Page 12 | To ask for things that happen on MN that you’ve never seen happen IRL

JandamiHash · 2025-05-08T22:35:23+00:00

I’ve never seen or heard a parent refer to their child as “sexy” I’ve never seen anyone having a nap on a public bench. I’ve never seen someone cajole their daughter into the aisle at a wedding so they can be a stealth bridesmaid All the above is what I’ve read about on MN recently that people do and have seen before done, regularly.

Picklepower · 09/05/2025 19:53

Never seen anyone wearing the hideous, expensive bin bag dresses that are regularly trotted out on S&B threads.

Never known any real life drama around a trans person in the women's toilet or other women's spaces.

Don't know anyone who happily lives on 1200 calories a day to remain slim and never has a treat or an alcoholic beverage.

Picklepower · 09/05/2025 20:00

3luckystars · 09/05/2025 16:00

I have never seen anyone react so badly to someone having an affair. Anyone I have heard about doing it, in real life, people don’t seem to care at all. Here, even having a dream about it is like a murder.

I think this says more about the people you socialise with than it does MN. Affairs are hideous behaviour and I've never been directly impacted by one

Fluffyyellowball · 09/05/2025 20:04

AffIt · 09/05/2025 00:23

I've never met anybody who's had sepsis (and I have a fairly broad and varied social circle), yet if half of the A&E threads on Mumsnet are to be believed, most people have had it at least four times.

Lucky you. My dad had sepsis and sadly passed away from it.
People need to be very aware of the signs and get medical help if they suspect it. If it gets mentioned on here and people get help then that could save a life.

Picklepower · 09/05/2025 20:07

Oh also, people who know no other people, have no family help and no friends. Don't have any support in an emergency. What a ridiculous situation to get yourself in to. To not even make a few acquaintances at the school gate for a school run emergency.

I assume these people exist but obviously I don't come across them because they won't talk to anybody

GingerLiberalFeminist · 09/05/2025 20:21

I've never been to a hen do lasting more than an evening, let alone a week and abroad! But maybe that's cos I have no friends

I've unwittingly worn white based floral dresses to weddings and not been pulled up on it.

I've never been to Centre Parks (soo much money!) but people seem to go several times a year on here!

I did however pay my parents board when I was working

I've never seen a trans woman in a ladies loo.

I've never had botox or any other surgery (the thought has crossed my mind though!)

TwistedWonder · 09/05/2025 20:21

FrillySocksAndDocs · 09/05/2025 16:05

My husband's affair caused me to have a complete mental breakdown, I was psychotic and even 15 months on I'm still on Prozac, lorazepm, quetiapine, propranolol and zopiclone. It has completely ruined my life.

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My work colleague committed suicide while she was pregnant when she discovered her husbands affair so yes I do judge cheats.

Crushed23 · 09/05/2025 20:34

XelaM · 09/05/2025 00:49

I must say I don't know anyone in real life who charges their young adult kids rent for living at home. This seems very common on MN, but I have never come across it in real life.

I have also never come across people who wouldn't invite their nieces/nephews to their weddings and insist on keeping them child-free at any cost. Again, a common occurrence on MN.

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Totally agree on the rent point. Virtually all of my university friends, as well as my siblings, spent some time living back home after university. Never heard of anyone paying their parents rent. I was shocked to read on MN that people charge their 18 year-olds rent - complete eye opener.

Disturbia81 · 09/05/2025 20:44

Picklepower · 09/05/2025 19:53

Never seen anyone wearing the hideous, expensive bin bag dresses that are regularly trotted out on S&B threads.

Never known any real life drama around a trans person in the women's toilet or other women's spaces.

Don't know anyone who happily lives on 1200 calories a day to remain slim and never has a treat or an alcoholic beverage.

No I’ve never met anyone bothered about trans, everyone I know is accepting and just live and let live, it doesn’t even register.

Picklepower · 09/05/2025 20:47

Most other adults I know are able to make proportionate risk assessments but on MN it seems common to be hype anxious and cautious. I've never seen any children at DD's infant school in a rear facing car seat but that's basically murder on MN. I also don't knowingly know anyone who won't drink alcohol at home in case their child needs a middle of the night trip to the hospital

TigerRag · 09/05/2025 20:51

How many people supposedly know so many people fraudulently claiming benefits

Surferosa · 09/05/2025 20:53

Picklepower · 09/05/2025 20:47

Most other adults I know are able to make proportionate risk assessments but on MN it seems common to be hype anxious and cautious. I've never seen any children at DD's infant school in a rear facing car seat but that's basically murder on MN. I also don't knowingly know anyone who won't drink alcohol at home in case their child needs a middle of the night trip to the hospital

Goodness yes. There was a thread recently where a mum had bought a booster seat for her daughter to use on the school trip and wasn't going to let her go otherwise. Cue loads of other posts from parents saying they wouldn't be letting their children on a school bus and would be driving them themselves and back from the school trip. Absolute madness!

localnotail · 09/05/2025 21:21

AubernFable · 09/05/2025 06:57

Saw someone else mention it on another thread like this but all these men with nondescript ‘hobbies’, like DH is off at/doing his hobby. With no indication of what it might be. Most men I know might do something like go to the gym, game, play with broken cars, fish or whatever but it’s never this big deal that they schedule like it seems to be here.

