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I need a British eye - what do you think of my Indian bridal outfit

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Vlonk · 07/05/2025 18:45

I’m getting married in July. The ceremony will take place in a church (Fiance is white Christian) followed by a reception in a country house known for its gardens. We will have a Sikh blessing at the temple the following day (I am borrowing a cousins outfit for that).

I will wear a white Saree to honour both my cultures (“white dress” plus Saree) for the church ceremony. I will then change into an Indian outfit called a lehengha. I plan to drink, dance and so lehenghas are considered easier to
manage than a sari.

So for Indian sensibilities the outfit I have fallen in love with (pic 1) is very plain and not “heavy”
enough for a bride. BUT I will be the only woman in Indian clothes. Everyone else will be in summer dresses (well maybe my mum will wear an Indian outfit).

So I have fallen in love with the colour and the fact that it is lighter and less fussy appeals somewhat. As does the price…

What do you think from an English or non Indian perspective? Would you be wowed

Just for reference the second image is more typical of Indian reception bridal wear.

I just don’t want to feel like a disco ball compared to everyone else. My hair will be very glam (luckily I’m blessed in that dept) and I think I have chosen a pretty make up look.

Indian jewellery is obviously quite extravagant so that will dress it up.

My cousins and sister think the first outfit is a complete no go.

I need a British eye - what do you think of my Indian bridal outfit
I need a British eye - what do you think of my Indian bridal outfit
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NoBinturongsHereMate · 07/05/2025 20:24

Go with what you love and will be comfortable in (mentally and physically).

Your first choice is beatiful, and the amount of fabric in the 'more traditional' option would be pretty heavy, and less manoeuvrable - great for sitting and being admired, less good if you want to be up and dancing.

CanOfMangoTango · 07/05/2025 20:24

OMG I love the saree , it's stunning.

Agree that the first outfit is the one if you like it more. I wore a version of that as a wedding guest last year but in a mixed wedding you will definitely stand out. The colours are beautiful. I hope you have a wonderful wedding.

Maybethisallthereis · 07/05/2025 20:25

Both absolutely gorgeous.. I’d love to wear one!

CousinBob · 07/05/2025 20:26

Absolutely beautiful

Merryoldgoat · 07/05/2025 20:30

What a lovely thread ❤️

Rosscameasdoody · 07/05/2025 20:32

The first one gets my vote. I can see how the second one would be considered more traditionally bridal because it’s more ornate, but l think the first one is elegant and beautiful. It’s the difference between understated and ‘meringue’!!

CharismaticPelican · 07/05/2025 20:33

It's absolutely beautiful!

miraxxx · 07/05/2025 20:34

Indian christians - there are millions of them!- wear white wedding saris in church with some bling (gold, silver threadwork on the saris) with no issues about them being less modest or looking too widowy to Hindu eyes. The wedding sari does not get the glam bollywood drape which shows lots of skin. It is a versatile garment that can cover every inch of you if you so wish.

www.google.com/search?client=firefox-b-d&sca_esv=b5b85f1110a5fb0d&sxsrf=AHTn8zpyqcqF3KhFudVXNYZVsuK1eMTc_Q:1746646138270&q=white+wedding+saree&udm=2&fbs=ABzOT_CWdhQLP1FcmU5B0fn3xuWpA-dk4wpBWOGsoR7DG5zJBsxayPSIAqObp_AgjkUGqemmTG2DFZE7tmKcXVp5H8R-R5rx2cv4LdpyiJ4nHnaj22nzwRLb038fZUcDagzuU5JMvWvtjGNLL7KXZuMGJ8jJcUt7C8AOlnuhFVueytR4tMw9VPc1DLuELRcJx-63pH51AnlFH8SKHOwWLbFKS1gU3p3P7g&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwjSzfr0i5KNAxUCyzgGHZEeHRMQtKgLegQIFBAB&biw=1485&bih=703&dpr=1.25

Wear what you want OP. Your choices are fab.

Merryoldgoat · 07/05/2025 20:35

I hope this isn’t inappropriate but I’m gutted I’m not Indian if this is traditional wedding wear - you must all look absolutely beautiful.

ZoeCM · 07/05/2025 20:36

OP, both outfits are beautiful. I think I slightly prefer the first one. Congratulations on your wedding.

TheMousePipes · 07/05/2025 20:43

You’re going to look amazing - both your choices are absolutely glorious.

More pressingly, bollocks to what anyone else thinks - wear the dress that you adore.

Thirteeneggs · 07/05/2025 20:48

I love all of them. Hope you have an amazing wedding.

