Would you complain?

[Galaxyca]

I took my baby to a GP appointment today regarding a rash under their chin after beginning weaning. Baby was lying on the bed and we needed them to look up so the doctor could see. I dug my keys on phone out my pocket and dangled them in the air, and tapped my screen so that the screensaver photo came on (baby smiled and looked up, so this worked.

He glanced for half a second under her chin and said straight faced, ‘parenting tip here for you, do not let them look at your phone’. I laughed thinking it was a joke but it was obvious from his expression that it wasn’t. I’ve thought on it and I feel a bit annoyed to be honest. Even if I were playing cartoons, he is there to look at a medical concern and not comment on anything else. I am a younger mum and left DH in the car and wonder if either of that was different perhaps he wouldn’t have said it.

AIBU to feed it back? I don’t want to be that person but I do think it was out of order and an arrogant thing to say, however minor a comment

Let this go.

I have a son who's two. Totally no screen time, what made me do this is because of my friends kid. She is deeply myopic, age 4 and with a 1000 degree myopic. Grandparents gave her iPad to keep her occupied. Now she is 6. 1100 now. Once the eye is damaged, that's the end. Everything about a kid is still developing. So just a good advice from the doctor

Um it was a Dad and he was perfectly fine 🙄 Lazy, useless but fine. I am a parent, very tired and don't use a screen (well I did briefly but saw it wasn't having a good effect so stopped) so think I'm in the perfect position to judge. If this young child wasn't clearly addicted to a screen then it would have happily played with the toys and books like all the other children there do, even if the parent couldn't be bothered to interact with their own child. I actually wish more people would judge and then maybe people would realise it's not ok @Noodleit

Lol. I had DD1 before smartphones and she definitely knew phones existed. I bought her a toy Teletubbies phone for a fiver and it was one of her favourite toys as she loved pushing the buttons. What other aspects of modern life should babies not know exists? Airfryers? Electric cars?

Sounds like it was a pre-existing condition and nothing to do with an iPad. Perhaps you should step away from screens yourself for a bit.

yes he was patronising and no he probably wouldn’t have said it to dad. But not worth a complaint

You’re being obtuse. You know exactly what I’m saying. Clearly pretending to use a toy phone is fine. A baby looking at a real phone is not.

It’s something I would reply to at time but not raise a formal complaint after

Locums are the worst.

I'm lumpy. Some are cysts, some are lipomas. Some have had to be excised. Some planned, one requiring emergency surgery.

I get each new lump checked as advised by multiple GPs and consultants, they are keen to stress new lumps must be seen. I have one lump on the back if my leg. It's currently playing up actually, but this was 15 years ago when the lump arrived. I saw the locum to check the new lump explained my history and then had this very young, clearly very inexperienced doctor tell me it was nothing to worry about. Fair enough, as expected.

However he spoke to an older degree qualified woman like a 7 year old who was slow on the uptake. He finished up with the breathtakingly negligent 'you don't EVER need to get ANY lumps checked out by the GP EVER again. Obviously I thought what an incompetent wanker and ignored him. Good job I did when a new lump ulcerated at a later date.

GPs are supposed to listen and examine medical symptoms to form an opinion. No matter how well intentioned the doctor in the OPs case may have been, he's seen the OP very briefly use the lights on her screen to catch her child's attention to facilitate a medical examination. From that he has made a huge leap that the OP is using her phone as entertainment on a regular basis and given advice on parenting not medicine. Sounds like many GPs he has a God complex and thinks he is superior.

Sadly as I've got older and been either misdiagnosed or given the wrong treatment or no treatment so many times, I realise just how very fallible doctors are.

This one was unprofessional jumping to a conclusion about tge OPs behaviour with little evidence, he probably does the same medically as well.

Babies shouldn’t use airfyers or electric cars though.

That’s why we have little tikes cars because babies playing with real cars isn’t appropriate.

blue light is bad for eyes

Phones have filters and it was for a brief moment