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Plumber in toilet for ages when I got home

115 replies

Amberkitten7654321 · 19/05/2025 18:38

Had a boiler service today - was on school run when he wanted to arrive so left the garage key accessible and opened door from garage into house so he could check what he needed. It wasn’t the usual one we have, someone who worked for him, so not sure what message was passed on. Arrived home after drop off and went to offer him a drink, but no sign…until I realised downstairs bathroom was locked. I have a 2 year old so he would definitely have known we were home, and front door is right next to toilet. He came out about 15/ 20 mins later!!!! He immediately shut door behind him and I didn’t dare open it for hours but window had also been left wide open.
I am totally totally ok with being asked to use bathroom, I understand people need to go. But I felt so freaked out to come home, know he was in my house and him not appear for SO long?!! Is that ok?! He hurriedly said he’d needed the bathroom and rushed to garage. I think it’s just the weirdness of never having met him and him walking through my house and being in the house without me having a clue who he was.

would this freak you out?!

OP posts:
SwanRivers · 19/05/2025 18:41

You arrived home when he was mid-shit.

Did you expect him to greet you doing the penguin walk with his jeans around his ankles?

fatandloveit · 19/05/2025 18:49

im sure regrets last nights kebab now

jenrobin · 19/05/2025 18:49

Amberkitten7654321 · 19/05/2025 18:38

Had a boiler service today - was on school run when he wanted to arrive so left the garage key accessible and opened door from garage into house so he could check what he needed. It wasn’t the usual one we have, someone who worked for him, so not sure what message was passed on. Arrived home after drop off and went to offer him a drink, but no sign…until I realised downstairs bathroom was locked. I have a 2 year old so he would definitely have known we were home, and front door is right next to toilet. He came out about 15/ 20 mins later!!!! He immediately shut door behind him and I didn’t dare open it for hours but window had also been left wide open.
I am totally totally ok with being asked to use bathroom, I understand people need to go. But I felt so freaked out to come home, know he was in my house and him not appear for SO long?!! Is that ok?! He hurriedly said he’d needed the bathroom and rushed to garage. I think it’s just the weirdness of never having met him and him walking through my house and being in the house without me having a clue who he was.

would this freak you out?!

It would, but I think it was just unlucky timing. He got caught short and if you'd gotten home twenty minutes later it would actually have been ideal timing because you'd not have been there to get freaked out. You can't expect him to have asked when you weren't even home yet! Still, I can imagine it was odd not having met him, having to figure out who was in the toilet, assuming that he's going to be out in a minute and then having to wait twenty minutes to be sure it was him. You must have felt like a burglar was hiding 😂

SweeneyToddIer · 19/05/2025 18:50

No, he was clearly using the toilet. Why would he emerge before he was finished?

Dontlletmedownbruce · 19/05/2025 18:52

Poor man must be very embarrassed about this.

Starrynightwishes · 19/05/2025 18:54

That's some unlucky timing! 😂 I think it's something to laugh about later, when it's not so fresh.
😆

MereNoelle · 19/05/2025 18:56

What did you want him to do, come out and introduce himself/shake your hand mid shit?

UnctuousUnicorns · 19/05/2025 18:57

Another day, another tradie using my toilet gripe on MN...

Wynter25 · 19/05/2025 18:58

Poor fella 😅

SwanRivers · 19/05/2025 18:59

UnctuousUnicorns · 19/05/2025 18:57

Another day, another tradie using my toilet gripe on MN...

The obsession with tradesmen's bowels remains oddly strong.

Amberkitten7654321 · 19/05/2025 19:04

SwanRivers · 19/05/2025 18:59

The obsession with tradesmen's bowels remains oddly strong.

lol i thought while writing. HOWEVER I would say - I fully agree with him not walking out with trousers round his ankles. That would’ve been ever so slightly more awkward. However - 20 minutes?!! I don’t get men’s obsession with needing so long on the toilet - I don’t think I’ve ever spent 20 minutes having a poo in my life. 20 minutes when you’re in a strangers house when you know they’re outside?!