Naunet · 07/05/2025 20:49

Absolutely beautiful!

MyDeftDuck · 07/05/2025 20:52

That is beautiful!

CalleOcho · 07/05/2025 20:54

Absolutely stunning!

I love the effort that goes into South Asian weddings, as well as the traditions.

Congratulations, hope you have an amazing wedding day (or week! Haha) 💐

CuriousQuestioningGal · 07/05/2025 20:56

Vlonk · 07/05/2025 18:45

I’m getting married in July. The ceremony will take place in a church (Fiance is white Christian) followed by a reception in a country house known for its gardens. We will have a Sikh blessing at the temple the following day (I am borrowing a cousins outfit for that).

I will wear a white Saree to honour both my cultures (“white dress” plus Saree) for the church ceremony. I will then change into an Indian outfit called a lehengha. I plan to drink, dance and so lehenghas are considered easier to
manage than a sari.

So for Indian sensibilities the outfit I have fallen in love with (pic 1) is very plain and not “heavy”
enough for a bride. BUT I will be the only woman in Indian clothes. Everyone else will be in summer dresses (well maybe my mum will wear an Indian outfit).

So I have fallen in love with the colour and the fact that it is lighter and less fussy appeals somewhat. As does the price…

What do you think from an English or non Indian perspective? Would you be wowed

Just for reference the second image is more typical of Indian reception bridal wear.

I just don’t want to feel like a disco ball compared to everyone else. My hair will be very glam (luckily I’m blessed in that dept) and I think I have chosen a pretty make up look.

Indian jewellery is obviously quite extravagant so that will dress it up.

My cousins and sister think the first outfit is a complete no go.

Love number one. I think it’s gorgeous. Best of luck and have an amazing day whatever you decide.

Nanny0gg · 07/05/2025 20:57

Vlonk · 07/05/2025 18:45

I’m getting married in July. The ceremony will take place in a church (Fiance is white Christian) followed by a reception in a country house known for its gardens. We will have a Sikh blessing at the temple the following day (I am borrowing a cousins outfit for that).

I will wear a white Saree to honour both my cultures (“white dress” plus Saree) for the church ceremony. I will then change into an Indian outfit called a lehengha. I plan to drink, dance and so lehenghas are considered easier to
manage than a sari.

So for Indian sensibilities the outfit I have fallen in love with (pic 1) is very plain and not “heavy”
enough for a bride. BUT I will be the only woman in Indian clothes. Everyone else will be in summer dresses (well maybe my mum will wear an Indian outfit).

So I have fallen in love with the colour and the fact that it is lighter and less fussy appeals somewhat. As does the price…

What do you think from an English or non Indian perspective? Would you be wowed

Just for reference the second image is more typical of Indian reception bridal wear.

I just don’t want to feel like a disco ball compared to everyone else. My hair will be very glam (luckily I’m blessed in that dept) and I think I have chosen a pretty make up look.

Indian jewellery is obviously quite extravagant so that will dress it up.

My cousins and sister think the first outfit is a complete no go.

They're absolutely stunning. Slightly prefer the 1st one but no2 bit more bridal

And as the bride, you should stand out from anyone else

HTH

Yeetpetite · 07/05/2025 21:00

It’s stunning, love it! I have Indian friends and am always jealous of their beautiful wedding outfits 😍 hope you have an amazing wedding!

Glitchymn1 · 07/05/2025 21:01

Number 2, but with the (sorry I don’t know the name) long flowing scarf item. Both are gorgeous. I googled Indian wedding dress, so went for the second dress.

Dee9409 · 07/05/2025 21:01

I love the second outfit! It is def ‘wow’ who cares if people think it’s over the top you’re representing your culture and it is way better than the sari. The lengha definitely top class! Wish I could get married again and choose a new outfit.

HeartyViper · 07/05/2025 21:01

It’s absolutely gorgeous!

MrsIcandothis · 07/05/2025 21:10

No. 2 is perfect, dazzling, over the top in a good way, and just perfect 😍

Enjoy your day, whatever you decide would be so beautiful. Congratulations 🎊

KhakiOrca · 07/05/2025 21:15

Both are absolutely stunning. But I love the second one a bit more.

godmum56 · 07/05/2025 21:17

It is absolutely your choice and your cousins can shut up. Both are beautiful but I agree with you about pic 1. I'd say its more sophisticated thsn pic 2

Pollyanna87 · 07/05/2025 21:19

Both are lovely, but the second is glorious. I love extravagant Indian fashion.