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To think voting for assisted dying legalisation could be a huge mistake???

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MyLimeGuide · 14/05/2025 07:41

In Scotland they are voting to legalise assisted dying. Looking likely to pass. I am worried this will come to England now. Kier is already proving he doesn't care about old and disabled people so this scares me.
Obviously there are 2 sides but how can people be so ignorant? If passed this could be one of the biggest opportunity for corrupt evil behaviour of saving money on the NHS, care, people literally getting away murder, playing god! No not good. It's so scary.

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SugarandSpiceandAllThingsNaice · 16/05/2025 00:07

Absolutemelt · 15/05/2025 23:45

Surely the crux of the matter is ensuring that whoever partakes is terminally ill and has a medically diagnosed condition that they will die of in the not too distant future? Be accepting of that criteria and vehemently opposed to any other, then no one can be coerced if they are poor disabled or mentally ill.

If only life expectancy could be accurately estimated, sadly we aren’t there yet.

MiloMinderbinder925 · 16/05/2025 00:10

TooBigForMyBoots · 16/05/2025 00:01

The science and biology of dying.

No idea where you got the idea that I'm denying murder or domestic abuse.

What does the science of dying have to do with assisted suicide?

You said:

Yours are with hypothetical people who only exist in your imagination.

It seems to be news to you that abuse and murder happen as you refer to hypothetical people.

grapesandmelon · 16/05/2025 00:10

SugarandSpiceandAllThingsNaice · 15/05/2025 23:40

Yes I have actually. It is most unpleasant how you continue to assume we haven’t witnessed death.

It isn’t hypothetical because this isn’t the first ever assisted dying law in the west, or Europe or the Commonwealth or a democracy. English speaking countries with very similar governments and culture, whose legal systems are based in English common law too have this law. Some for decades and in every country, coercion has been a problem as has the slippery slope to include euthanising people for being poor or disabled, not terminally ill.

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We're not talking about an average death though are we. We're talking about the really horrific, painful, traumatic deaths where the unimaginable is happening.

There is absolutely no way anyone with even an ounce of empathy, could contemplate your views if you had.

MiloMinderbinder925 · 16/05/2025 00:11

OnlyDespairRemains · 16/05/2025 00:03

So can you point me towards where I or the poster you were replying to said most or not?

Edited

Why have you asked me again? I quoted you. Could you provide the evidence that backs up your assertion please?

TooBigForMyBoots · 16/05/2025 00:15

SugarandSpiceandAllThingsNaice · 16/05/2025 00:05

There are tons of resources

“Assisted dying is being abused in Canada with doctors coercing patients into ending their lives, members of the group who helped to legalise it have admitted.”
https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/world/assisted-dying-abused-in-canada-admits-group-that-helped-legalise-it/ar-AA1sZcGd

“A member of the Committee examining the issue said: “This worrisome finding suggests that MAiD could be the option of least resistance and be used to end lives when social policies have failed them.”
And he warned that “the UK should not assume it will manage this better or avoid potential pitfalls”, saying, “real lives are at stake and the dangers of a slippery slope are very real”.”
https://care.org.uk/news/2024/10/poor-lonely-and-homeless-opting-for-assisted-death-in-canada

“…well-documented abuses, horror stories, and mission creep in Canada, the Netherlands and Belgium…..
“.. in Oregon whose health authority now interprets “terminal illness” as any illness that would lead to death without treatment. This is quite different, of course, from how most of us understand terminal illness as a diagnosis where sadly death is inevitable regardless of any treatment offered. The result of this interpretative sleight of hand is that assisted suicides have been granted in Oregon in recent years for diabetes, arthritis, a hernia and, most disturbingly, anorexia – hardly conditions generally considered ‘terminal’.”
https://labourlist.org/2024/11/assisted-dying-bill-kim-leadbeater-oregon-mary-glindon/

It happened illegally in the UK during Covid. Pensioners in care homes were given lethal doses so they’d die quicker.
https://www.bmj.com/content/374/bmj.n2128/rr-11

From your first link:
Yet fast-forward eight years, and the first official report into assisted dying deaths in Ontario, revealed last week by The Telegraph, found vulnerable people faced “potential coercion” and “undue influence” to seek out the practice.

