Can’t stop!

[Littlemissbubbles]

Ok, so I’ve name changed for this.
im already slightly drunk. If anything happens with the kids, I’ll make an excuse and DH can go.
I’ve been like this for four years!
I hold down a professional job, got a big house etc…. But it’s all crap, I can’t stop
As soon as I know I’m not ‘needed’ to drive, I’m sneaking booze. I know it’s ridiculous, I’ve tried to stop, but a can’t!! Actually I like/hate feeling like this.
But I know I need to stop.

AIBU you’re fine, it’s only 2-3 a night!
URNBU, you know you need help( but that involves telling people, and I can’t!)

Wow! So no drink? That's amazing, well done! 👏 👏 👏

A nice collection of teas and a long bath sound lovely. I'm glad you're feeling OK.

From what you've said, weekdays are likely to be stressful because of work, and you're likely to want to reward yourself for getting through the day when you're done. Could you perhaps spend a bit of time tomorrow planning a lovely way to transition to the evening after work on Monday?

You're doing brilliantly. Remember, this is for your own health and for the family that you love. We will be here cheering you on!

Come on, how much is it? One third of a bottle wouldn't make you feel drunk or, not drunk enough to post like this. How much exactly are you drinking?

On a third of a bottle of wine? Equivalent to a large glass. I wouldn't be drunk on yhwt and I don't drink daily

Congrats OP. For posting here and for taking the first step to reducing.

Why not give these people a call. Just to get some advice. Drinkaware.
https://www.drinkaware.co.uk/advice-and-support/alcohol-support-services/support-lines

Good luck x

That’s one large (250ml) glass of wine a night.

But you’re already drunk, according to the time of your post, by 6pm?

You are clearly drinking a hell of a lot more than you’re admitting. If you drink every night, you wouldn’t be drunk on one glass of wine. You’re either lying or massively in denial.

The OP has already explained that she is a small build and that she hadn't eaten all day. Plus she is clearly not drinking to the extent that she is raging drunk, because her DH isn't even aware of her drinking.

I'm not sure why people keep getting stuck on this point. The fact is, if the OP is drinking a third of a bottle of wine every day, that is too much. The fact that she is hiding it and worried about whether she can stop is also indicative of a problem. Maybe she is drinking more than she said, or maybe she is telling the truth. I'm not really sure that it makes much difference.

What is important is that the OP has taken a positive step today to avoid the drink. That's brilliant. What's the point of everyone questioning how she could be drunk on what she had yesterday? How is that helpful or constructive in any way.

Try kombucha or those CBT drinks for a change ?

maybe it’s more but a third of a bottle would absolutely make me tipsy and definitely unsafe to drive.
Just because some of you can (or think you can) drink more isn’t really relevant. The OP is drinking habitually enough to notice and feels she needs it.

You’re drunk on a glass of wine?

Not if it’s every night it wouldn’t. It’s a glass of wine.

Help!
I’ve managed for three days
But today I’ve fallen, I have no excuse, work was really tough today, but it is every day….
Im not sure if it’s me…. Or work. I’m not making excuses but I do obviously have a reliance/ relief relationship. I thought I did. Today confirmed that 😢

You managed 3 days, that’s a start.

have you contacted anyone for help as suggested on this thread already?

Sorry, OP, missed your previous post. How are you doing today?

Hi
Is there anything you can do to alleviate the stress. Exercise, yoga. I know that you are probably time poor but 15 mins of walking could break the routine and burn off some of the adrenaline causing you to feel fraught and in need of some sort of thing to relax a but. Hope it works out.

The OP is underweight for her height, and the amount she is drinking is doing more harm than if she were a healthy weight.

If your sneaking / hiding drink it’s more than a third of a bottle and you need help. Stop having it in the house would be a start

I think that the not having control over it is a massive red flag, especially.

The alcohol support board is a great place to hang out if you need to share, vent, confess, or get advice or cheerleaders.

Ok, so it’s been a little while, thank you to everyone who has been encouraging.
It may not sound like a lot, but for me it is, together with the fact I’ve been sneaking it.
Ive taken your advice and looked at help available. I definitely need it, I tried to stop on my own, I couldn’t do more than two days…….. this confirmed my feelings that I have a problem…
My ‘need’ comes from work. It’s stressful.
. I ve stopped buying as much, but there’s still alcohol in the house. I’m struggling.
Id just like someone to ask how I am….and mean it

I'm here, OP, and I mean it when I ask how you're doing. I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling, but you're doing so brilliantly just to recognise that you have a problem and to look for the help that is available. That's a huge step. Have you tried contacting any of the organisations that could help or are you finding it difficult to take that next step?

I understand re the stressful job. I also work in a very stressful role and sometimes it can be hard to cope with the pressure.

You can do this though. You can find healthier ways of coping.

@MrsBennetsPoorNerves
Thank you soooo much.
Yes I ve looked at help, I had to, when I realised I couldn’t do it alone…..
How did I get here??
Im just back from work. My youngest will be back any minute, I’m cooking , I ve had my eldest on the phone in tears all my way home. I think I take things too seriously/ personally.
On paper. I have such a good life

It doesn't really matter how you got here. You are where you are, and it matters where you go next. And you're trying to get help, so that means that you're headed in the right direction.

Life can be great on paper but really challenging in reality. It sounds like you have a lot to juggle. Have you had a drink today or are you currently trying to resist?

Currently keeping myself really busy
Thank you

So no drink

Shit - I drink at least a glass of wine a night and more on the weekends! Doesn't get me drunk though... wouldn't drive of course.
I don't think 1/3 of a glass is an issue... seems quite normal (in my friend / family group).