder now.

The professional is requesting the hinderance of my daughter's educational potential to suit the school and other children.
If it was me in charge at the school, I would be asking what work she can do and give her that, ie. work from a year above, not too difficult to arrange?
I'm just a bit shocked and dissapointed that educational professionals would have this low ambitional view for pupils.

Why are your parents giving her homework to do?

The apple doesn't fall far from the tree if you want to tell her to fuck off. I see where your daughters bad behaviour at school comes from. This person is trying to help your daughter in school. Work with her.

This is really confusing OP. Why would she need to be given work for a higher class if she needs to improve / meets expectations / doesn’t find the work easy?

Does your child live with grandparents? Are they her guardians?

I suspect this isn't quite the situation.

When I was at school (in year 2) one of the parents told others that they'd been told to stop asking to change their reading book daily because they were running out of books in the (primary) school to give her.
Problem was when she realised that several children in the class had more advanced books.

So she went to find out what was going on. Turned out that what the teacher had actually said was that their child was running out of books at that level and was not ready to go up to the next level.

Firstly, parents are responsible for educating their children, and it’s in your child’s interest to have as broad and as stretching an education as possible, which means not simply leaving it all to the school.

Secondly, being advanced isn’t an excuse for being badly behaved.

Thirdly, you wanting to tell the SENCO to eff off isn’t great.

Fourthly, if your dd is advanced you could get her to grammar-and-spelling check your posts for you.

Does she live with her grandparents?

Why does she need more advanced work if she needs to improve?

As an ex teacher this would do my head in. If your parents want to help her, they should broaden the area of study rather than pushing her up. Depth is better than superficial knowledge.

Eh? I’m confused.

You on drugs?
If parents were responsible for educating their children, why bother sending them to school? Free childcare?
Why make a point about correlation of being advanced and bad behaviour?
I wasn't literally telling them to f off. Just meaning to state I disagree. You had a humour by-pass?
And for pulling me up for my grammar, seriously?

DD9 sometimes stays with grandparents when I do overnight shifts.

What homework are your parents giving to DD? I can see why it would be difficult for the teacher if her grandparents are teaching your DD, say, more advanced maths techniques but surely if they are helping her with reading, doing tables and spelling practice, maybe the odd visit to a topic related venue at the weekends it can only be good? I would encourage it.

I don't understand why you disagree?

You, school and DD all seem to agree that DD is finding school work too hard, so even more advanced work is pointless, surely? It's just going to make DD feel stupid and not bother trying at all.

I’m so confused.

Your Dd has a support worker. She needs to improve which suggest some issues.

Ypur parents give her more advanced homework which she doesn’t do? But she needs more advanced work in class? Is this the cause of the behaviour stuff? A teacher with a class of 30 can only do so much.

The school say she is finding the work too easy. I don't think she does.

My parents try to give her extra work, but she refuses to do most of it, so I don't know why the school say they shouldn't be teaching her as she isn't learning any more than at school.

The work my parents try to give her is just similar to what she would be doing in her class, but again, she dorsn't do much of it.

The school are talking rubbish, but the point I am making is, should the school stop pupils learning at a quicker rate?

If she is completing the work quickly and then getting bored and distracting everyone else then surely the work is too easy.

You sound like a lazy, incompetent reader, tbh.

OP are you drunk? You're barely coherent.

Your being incredibly defensive in your language to people commenting, about the school.