After 8 years it found potential coercion and undue influence*. No stats for victims coerced into a premature death.

Your 2nd link is titled Poor, lonely and homeless opting for assisted death in Canada. People choosing. Again no stats for people coerced by others into ending their lives unwillingly.

SugarandSpiceandAllThingsNaice · 16/05/2025 00:19

grapesandmelon · 16/05/2025 00:10

We're not talking about an average death though are we. We're talking about the really horrific, painful, traumatic deaths where the unimaginable is happening.

There is absolutely no way anyone with even an ounce of empathy, could contemplate your views if you had.

The really horrific, painful, traumatic deaths are not ones happening to patients with even substandard palliative care in hospitals here, but in war zones.

I suspect you have witnessed the former, I have witnessed the latter.

I am sorry you were deeply traumatised by it, but that in no way justifies legalising a system that will kill innocents.

We don’t have the death penalty because of the risk of hanging even one person for murder who is innocent. If Peter Sullivan who just spent 38yrs in prison for a rape and murder he did not commit in 1987 had been convicted in 1957 he would have been hung.

Yet you think it is perfectly ok to send innocents to their death just so someone who is already dying can suffer a bit less and you watching them die, suffer a lot less. I think this is more about your feelings from watching someone die. Death is never going to be so sanitised, neat and unemotional. It will always be traumatic for the living. Assisted dying isn’t going to change that. Have you read ALL the reports of relatives that attend an assisted death? Because they’re not all positive.

TooBigForMyBoots · 16/05/2025 00:21

MiloMinderbinder925 · 16/05/2025 00:10

What does the science of dying have to do with assisted suicide?

You said:

Yours are with hypothetical people who only exist in your imagination.

It seems to be news to you that abuse and murder happen as you refer to hypothetical people.

How the body dies. What happens as each organ fails. The pain. The ability to breathe. To swallow. You know, the science and biology of dying. The very reason that people want assisted dying.

Abuse and murder happen to real people. We have masses of evidence and statistics to prove it.

SugarandSpiceandAllThingsNaice · 16/05/2025 00:23

TooBigForMyBoots · 16/05/2025 00:15

From your first link:
Yet fast-forward eight years, and the first official report into assisted dying deaths in Ontario, revealed last week by The Telegraph, found vulnerable people faced “potential coercion” and “undue influence” to seek out the practice.

After 8 years it found potential coercion and undue influence*. No stats for victims coerced into a premature death.

Your 2nd link is titled Poor, lonely and homeless opting for assisted death in Canada. People choosing. Again no stats for people coerced by others into ending their lives unwillingly.

Yes, because statistics would require it to be a crime that is actually enforced. As it is, the legal systems have yet to convict anyone of coercion even though it is clear from studies and testimonials that it is happening.

It’s like asking me in 1990 for stats on women being raped by their husbands and pretending that because there are no stats, it isn’t happening when we knew it was. It just wasn’t legally recognised as rape and no man had ever been successfully prosecuted for raping his wife…until 1991.

TooBigForMyBoots · 16/05/2025 00:26

SugarandSpiceandAllThingsNaice · 16/05/2025 00:23

Yes, because statistics would require it to be a crime that is actually enforced. As it is, the legal systems have yet to convict anyone of coercion even though it is clear from studies and testimonials that it is happening.

It’s like asking me in 1990 for stats on women being raped by their husbands and pretending that because there are no stats, it isn’t happening when we knew it was. It just wasn’t legally recognised as rape and no man had ever been successfully prosecuted for raping his wife…until 1991.

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We do not yet have assisted dying. No one in the UK can possibly coerce another into it. That's why there are no convictions.

OnlyDespairRemains · 16/05/2025 00:28

SugarandSpiceandAllThingsNaice · 16/05/2025 00:19

The really horrific, painful, traumatic deaths are not ones happening to patients with even substandard palliative care in hospitals here, but in war zones.

I suspect you have witnessed the former, I have witnessed the latter.

I am sorry you were deeply traumatised by it, but that in no way justifies legalising a system that will kill innocents.

We don’t have the death penalty because of the risk of hanging even one person for murder who is innocent. If Peter Sullivan who just spent 38yrs in prison for a rape and murder he did not commit in 1987 had been convicted in 1957 he would have been hung.

