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To put this note on the neighbours door

58 replies

Lillith111 · 17/05/2025 10:02

So I live in a street that is basically all student house shares (myself included). One house has left bin bags outside their door (as opposed to in the bin down the street) and they’ve burst so rubbish is EVERYWHERE. I was woken up at 6 after a stressful exam by 20 seagulls on our street and I’m worried we’re going to get rats. Would I be unreasonable to stick this note to their door (I’d post it but I know most people here don’t look at their mail). This is kind of the final straw for me after multiple parties and a street FULL of rubbish is the final straw!

To put this note on the neighbours door
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BIossomtoes · 17/05/2025 10:03

Just report it to the council. A passive aggressive note they’ll howl with laughter at is a waste of time and effort.

GenderFluid90 · 17/05/2025 10:04

I know your frustrated but the first point of contact should be polite warning. Not a note like that
That will just get their backs up and they won't wany to do anything for you. I wouldn't

Start polite and then report to council If nothing changes after that

F1LandoFan · 17/05/2025 10:04

I did something similar once but maybe worded it a bit nicer ;-) but no, you ANBU

GenderFluid90 · 17/05/2025 10:05

They'll just laugh at that note I think

AndorTheRelentless · 17/05/2025 10:05

Just report it.

They won't give a shit.

Evaka · 17/05/2025 10:05

Do it. Scumbags.

nameobsessed · 17/05/2025 10:08

While the message is spot on the note itself is a little unhinged. I would write a more professional version and send that if you want to give them a warning, just so you don’t look unstable and get laughed at, or do as PP said and just report it.

AnchorWHAT · 17/05/2025 10:09

Seems a bit aggressive, just reword to a polite please can you clean up as its attracting vermin and is-an eyesore, and note that if anyone were to report it there would be a fine. If nothing happens then escalate.

Lillith111 · 17/05/2025 10:10

I take everyone’s point. That was more of a vent and I will reword and make less aggressive. I’m running on about 2 hours sleep because of them and it’s very much straw that broke the camels back.

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NicolaCasanova · 17/05/2025 10:10

Your note is unhinged - the pale pink felt tip adds a certain touch - but YANBU to ask them to put their bags in the bin.

HardbackPaperback · 17/05/2025 10:10

Try knocking on the door and asking.

Lillith111 · 17/05/2025 10:12

@HardbackPaperback if they know it’s me they will probably get aggressive and egg my house or something. They’re 4 big blokes

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SilviaSnuffleBum · 17/05/2025 10:13

They will think a child has written that note. And, they will laugh. Lots.
Have you thought of maybe, IDK, talking to them?!

SummerIce · 17/05/2025 10:15

I’d laugh at that note and mock the person who sent it tbh. It’s very immature and trying to act like a telling off, but they’re not children anymore.

You can write more of an adult message or go straight to the council, but scrap that note.

Lillith111 · 17/05/2025 10:16

Please read updates. I have written a new note but won’t be knocking because they’re scary. Thank you

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Pippa12 · 17/05/2025 10:17

Dont post an aggressive note written in felt tip, you will lose all moral high ground and possibly evoke trouble to your door.

Report them to the council anonymously. That is honestly the only way.

ComtesseDeSpair · 17/05/2025 10:18

This just screams of looking for drama, particularly with your follow up about being egged. They might have stupidly left a bag outside but they weren’t the ones who threw it all over the street overnight. “Hi neighbours, the foxes and seagulls got into your trash overnight, please clean it up and don’t leave bagged trash outside the house, use the wheelie bin” is perfectly clear.

HundredPercentUnsure · 17/05/2025 10:18

Lillith111 · 17/05/2025 10:16

Please read updates. I have written a new note but won’t be knocking because they’re scary. Thank you

Take someone with you then but should still ask in person. More likely to respond than to a passive aggressive note.

rivalsbinge · 17/05/2025 10:20

Just go straight to reporting

Mischance · 17/05/2025 10:21

Vent away - but do not post this note, especially as it is so scrappily written - it looks like a joke. Just report the situation to environmental health and leave it at that.

AlannaOfTrebond · 17/05/2025 10:24

I work in student housing and they are pretty much never aggressive, lazy and absent minded is more like it. I can't imagine any of the students I've known egging someone's house.

Gda · 17/05/2025 10:26

Lillith111 · 17/05/2025 10:16

Please read updates. I have written a new note but won’t be knocking because they’re scary. Thank you

If they're that scary, then the note is going to do nothing. Either go speak to them, if that is completely not a possibility, skip the note completely and just report it.

Mischance · 17/05/2025 10:29

Even a better written note is not the route to pursue. Scrap the note idea completely and just contact environmental health.

Tupelobound · 17/05/2025 10:29
angry liam neeson GIF

The whole video evidence is giving me vibes from Taken.

Honestly OP, as much as it is annoying (and I'd be furious too). I'd go straight to reporting it. Even a new note isn't going to do you any favours.

FamBae · 17/05/2025 10:32

I would be contacting Environmental Health and their Landlord, and if you don't know the landlord can you remember which estate agent they used, they may be able to provide you with contact details.