I think a lot of women on here are too embarrassed to say that their husbands are regularly going off to the local pub with their mates hence these non-descript "hobbies"

CarpetKnees · 09/05/2025 21:23

Or people don't want to keep adding details about themselves and their lives that are not relevant to their post or thread, so choose to be slightly more vague...

localnotail · 09/05/2025 21:33

Disturbia81 · 09/05/2025 09:32

Things I don’t see and I’m all over cities and towns working with people:

Age gap relationships and marriages
The plethora of women who are size 8. Average definitely 16 as the stats say
People judging SAHMS
Parents putting strict limits on screen time
Parents restricting junk food and only serving really healthy stuff
Women being invisible as they get older.. I see them become more visible and a part of the community

Hahahaa, come to east London, we have all of the above in huge quantities!!

Itisjustmyopinion · 09/05/2025 21:45

I have never known new parents say do not visit us after a birth we want to be in a bubble. Open invites to pop over and see the baby are the norm in my experience

Also never known parents refuse to have others look after their child whether that be family, friends or babysitters. The “I don’t leave my child with anyone” is only something I have heard on here . Most parents I know like a night out child free (and most of my friends here in London don’t live near family but still manage to get trusted sitters)

ForPearlViper · 09/05/2025 22:16

I am always astounded by the number of posters who encounter rudeness everywhere they go and/or everyone else being bad drivers. I don't understand why they don't reflect on the common denominator in these situations.

RenoDakota · 09/05/2025 22:18

I have never in my whole life met anyone who is emetic. It is practically compulsory on here.

AmadeustheAlpaca · 09/05/2025 22:27

Picklepower · 09/05/2025 19:53

Never seen anyone wearing the hideous, expensive bin bag dresses that are regularly trotted out on S&B threads.

Never known any real life drama around a trans person in the women's toilet or other women's spaces.

Don't know anyone who happily lives on 1200 calories a day to remain slim and never has a treat or an alcoholic beverage.

Totally agree about the hideous dresses. Most of the Syle and Beauty section is a great big advert with fake posters from various companies pretending to ask if a particularly frumpy tent would be good to wear to an imaginary wedding.
I'm always amazed by the amount of posters who claim to buy clothes at Boden, (insert name of overpriced unattractive clothing supplier) etc. Most people I know who are comfortably off buy their clothes at Next, supermarkets, M & S, H & M and cheaper online shops.

tobee · 09/05/2025 22:28

I don't know people who are shocked that some people earn tonnes more than them (and that this is how they can "afford stuff") and others earn lots less. And everything in between. Seems to be a constant surprise to people on here. And that people earning a good salary/have money for things must be lying.

Advising other people to go "no contact" quite so easily and that the no contactee should just accept it and not be sad.

Don't know people who are that bothered about being ghosted.

Also very few people answer on here "well it depends. It depends on my mood how I react"

changedForThis99 · 09/05/2025 22:42

JandamiHash · 08/05/2025 23:39

I’ve also never heard anyone just say “No” and follow up with nothing else because it’s apparently a complete sentence.

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You've not met my dd then 😅

PersonalBest · 09/05/2025 22:49

BadLad · 08/05/2025 23:43

I don’t know anybody too neurotic to answer their doorbell in the middle of the day, but that seems to be common on mumsnet.

Agree, have only heard of this here

PersonalBest · 09/05/2025 22:51

monktasmic · 09/05/2025 00:43

I’ve seen all those three listed in the OP.
i have also, in the past 2 months, had people in receipt of benefits tell me what they are getting - and what it’s for whilst thinking ‘you are exactly why the changes proposed are being brought in’. One had been ill some 20? years ago and the other has a child, no longer resident - about to complete their third year of a degree at a RG uni - he apparently needs her - she’s furious that a recent 6 figure inheritance means her benefits will stop. I was genuinely agog that she received benefits for him at all (I’m quite bleeding heart but was thinking ‘good, get a fucking job’)

I am struggling to believe this

DontReplyIWillLie · 09/05/2025 23:09

PersonalBest · 09/05/2025 22:49

Agree, have only heard of this here

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A lot of people assume this is down to “neurosis”. I think that’s actually pretty rare. I’ve started ignoring the door in the daytime because I’m WFH and it’s always someone who wants to sell me broadband or convert me.

Isittimeformynapyet · 09/05/2025 23:12

RenoDakota · 09/05/2025 22:18

I have never in my whole life met anyone who is emetic. It is practically compulsory on here.

Do you mean emetophobic?

I mean, I find Trump extremely nauseating, but he doesn't make me literally puke.

An ex of mine was an emetophobe. We both had some dodgy vodka in India - I puked prolifically, but he was so determined to hang on to that poison: writhing around in agony all night and day refusing to boak. I got over it but he was really ill and had to find a clinic. They gave him an emetic that he could not fight! Poor bugger.

RenoDakota · 09/05/2025 23:53

Isittimeformynapyet · 09/05/2025 23:12

Do you mean emetophobic?

I mean, I find Trump extremely nauseating, but he doesn't make me literally puke.

An ex of mine was an emetophobe. We both had some dodgy vodka in India - I puked prolifically, but he was so determined to hang on to that poison: writhing around in agony all night and day refusing to boak. I got over it but he was really ill and had to find a clinic. They gave him an emetic that he could not fight! Poor bugger.

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Yes, meant emetophobic and thought that was what I had written, oops.