Yet you think it is perfectly ok to send innocents to their death just so someone who is already dying can suffer a bit less and you watching them die, suffer a lot less. I think this is more about your feelings from watching someone die. Death is never going to be so sanitised, neat and unemotional. It will always be traumatic for the living. Assisted dying isn’t going to change that. Have you read ALL the reports of relatives that attend an assisted death? Because they’re not all positive.

You say 'send innocents to their deaths' like it is some foregone conclusion that there will be multiple. It isn't. It is a maybe that there will even be one - and an unlikely one at that given the safeguards in this bill.

Is there any evidence at all of even one person in any other country who has definitely been co-erced into ending their life, past all of the safeguards in those systems?

On the other hand, many people definitely will suffer unwanted slow and painful deaths if this bill is not past. This is a fact.

How many people have to suffer for a maybe?

MiloMinderbinder925 · 16/05/2025 00:28

TooBigForMyBoots · 16/05/2025 00:21

How the body dies. What happens as each organ fails. The pain. The ability to breathe. To swallow. You know, the science and biology of dying. The very reason that people want assisted dying.

Abuse and murder happen to real people. We have masses of evidence and statistics to prove it.

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You're undermining yourself. The bill hasn't gone through, therefore we're talking about hypothetical people.

However it's true that we have lots of evidence that abuse and murder happens and it's unlikely abusers won't use the bill. They have been known to 'euthanise' their partner's.

SugarandSpiceandAllThingsNaice · 16/05/2025 00:29

TooBigForMyBoots · 16/05/2025 00:26

We do not yet have assisted dying. No one in the UK can possibly coerce another into it. That's why there are no convictions.

Ffs, I’m talking about Canada, Netherlands, Oregon, Belgium…they’ve had people prosecuted for coercion but all have been unsuccessful. Even cases where the patient had said they didn’t want to die, was given drugged tea by a relative, then kicked the lethal injection out of the doctors hand, the doctor then had family hold her down and she was finally injected with the lethal drug. And died. Went to court, and no one was convicted of any wrong doing,

SugarandSpiceandAllThingsNaice · 16/05/2025 00:30

OnlyDespairRemains · 16/05/2025 00:28

You say 'send innocents to their deaths' like it is some foregone conclusion that there will be multiple. It isn't. It is a maybe that there will even be one - and an unlikely one at that given the safeguards in this bill.

Is there any evidence at all of even one person in any other country who has definitely been co-erced into ending their life, past all of the safeguards in those systems?

On the other hand, many people definitely will suffer unwanted slow and painful deaths if this bill is not past. This is a fact.

How many people have to suffer for a maybe?

Both are facts. There is plenty of evidence of people being killed that did not want to die. It is a foregone conclusion. We are not so different and special that we will avoid it.

grapesandmelon · 16/05/2025 00:31

SugarandSpiceandAllThingsNaice · 16/05/2025 00:19

The really horrific, painful, traumatic deaths are not ones happening to patients with even substandard palliative care in hospitals here, but in war zones.

I suspect you have witnessed the former, I have witnessed the latter.

I am sorry you were deeply traumatised by it, but that in no way justifies legalising a system that will kill innocents.

We don’t have the death penalty because of the risk of hanging even one person for murder who is innocent. If Peter Sullivan who just spent 38yrs in prison for a rape and murder he did not commit in 1987 had been convicted in 1957 he would have been hung.

Yet you think it is perfectly ok to send innocents to their death just so someone who is already dying can suffer a bit less and you watching them die, suffer a lot less. I think this is more about your feelings from watching someone die. Death is never going to be so sanitised, neat and unemotional. It will always be traumatic for the living. Assisted dying isn’t going to change that. Have you read ALL the reports of relatives that attend an assisted death? Because they’re not all positive.

Once again proving you haven't got a clue about the reality of what is being debated.

TooBigForMyBoots · 16/05/2025 00:31

SugarandSpiceandAllThingsNaice · 16/05/2025 00:29

Ffs, I’m talking about Canada, Netherlands, Oregon, Belgium…they’ve had people prosecuted for coercion but all have been unsuccessful. Even cases where the patient had said they didn’t want to die, was given drugged tea by a relative, then kicked the lethal injection out of the doctors hand, the doctor then had family hold her down and she was finally injected with the lethal drug. And died. Went to court, and no one was convicted of any wrong doing,

Ok. Do you have the stats for people prosecuted for coercion in countries where assisted dying is legal?

