To just accept our son is not part of our lives anymore

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We were very close him growing up until he was 24 and still living at home, he met someone who took an instant dislike to all of us, his sisters and his grandparents and his father and stepmum so he stopped contact with all of us.
He very quickly moved in with her, stopped seeing his friends and they had a baby.
She kicked him out, he came home apologetic that she wouldn’t let him speak to any of us, his friends or relatives and he seemed to move on, had other relationships and continued a relationship with his dad and stepmum and grandparents, siblings etc.
Now he has got back together with her, and once again he has blocked us and his other family members and his friends as she has made it a condition of their reconciliation.
Do we just accept that he has made this choice and we are no longer part of his life or do we reach out occasionally so he knows we care but risk that causing trouble for him?

Thought exactly the same and it kind of infers blame on the op if she “gives up”. They aren’t both family, the female partner is not the ops family , it all sounds a bit eastenders (the poster not the op).

agree both with keeping the door open but also doing what’s right for you op and that may be a little bit of distance to keep your sanity.