Sharing towels???

[LavenderFields7]

Inspired by another thread, do people actually have family towels that they share? This seems absolutely revolting to me 🤢

YABU - sharing towels is normal
YANBU - eww, everyone should have their own towel.

Hand towels in the bathroom and loo are for family use, each person has their own bath towel.

This is a very confused thread, as there are two different concepts here:

• having a “bank” of towels in a linen cupboard that people take for their personal use, until they get washed again; and
• people sharing a towel between washes.

i have never known anyone who doesn’t do the first (the “bank” of towels) - this has been across families in different income brackets and different countries.

On occasion yes even if they have been used by another person. Generally speaking we all have 2 towels each, all different colours so we know whose is whose but if for some reason ours isn't available we just grab the nearest one.

We are family, I've shared a lot worse with my husband and I grew the kids. We will happily share a drinks bottle and bath water although my husband doesn't have baths and it gets drained and redone if I've shaved or if there are suspicious bits from the kids.

Tiny cottage with one tiny bathroom. Radiator towel rail has 3 towels on it - communal hand towel, DH bath sheet, my bath towel (hanging on the end). Door has hook on it - DSs bath sheet hangs on that. If we have a house guest I put my towel on the bit of the banister next to the linen press internal fitted cupboard on the landing and provide a Victorian style wooden towel rack in the spare bedroom, that way they can either hang bath and hand towels I give them in bathroom or bedroom

We definitely have our own bath sheets and my Dcs did when they were here

have a cupboard full of towels in bathroom

I'm with you on the bank of towels, although I'm usually the one doling them out as I do towel washing

Honestly.. we just do this 🤣 only dh me and 7 year old. They get changed often

Not particularly superior. Just don’t like my vulva rubbed dry with the same fabric that’s rubbed across my son’s anus.
or anyone’s face dried with fabric that’s dried my vulva or anyone’s anus

Some people only have one bathroom. Most people don’t like their dc anus nor their dc lick their parents genitals.

Do all the non sharers have seperate sponges and flannels?

I'm not sure what you mean. If you mean people using the same towel without it being washed then I agree that is gross.
If you mean people not having individual towels that no one else ever uses, even after a wash, I think that is OTT.

Yes of course

What is revolting about sharing towels? You get in the shower, wash thoroughly, get out and dry yourself on a towel. You know, the body you’ve just cleaned.

I’m sure you’ve done far more revolting things in your life, like put an unwashed penis in your mouth, or picked up dog poo and been unable to wash your hands until your got home. Honestly, the pearl clutching.

I wash towels weekly. We each have our own towel.

Whenever these threads come up I just think how exhausting it sounds to be worried about stuff like this and I feel quite relieved to be on the slattern end of the spectrum.

I have come to the conclusion that other people dry themselves much more thoroughly than me. Rubbing the towel on your vulva? I wrap it around me for a minute or two until I'm air dried.

Yes the vulva and anus chat seemed way more perverse than a married couple sharing a towel imo but hey, everybody is different.

@lavenderlou haha yes me too!

It would be a whole lot weirder if they were referred to as bot bot and lady bits

Who the hell is drying their anus with a towel? Are you really spreading your cheeks and giving your bum hole a good old rub with the bath sheet?

How unlike the home life of oir own dear queen, as the saying goes.

Scrubbing my anus and labia folds? No. Patting my anus and labia dry? Absolutely.
men routinely dry around their ball sacks and between butt cheeks too.

who walks around with wet folds?

Presumably, you touch and kiss your partner and children (and touch other things they have handled, sat on, brushed against etc) on a daily basis.

You also, I would imagine, share a bed with your partner and have sex with him/her.

If you manage to do those things without recoiling in a fit of nausea, why are you then revolted by the thought of touching a towel that has been used to wipe fresh water from your family's clean, just-bathed bodies?

I live with my DP and I really don't give a single hoot whether we use the same towel. We share the same bed linen every night and we regularly have each other's genitals in our mouths so I can't see a towel being a problem.

If my partner and I were away and one of us had forgotten their toothbrush, then yeah, I'd share in an emergency. Toothpaste is antibacterial, neither of us have got gum disease or herpes or anything, and we've had our tongues in each other's mouths many times before, so a one-off toothbrush share isn't going to make any difference.

Own towels/flannel, but will share a bath towel with partner sometimes.
Would never share with anyone else tho, ever.

Do you have OCD? Because that's very irrational and disordered thinking.

Sharing a family member's towel for five minutes after a shower is going to affect you physically in no way whatsoever. At all.

Whereas spending a week throwing up and shitting liquid round the clock with D&V is, obviously, physically uncomfortable, painful and harmful. And stinks. And creates a mess. And can put you in hospital.

Fine if you don't like sharing towels, but if you would genuinely rather have a week of food poisoning/norovirus than dry yourself on a towel previously used by another person you live with, you are not thinking rationally at all and I would be concerned about that.