SugarandSpiceandAllThingsNaice · 16/05/2025 00:34

grapesandmelon · 16/05/2025 00:31

Once again proving you haven't got a clue about the reality of what is being debated.

You have nothing substantive to say I take it. A debate consists of engaging with the matter at hand, not calling someone clueless.

TooBigForMyBoots · 16/05/2025 00:35

MiloMinderbinder925 · 16/05/2025 00:28

You're undermining yourself. The bill hasn't gone through, therefore we're talking about hypothetical people.

However it's true that we have lots of evidence that abuse and murder happens and it's unlikely abusers won't use the bill. They have been known to 'euthanise' their partner's.

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Real people with terminal illnesses are having real conversations with their real loved ones about the end, right now. In real time in real life.

LunaTheCat · 16/05/2025 00:35

It has become legal in NZ .. there was a referendum where >50% voted for.. I voted against.
i have softened my stance a bit since because it’s being used appropriately and the doctors reviewing patients wishes are the most thoughtful, ethical people .. I know several.

OnlyDespairRemains · 16/05/2025 00:36

SugarandSpiceandAllThingsNaice · 16/05/2025 00:30

Both are facts. There is plenty of evidence of people being killed that did not want to die. It is a foregone conclusion. We are not so different and special that we will avoid it.

No it really isn't, no matter what you may say or think. Until it happens we cannot know for sure.

And even if it was to happen, how much suffering do you think is OK to prevent one case of coercion, or even two or three slipping through? Is it 100 people, 1000? No limit? Genuinely interested to know.

SugarandSpiceandAllThingsNaice · 16/05/2025 00:36

TooBigForMyBoots · 16/05/2025 00:31

Ok. Do you have the stats for people prosecuted for coercion in countries where assisted dying is legal?

No. I do not have them to hand. If you had read deeply about the issues in these countries, you would not be denying the existence of coerced deaths in significant enough numbers to be a barrier to implementation. In no country have the safeguards prevented these deaths.

MiloMinderbinder925 · 16/05/2025 00:38

TooBigForMyBoots · 16/05/2025 00:35

Real people with terminal illnesses are having real conversations with their real loved ones about the end, right now. In real time in real life.

Edited

Real people are being abused by partners; they're being beaten, raped and murdered as well as coerced. Like you said there's lots of evidence.

TooBigForMyBoots · 16/05/2025 00:38

SugarandSpiceandAllThingsNaice · 16/05/2025 00:36

No. I do not have them to hand. If you had read deeply about the issues in these countries, you would not be denying the existence of coerced deaths in significant enough numbers to be a barrier to implementation. In no country have the safeguards prevented these deaths.

How can you argue the existence of coerced deaths in significant numbers if you don't know the numbers?

SugarandSpiceandAllThingsNaice · 16/05/2025 00:41

OnlyDespairRemains · 16/05/2025 00:36

No it really isn't, no matter what you may say or think. Until it happens we cannot know for sure.

And even if it was to happen, how much suffering do you think is OK to prevent one case of coercion, or even two or three slipping through? Is it 100 people, 1000? No limit? Genuinely interested to know.

No limit. Otherwise we are prioritising criminals convicted of murder over the life of a person whose only crime is to be vulnerable to someone who wants them dead quickly, conveniently, and legally.

Easing suffering should never be justification to take even one human life.

TooBigForMyBoots · 16/05/2025 00:41

MiloMinderbinder925 · 16/05/2025 00:38

Real people are being abused by partners; they're being beaten, raped and murdered as well as coerced. Like you said there's lots of evidence.

I know. We don't make relationships or marriage or sex or pregnancy illegal in response though.

grapesandmelon · 16/05/2025 00:41

MiloMinderbinder925 · 16/05/2025 00:38

Real people are being abused by partners; they're being beaten, raped and murdered as well as coerced. Like you said there's lots of evidence.

Which, unfortunately, will continue regardless of this bill.

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