OP posts:
ohyesido · 19/05/2025 19:04

this would haunt me for a few days, I don’t want strange men I’m not married to desecrating my toilet

SwanRivers · 19/05/2025 19:06

Amberkitten7654321 · 19/05/2025 19:04

lol i thought while writing. HOWEVER I would say - I fully agree with him not walking out with trousers round his ankles. That would’ve been ever so slightly more awkward. However - 20 minutes?!! I don’t get men’s obsession with needing so long on the toilet - I don’t think I’ve ever spent 20 minutes having a poo in my life. 20 minutes when you’re in a strangers house when you know they’re outside?!

I mean humans are all different.

Some shit in a minute and some take a lot longer.

I don't think it was something he really planned if I'm honest 🤣

MereNoelle · 19/05/2025 19:06

Amberkitten7654321 · 19/05/2025 19:04

lol i thought while writing. HOWEVER I would say - I fully agree with him not walking out with trousers round his ankles. That would’ve been ever so slightly more awkward. However - 20 minutes?!! I don’t get men’s obsession with needing so long on the toilet - I don’t think I’ve ever spent 20 minutes having a poo in my life. 20 minutes when you’re in a strangers house when you know they’re outside?!

I think if he could have come out sooner, he probably would have done.

My19thNervousNameChange · 19/05/2025 19:08

ohyesido · 19/05/2025 19:04

this would haunt me for a few days, I don’t want strange men I’m not married to desecrating my toilet

Do you think he was slaughtering black chickens and speaking in tongues in there? Grin

TooGoodToGoto · 19/05/2025 19:10

It’s your own fault for not locking the door or taking the toilet pan with you on the school run.

Ponoka7 · 19/05/2025 19:10

Amberkitten7654321 · 19/05/2025 19:04

lol i thought while writing. HOWEVER I would say - I fully agree with him not walking out with trousers round his ankles. That would’ve been ever so slightly more awkward. However - 20 minutes?!! I don’t get men’s obsession with needing so long on the toilet - I don’t think I’ve ever spent 20 minutes having a poo in my life. 20 minutes when you’re in a strangers house when you know they’re outside?!

Do you know for sure that he doesn't have a stoma? Or other bowel condition? It's a hidden disability. While I agree that some men can spend a long time on the toilet, other times it can be medical. We rake longer to wee, they take longer to do the other. Live and let live.

Amberkitten7654321 · 19/05/2025 19:12

TooGoodToGoto · 19/05/2025 19:10

It’s your own fault for not locking the door or taking the toilet pan with you on the school run.

Can’t believe I didn’t think of this ffs.

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eldermillenialmum · 19/05/2025 19:13

Yes I'd find it weird but he clearly needed the loo and you weren't there.

ohyesido · 19/05/2025 19:14

My19thNervousNameChange · 19/05/2025 19:08

Do you think he was slaughtering black chickens and speaking in tongues in there? Grin

No, far worse he was doing a poo!

UpUpUpU · 19/05/2025 19:14

I have crohns disease and absolutely could be in there for 20 minutes.

Just clean the loo and move on with your life.

SingtotheCat · 19/05/2025 19:14

20 minutes is ridiculous . Did you call out and knock the door?

MereNoelle · 19/05/2025 19:15

SingtotheCat · 19/05/2025 19:14

20 minutes is ridiculous . Did you call out and knock the door?

Seriously?

amele · 19/05/2025 19:16

Omg 😂 is this thread for real? U left the key and door open for him to enter! It just happened to be he needed the toilet, what was he supposed to do soil himself
whilst he waits for you to arrive and seek permission to use the toilet!?

MereNoelle · 19/05/2025 19:16

My dad has IBD and can easily be on the toilet for 20 mins. I hope nobody shouts or bangs on the door when he’s on the toilet 😬