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Neighbour doesn’t speak English at home

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Identiy · 16/05/2025 12:23

I know I am just being nosey, but my new neighbour chats away in English to me, I always assumed and she is English. But I hear her chatting to her dog (she lives alone) and I don’t recognise the language at all. I have a fairly good grasp of French and Spanish, recognise German and Italian and a few others. I am just intrigued as to what she is speaking because I don’t recognise it at all. Would I be rude to ask her? I don’t want her to think I am eavesdropping, but then it wouldn’t matter anyway!!

I am just really intrigued!

OP posts:
ChandrilanDiscoDroid · 16/05/2025 14:35

FigTreeInEurope · 16/05/2025 13:08

Bet she's dutch. They come out of the womb tri-lingual, and have perfected another four languages perfectly by the time they can walk. I'm so jealous. My neighbour is dutch, it's like living with the fucking duolingo owl.

Edited

I have a friend who's half Greek and half Swiss and speaks six languages, the absolute bastard.

Cognacsoft · 16/05/2025 14:36

FigTreeInEurope · 16/05/2025 13:08

Bet she's dutch. They come out of the womb tri-lingual, and have perfected another four languages perfectly by the time they can walk. I'm so jealous. My neighbour is dutch, it's like living with the fucking duolingo owl.

Edited

A Dutch lady told me that one day a week in The Netherlands all schools teach the whole days classes in English only. Consequently the dc all speak English very well.

stayathomer · 16/05/2025 14:39

NoBiscuitsLeftInMyTin

When she's out break into her house and place some microphones arounds the place. When you've got some recordings post them here and we'll do our best to work it out for you. Simples.

I think this would be a good way to go👍👏👏👏

ChandrilanDiscoDroid · 16/05/2025 14:39

Sort of incidentally, my friend and I once spent a full day commanding her dog in French while practising for a GCSE oral, and he responded perfectly. Clearly the body language and intonation meant more than the actual words.

WeHaveTheRabbit · 16/05/2025 14:43

MumChp · 16/05/2025 13:33

I speak Scandinavian to more or less any animal or baby hanging around. I don't mind people asking me what my mothertongue is. Go ask her!

You speak Scandinavian? What do you mean by that?

Caspianberg · 16/05/2025 14:48

Our Cat is bilingual.

I mean he seems to be as far as cats go. We are a two language household and he responds to both.

We adopted him from a local cat sanctuary ( German). His old name was German for ‘crumb’. We changed it. But still call him Kleiner Krümmel sometimes.

justasking111 · 16/05/2025 14:56

ClareBlue · 16/05/2025 12:45

I know a cat adopted from Poland into an English speaking house who insisted the owners learned Polish to communicate. It might be similar in that your neighbour has been forced to learn another language by her pet. It's more common than you might think.

My neighbours have rescued 5 dogs from abroad over the years. They've learnt words in their mother tongue.

In Bermuda the trained police dogs are issued commands in Dutch to outwit miscreants

Lemonz · 16/05/2025 15:01

ChandrilanDiscoDroid · 16/05/2025 14:39

Sort of incidentally, my friend and I once spent a full day commanding her dog in French while practising for a GCSE oral, and he responded perfectly. Clearly the body language and intonation meant more than the actual words.

It definitely does. Most dogs will respond to any old gibberish in the right tone.

Most cats won't respond at all, regardless of words or tone. 😄

ElixirOfLife · 16/05/2025 15:04

It’s possible she knows you can hear her and is just playing you for entertainment value.

okydokethen · 16/05/2025 15:07

I’d find it weird to say you listen to her when she’s at home in private.
If she wanted to tell you where she was from or her cultural background I’m sure she would.

sawdustformypony · 16/05/2025 15:08

ifionlyhadacat · 16/05/2025 13:32

My pets have always been talked to in both English and Welsh

Mine too - they prefer Welsh though

Youstolemygoddamnhouse · 16/05/2025 15:08

@2dogsandabudgie 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

GoKatForDinner · 16/05/2025 15:08

Welsh? Irish? Afrikaans? Gaelic?

