This is cheeky fuckery right?

[MNpenisadvisor]

I live in a block of flats, one of my neighbours knows that my car is fucked and had to be recovered from the hard shoulder on Friday.
The recovery guy said what he thought it was but I wanted to know for sure so I booked (and paid) for a mobile mechanic come out to have a butchers.
Me and DH go out to meet them and neighbour comes out instantly and starts asking the techs loads of questions about his own car! Obviously the mechanics don't know he's just a random neighbour so they answer but I can see they're thinking erm you paid for us to do one thing not diagnose multiple cars.
I turned to neighbour and said oh you are a nosy neighbour aren't you and he pretty much huffed off. But that's a rude thing to do right? Or is it just me.

Wrong again… ‘wouldn’t have written it’

@MNpenisadvisor YANBU OP and your neighbour is a CF, but I'm confused by what you said to him. Why call him "nosy" when what you should actually have said to him was "Er, do you mind, I've booked - and am paying for - this mechanic to come out and look at my car. If you want to ask him questions about your car, you can book - and pay for - your own appointment."

ah, the #benice brigade

Why be ‘nice’ though? Mechanics often charge by the time they take to do the job, having a neighbour shoehorn into your slot a) means they are distracted from the job in hand and b) may take longer to complete it. The CF neighbour knew they were being cheap and intrusive otherwise they would have sheepishly apologised, not gone off in a huff.

Yes… your neighbour is a dick. You should have asked him if he was planning on paying.

I was going to say the same as you about this poster. I don't often recognise names, but this one sticks in my mind as they're being totally contrary all over the board.

As for OP's neighbour, they're definitely a CF, but it seems to be standard practice for many people these days!

I clicked on the thread not thinking it was at all controversial then these two dimwits showed up 😂

I would have just told the mechanic, that guy's car has nothing to do with me, he's just a neighbour. That way he's aware, he's a neighbour asking, and nothing to do with you. Then he could have said here's my business card or I'll cone and have a look afterwards. I've had neighbours stop my builder/ car screen repair guy and window cleaner for a quote. They just give a business card or say I'll pop over when I'm done here. I'm not bothered as long as they finish my job first! It's more business for them too.

I have a neighbour like this. Every delivery driver he stops to ask if the parcel, they are in my garden to deliver, is for him.
He questions every workman I have. Anyone who visits. He's a pain in the ass!

Nothing to do with it.

It was rude, cheeky, entitled and lots of other things for the neighbour to intrude in this way. Would you walk into a doctor's consultation and start asking about your own health issues?

It's a bit like people who bother professionals (lawyers, doctors, accountants) with their personal questions in social situations. No manners or even common sense!

@CautiousLurker01 and @67676767ttt I can't see what's wrong with trying a calm approach first. If it doesn't work, then you can be more forceful and assertive. But if you go in being aggressive from the start, it just makes people defensive and things escalate. Now OP has made an enemy of her neighbour and the neighbour will be reflecting on her hostility rather his own bad behaviour. I don't call that a good outcome.

My neighbour often comes out if I'm having a parcel delivered, in case I'm not in then he'll take it. He chats to every visitor I have if he's around.

He's old, bored and also the best neighbour in the world and I love him to pieces ❤️ 😂

Mine is everything you said but nice. He just took a disliking to us one day after 8 years of being fine and now he does anything he can to piss me off. You're lucky yours is good x

I think this is just filed under people being people. They probably just wanted to be nosy and thats the 'related conversation' topic they thought of.

A while back I was selling my car, it was a non runner and had suddenly developed a serious engine fault (hence selling it) and a person came to buy it.

A person who lives down the street, who I have never even spoke to before in the 10 years they lived here, came out of their house and gave the poor confused man an aggressive lecture on how he should 'be ashamed' and 'buy me a better car in future' because 'this piece of shits always breaking down' (no it wasn't, it ran fine for 5 years with standard maintenance an old car needs).

I'm a middle aged woman, so obviously I bought my own car (why would a man buy me a car). I assume the point was the comment on it 'always breaking' and was actually a veiled message to the buyer to scupper the sale but the guy knew it was a non runner as it was listed as such and couldn't even be started to drive away.

It was just all round bizarre, they have never once spoken to us again since either. They just dropped in caused a confusing fuss and left. The man still happily bought the car.

This thread 😂

Yes the neighbour was a CF, he was most likely just trying to get some free advice regarding his car. I don't think you were rude op.

@CellophaneFlower I have a neighbour like that. As soon as I moved in, he was the first to say hello and tell me all about the area - and himself. He's always keen to chat (sometimes when I'd rather not!) but will also help out when I need it - watering plants when I'm away, lending me a ladder etc. My next door neighbours have barely spoken a word to me in 5 years, which is fine. They're young and busy. But it's nice to have the chatty one around.

Nah. Op was probably paying a hefty call out charge for this. The neighbour was rude to just turn up as the mechanic arrived and take their attention away from ops car to try and get free advice.

Maybe if the neighbour came in towards the end of the call out and asked the mechanic if they could ask some questions then fair enough as op would have already finished with the mechanic and the mechanic would then decide if the neighbour had to pay for advice or not. But the neighbour musselling in right at the start was basically because they wanted to use ops call out fee to get free advice for themselves before the mechanic realised they weren't talking to the paying customer. Very much a CF.

Ah, that's different then. Makes such a difference when you have good neighbours.

My one did annoy me once as he took it upon himself to paint the bricks along my flowerbed not long after I'd moved in, when he did his own (we share a large corner drive). I didn't have the heart to tell him off but think I must have been noticeably upset as he was very sheepish for a while after.

He painted his own again recently and was sure to ask before he touched ours this time. I didn't particularly want them done but let him crack on anyway as I knew it would make him happy and feel useful. He's always out there sweeping the whole area and trims my bushes too 😂

hi neighbour
The mechanic wasn't there for you. You want mechanic advice, book your own

HTH

I'd say he was nosy in the sense that he was obviously fully aware that op was getting a call out and was ready to jump in as soon as he saw the mechanic. A non nosy neighbour wouldn't even notice that their neighbours car broke down and needed a call out mechanic.

However, nosy neighbour is a bit of a reach, I would have called him out for using the time that op had paid for and would have asked for him to come back once the mechanic has finished looked at the ops car. I'd certainly be pissed off and irritated if a neighbour turned up to my call out and tried to take over the visit that I had paid for.

*there time

At least he learned his lesson. This twat got annoyed because some rough casting had fallen off my wall and he called our housing association to get it repaired. We don't share a building so it didn't affect him in the slightest. Plus I had already reported it. Busy body!!

My one appeared even before I'd bought the house! When I viewed, he came knocking at the door with a parcel and I could see him peering over the shoulder of the then owner 🤣🤣

He is lovely though. He actually complains if he hasn't heard my boys playing in the garden as loves hearing them and when I apologise profusely for yet another ball that's been kicked over into his lovely garden, he tells me off and says that's what gardens are for... despite even his grandchildren being far too old for garden trashing!

It's actually their time 😂

Wouldn’t bother me in the slightest. My car would still be looked at and it wouldn’t cost anymore.