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Neighbour doesn’t speak English at home

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Identiy · 16/05/2025 12:23

I know I am just being nosey, but my new neighbour chats away in English to me, I always assumed and she is English. But I hear her chatting to her dog (she lives alone) and I don’t recognise the language at all. I have a fairly good grasp of French and Spanish, recognise German and Italian and a few others. I am just intrigued as to what she is speaking because I don’t recognise it at all. Would I be rude to ask her? I don’t want her to think I am eavesdropping, but then it wouldn’t matter anyway!!

I am just really intrigued!

OP posts:
Cherrysoup · 17/05/2025 14:01

Lemonz · 16/05/2025 15:01

It definitely does. Most dogs will respond to any old gibberish in the right tone.

Most cats won't respond at all, regardless of words or tone. 😄

I had loads of pet names for my horse. I could call him worse than shite and he still came to call. A previous horse was imported from Germany and did not respond to voice commands until I spoke to him in German. His ears would swivel like K9’s! I found it hilarious.

My dogs are usually bilingual, it’s an easy way to avoid having to talk to other dog walkers, switch to French/Spanish and walk past quickly.

swimlyn · 17/05/2025 17:52

ClareBlue · 17/05/2025 00:20

The person who adopted the cat was born in Wakefield, speaks 5 languages, adopted her whilst living in Berlin and brought her to Ireland when they moved here. They now live in England together and the owner and cat are devoted to each other.
What exactly is your point.

Not sure how you missed it:

If I was re-homing I’d look for a caring and loving home, preferably a ‘cat person’ of course.

hth

WeHaveTheRabbit · 17/05/2025 18:16

Natsku · 16/05/2025 16:51

Duolingo does have a Finnish course now, albeit very small, that can give a starting point.

You have inspired me to give it a go! I have just completed my first Duolingo Finnish lesson. 😊

Natsku · 17/05/2025 18:46

WeHaveTheRabbit · 17/05/2025 18:16

You have inspired me to give it a go! I have just completed my first Duolingo Finnish lesson. 😊

Excellent, or should I say mahtava!

MumChp · 17/05/2025 19:14

WeHaveTheRabbit · 17/05/2025 18:16

You have inspired me to give it a go! I have just completed my first Duolingo Finnish lesson. 😊

Finnish is fun. I do it on Duolingo too....

Kittyloulou · 17/05/2025 19:46

I also say she’s Dutch. My parents were Dutch and pets were spoken to in Dutch. If I see a cat in the street that will allow me to stroke it, it gets the full verbal Dutch treatment. It’s the only thing I can speak Dutch to nowadays.

WeHaveTheRabbit · 17/05/2025 20:11

Natsku · 17/05/2025 18:46

Excellent, or should I say mahtava!

Kiitos!

(I hope that's right!)

Natsku · 17/05/2025 20:34

WeHaveTheRabbit · 17/05/2025 20:11

Kiitos!

(I hope that's right!)

Yup that's right

TheeNotoriousPIG · 17/05/2025 20:45

Most of my neighbours don't speak English at home, because they are Welsh speakers. Consequently, trying to make conversation with their pre-schoolers is embarrassing because their Welsh language skills far outrank mine! Thankfully, their dogs aren't fussy about whether they are addressed in Welsh or English.

However, I do persist with trying out my limited Welsh on my dogs. They get particularly excited at, "Amser gwely!" (bedtime)...

I took one to the pet shop with me once. The owner asked if my dog understood Welsh or English. It didn't really matter, as my dog had seen the treat on offer and sat down politely to receive it without a word crossing anyone's lips 😁

RentalWoesNotFun · 17/05/2025 21:03

I had an Irish horse who didnt speak English, voice commands were in Irish.

I can’t remember what they were now so prob just as well he’s away to the big stable in the sky. it was decades ago. Sweet big lummox that he was.

LBFseBrom · 18/05/2025 02:33

RentalWoesNotFun · 17/05/2025 21:03

I had an Irish horse who didnt speak English, voice commands were in Irish.

I can’t remember what they were now so prob just as well he’s away to the big stable in the sky. it was decades ago. Sweet big lummox that he was.

Is that the lovely horse that Fr Ted and Fr Dougal wrote a song about for the euro song contest?

MedievalNun · 18/05/2025 11:03

Our dog is trilingual- Welsh/English & cat (raised from a pup by The Lady Mac and Luthien). He understands commands in all 3 languages and usually ignores them all unless it’s ‘bwyd/food’. Or Luthien telling him to behave, reinforced by a paw.

The cats (down to 1 from 3, unfortunately) are also bilingual but Willow refused to understand anything except ‘Catnip’, The Lady Mac would ignore everyone except Daddy & Luthien pretends she only speaks cat, usually as commands to Mum or the dog.

Watching two cats try to teach a pup to chase mice (by bringing in live ones) is a whole other story ….

SapporoBaby · 18/05/2025 16:23

I’m English and speak Japanese to my dog. I picked up basic conversational when I lived there but nobody else I know speaks it. So the dog gets it all.

Northernladdette · 19/05/2025 09:09

A friend of mine is Spanish and has lived here for forty years. She still has the broadest of Spanish accents and told me she now thinks in English. I’d never even thought of that before 🙂

Chaotica · 21/05/2025 18:11

WeHaveTheRabbit · 16/05/2025 16:21

My friends and I sometimes speak something we call "general Slavic." As we all speak various Slavic languages, we can communicate because of all the shared root words.

BTW I noticed that you mentioned living in Finland. Finnish is a language I would love to learn, but it is quite daunting even though I love learning languages.

Me too. We used to call it 'pan-Slavic'. It's pretty easy to understand each other.

mathanxiety · 21/05/2025 20:07

ClareBlue · 16/05/2025 12:45

I know a cat adopted from Poland into an English speaking house who insisted the owners learned Polish to communicate. It might be similar in that your neighbour has been forced to learn another language by her pet. It's more common than you might think.

This explains a lot about my Dcat.

WearyAuldWumman · 21/05/2025 20:27

GrandmasCat · 17/05/2025 07:48

I’m just postmarking for when the OP comes with an answer.🙂

I though she already said that it was Gaelic?

WearyAuldWumman · 21/05/2025 20:31

Chaotica · 21/05/2025 18:11

Me too. We used to call it 'pan-Slavic'. It's pretty easy to understand each other.

The same happened in Fife post-war and I still hear it today.

A couple of years ago, I had a Polish plasterer working in my house. He'd have a different bloke with him as an assistant each time and they'd communicate in a a melange of Slavic languages - very often with a lot of good-natured swearing.

One night, a new bloke said hello to me as he came in. When they were upstairs, I heard the Polish lad asking the other whether he knew the woman...This was followed with a bit of swearing (not about me).

In the end, I couldn't resist and shouted up "A kto zdes' govorit po-russki?"

There was silence and then they both burst out laughing.

GrandmasCat · 21/05/2025 22:56

WearyAuldWumman · 21/05/2025 20:27

I though she already said that it was Gaelic?

Yes, I thought someone answered already?

minnienono · 21/05/2025 23:01

I taught my dog to respond to French as well as English, he was pretty clever though, but his English was much better than French all the same

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