Plumber in toilet for ages when I got home

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Had a boiler service today - was on school run when he wanted to arrive so left the garage key accessible and opened door from garage into house so he could check what he needed. It wasn’t the usual one we have, someone who worked for him, so not sure what message was passed on. Arrived home after drop off and went to offer him a drink, but no sign…until I realised downstairs bathroom was locked. I have a 2 year old so he would definitely have known we were home, and front door is right next to toilet. He came out about 15/ 20 mins later!!!! He immediately shut door behind him and I didn’t dare open it for hours but window had also been left wide open.
I am totally totally ok with being asked to use bathroom, I understand people need to go. But I felt so freaked out to come home, know he was in my house and him not appear for SO long?!! Is that ok?! He hurriedly said he’d needed the bathroom and rushed to garage. I think it’s just the weirdness of never having met him and him walking through my house and being in the house without me having a clue who he was.

would this freak you out?!

I am totally totally ok with being asked to use bathroom, I understand people need to go.

What difference would it have made if you'd have been there and he asked? You'd have both been embarrassed is all. Please don't tell me you might've refused if he'd been able to ask!

He needs to eat more fruit and veg

He probably ate his lunch while in their, kill 2 birds with one stone.

Precisely. I had a tradie visit this week. Asked to use the bathroom, no problem at all. I made myself scarce in the kitchen whilst he did what he needed to do in our cloakroom fairly efficiently , but absolutely not a problem. I thought, yet again, as I often do, how tricky it must be to be on the road, appt after appt. To be fair however I haven't yet checked the cloakroom. But I'm sure it's fine.

Very strange for a grown man or woman to have their bowels trained by their mother?

I could no more squeeze a shit out on demand than I could a baby.

SO much ignorance in this thread.

A 20min shit isn’t normal. Have you ever worked in an office where someone disappears for 20 mins during the working day to take a crap?

Yes

Yes. I used to work with a man who'd print off reading material every day to take to the toilet with him (many years ago).

Exactly

Maybe he had a bad stomach? It happens? Maybe he has stomach issues?
Just cos you have no bowel issues doesn't mean other people dont.
Stop judging people for their bodily needs

Please tell me you're being sarcastic and you're not really that insensitive to people's situations and/or health problems

I doubt he did it on purpose! Poor guy.

We all have different standards.

I was hoping for sarcasm rather than such ignorance about the human body.

Just turn the wi-fi off before you leave the house.

Does anyone have anything but loads of data or unlimited?

And some people have none, nor understanding.

Yep, often.

This! I imagine he was at least as uncomfortable as you about it!

It’s reminding me of a short story about a malingering young builder who gets locked into the house/flat where he’s working for the weekend when his boss forgets about him when he’s leaving, and his phone is in the boss’s van. No openable windows or doors, or windows too high, and he’s too afraid just to sit about and explain because the woman who lives there, who doesn’t return till after a night out, will think he’s an intruder. I think he hides in the attic crawl space all weekend.

Honestly, the number of people on here who think there’s one single ‘normal’ length of time for a crap to take. Some people really don’t seem to have much experience of life beyond their own experiences.

For my own peace and sanity, I’m choosing to believe those people are just being wind-up merchants. You can’t possibly go through life not knowing that medical conditions exist.

I’m on medication for a chronic pain condition that causes such bad constipation 20 minutes is nothing for me. Not everyone’s bowel habits will be like yours. If he was mid poo when you walked in he might have just been dying from embarrassment after a particularly smelly one.

Not even just medical conditions but that all humans are just...you know, different?

You're right about wind-up merchants I think because nobody can be that dim, surely?

What about other bodily functions like periods? Do they think all women's bodies are exactly the same with those too?

Or do they accept the biological facts surrounding the differences?

Disability aside, there is no medical reason why a healthy man, or anyone, needs 20+ minutes to do a shit.