Would you complain?

[Galaxyca]

I took my baby to a GP appointment today regarding a rash under their chin after beginning weaning. Baby was lying on the bed and we needed them to look up so the doctor could see. I dug my keys on phone out my pocket and dangled them in the air, and tapped my screen so that the screensaver photo came on (baby smiled and looked up, so this worked.

He glanced for half a second under her chin and said straight faced, ‘parenting tip here for you, do not let them look at your phone’. I laughed thinking it was a joke but it was obvious from his expression that it wasn’t. I’ve thought on it and I feel a bit annoyed to be honest. Even if I were playing cartoons, he is there to look at a medical concern and not comment on anything else. I am a younger mum and left DH in the car and wonder if either of that was different perhaps he wouldn’t have said it.

AIBU to feed it back? I don’t want to be that person but I do think it was out of order and an arrogant thing to say, however minor a comment

Really? Complain? Sigh

Goodness, drama llama 😆

Blimey...life is tough for you

Only when tough things happen in life. Which is pretty standard for everyone

The doctor was right.

Look up the affect of screens on developing eyesight.

And you regard this as “tough”?

No I didn't say it was a tough time in life at all. You mentioned having a tough life. And equated it to having a tough life. Tough times in life are very different from things that might piss you off a bit in life every so often.

I didn’t say the initial post

but if you find this patronising and you’d be “very pissed off”, you must be very pissed off a lot in life! 😂

‘Twas a good bit of mansplaining - you need your response prepared for the millions of times this happens - thank you so much for your advice - how would I ever have managed without it’

How is a comment such the one the poster has commented, tough?

I'm not sure what you mean when you say 'I didn't say the initial post' but I'm not pissed off any huge amounts no

And no I didn't say 'very'

What do you mean, I haven't said anyone's comment is tough?

I really feel that if you complain you are going to probably end up feeling worse rather than better.

The practice is going to have to respond to the complaint, provide with evidence of why an eight month old baby is should not be distracted and entertained by phones. And your ‘defence’ is going to be that you weren’t.

And they are going to say that in the opinion of the doctor you were.

Ok to be clear

you said “wow” you’d be “pissed off” and found it “patronising”

my view and the other of another poster is if you get worked up and pissed off about this, life must be tough (and a bit depressing!) because you must go around feeling pissed off about quite a lot in life

understand?!

Yes I understand. Funnily enough I understood your view from your previous post. I have responded to this and I am before, i'm happy that my life is only tough when there's things that are toughz as with anyone and I'm also happy I'm not depressed.

That’s good to hear

surprising given you’d be pissed off and feel patronised about this but everyone has different benchmarks so hey ho

Ok

I'm really not arguing with you.

OMG how oversensitive you are @Galaxyca.

He's right about screens. Be grateful he mentioned it. Just dangling a key or speaking to your baby should have sufficed.

You need to chill, massively.

Well that’s good

I would just let go.
You will end up having a note on your records, something like “difficult patient”, affecting your credibility in future visits. Sad but true.

Wow! Your baby is a they/them?

It's a good parenting tip. Today I was at a class waiting for my DC. Parent was also waiting for their older child and had their younger child watching a phone for 45 minutes in a room full of books and toys. Child was under 2. Absolutely disgraceful.

Pretty funny you were on mumsnet well into the early hours and then back on at 8am.

I am surprised you’re a parent and so quick to find it disgraceful without knowing that sometimes… there’s a backstory ie mother in early pregnancy and feeling utterly nauseated and just wants 45 mins of stillness? Or perhaps a ghastly night sleep, up with children every house and mother just wants to zone out for 45 mins

nope… you just want to go straight to the jugular and seem it “disgraceful”

Why are you checking on when Noodleit is online, that's a bit much.
Letting your very young dc watch stuff on your smart phone is damaging. Staring at it the whole time while you are with you dc is also damaging. I didn't give my toddlers cigarettes or fizzy drinks as unhealthy and I didn't give them a phone to stare at or scroll on as.... unhealthy. I also didn't stare at my own phone the whole time when looking after dc. I am judgemental about mums with babies in prams who are watching something it destroys their attention span, or sitting their small toddler in a restaurant and making them stare at the mobile screen. Poor teachers having to deal with children brought up this way.

Watching 45 minutes anything is a lot even on the TV for a toddler, let alone on a small screen. Its nuts. My guess it's not the only time this toddler is on a device that day.