GoKatForDinner · 16/05/2025 15:10

WeHaveTheRabbit · 16/05/2025 14:43

You speak Scandinavian? What do you mean by that?

Norwegian, Swedish, Danish.

Identiy · 16/05/2025 15:12

Thanks for all the guesses. It turns out she is speaking Scottish Gaelic! Apparently she got annoyed when the dog was a puppy with family members calling commands at the dog and not making them do it, so she switched to Gaelic, now the dog views anything it’s asked to do in English as optional 🤣.

She chats in Gaelic, because their conversations are important and the dog needs to listen! 🤣🤣🤣

I’ve loved some of the stories here, but I love my neighbour’s answer too!

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ukathleticscoach · 16/05/2025 15:13

Is the dog a German shepherd?

swimlyn · 16/05/2025 15:17

I know a cat adopted from Poland into an English speaking house who insisted the owners learned Polish to communicate.

Unbefuckinglievable!

Cats speak body language and tone of voice is also important.

If I was re-homing I’d look for a caring and loving home, preferably a ‘cat person’ of course.

Looking for a polyglot in the UK? Good luck with that!

Natsku · 16/05/2025 15:17

Ah I love that, gaelic for the dog!

I'm in Finland so my boss's dog obviously responds to Finnish commands but I'm working on teaching him English. So far he understands sit, lie down, and get back inside Ali!!

XWKD · 16/05/2025 15:19

FigTreeInEurope · 16/05/2025 13:08

Bet she's dutch. They come out of the womb tri-lingual, and have perfected another four languages perfectly by the time they can walk. I'm so jealous. My neighbour is dutch, it's like living with the fucking duolingo owl.

Edited

Or Scandinavian. I remember going into a shop in Stockholm with a group of obvious (from our baggage) non-Swedes and the man behind the counter asked me what language I'd like to speak "English, Francais, Deutsch, Italiano?"

JudgeBread · 16/05/2025 15:20

I'd a friend who spoke to his cat in Latin. He said the cat was a snob and wouldn't respond to English.

Glad you found out OP, and I'm glad she's keeping one of our lovely old languages alive, even if it is just to her dog!

Hysterectomynext · 16/05/2025 15:21

My bet is on Esperanto

Hysterectomynext · 16/05/2025 15:21

Well I lost the bet

JudgeBread · 16/05/2025 15:23

MumChp · 16/05/2025 13:33

I speak Scandinavian to more or less any animal or baby hanging around. I don't mind people asking me what my mothertongue is. Go ask her!

Which one is your mothertongue?

Kingsleadhat · 16/05/2025 15:23

I chatted to woman for years on the school run without realising until she mentioned it that she was Swedish. I also knew a Dutch woman whose English was flawless. Wonder if she is from either of those countries?

Clarinet1 · 16/05/2025 15:24

Identiy · 16/05/2025 15:12

Thanks for all the guesses. It turns out she is speaking Scottish Gaelic! Apparently she got annoyed when the dog was a puppy with family members calling commands at the dog and not making them do it, so she switched to Gaelic, now the dog views anything it’s asked to do in English as optional 🤣.

She chats in Gaelic, because their conversations are important and the dog needs to listen! 🤣🤣🤣

I’ve loved some of the stories here, but I love my neighbour’s answer too!

How fascinating! I love languages and, though I say it as shouldn’t, I’m pretty good at them. Pets aside, I pretty much always ask anyone I hear speaking something I don’t recognise what the language is - I think they’re flattered that I’m interested in their culture,
The most bizarre situation I ever came across was in a healthcare setting. A nurse who was Romanian was speaking to a patient who was also Romanian and didn’t speak English that well in English. In think she was explaining something about a new drug he was being put on and, when I asked why they weren’t speaking Romanian, she said it was because others around might object!

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