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To not be happy about paying this much tax

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Lovingthehamsterwheel · 06/05/2025 11:42

Name changed to enable objectivity.
I just saw this new tax calculator that shows you how much tax you are paying in total, including all hidden taxes, council tax etc

For a Person on 75k a year, 44 percent of earnings go on tax.

10k of that is spent on welfare.

Am i being unreasonable to think this is absolutely a terrible time to be alive in terms of taxes in the UK. And it is no wonder higher earners are leaving the country.

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EasternStandard · 08/05/2025 17:59

Whatevernext9 · 08/05/2025 16:58

They really aren’t. Compared to similar countries (Canada, Nordic countries) there are more disabled people in poverty in the UK. Benefits are proportionately lower and social welfare - accessible and affordable facilities - is generally worse here than in comparable countries.

What’s the overall spend on this like on comparable basis? Ie do we have more people needing support?

MumofCandRA · 08/05/2025 18:04

Ablondiebutagoody · 08/05/2025 07:20

Presumably your high-earning job has nothing to do with economics.

Touché - and yours nothing to do with a caring profession.

ParsnipPuree · 08/05/2025 18:07

Ablondiebutagoody · 06/05/2025 11:48

I agree with you. Far, far too many non-contributers who think that they are entitled to other people's money. And a Labour Government that agrees with them.

Yup. Dh is in top 0.1% of earners in uk and we’re considering upping sticks in the next couple of years. I know I’ll be vilified for saying this, whereas if someone on 100k says it they are
seen To be justified. There comes a point when it’s just not worth it.

BassesAreBest · 08/05/2025 18:13

Frequency · 08/05/2025 16:44

Someone with ADHD is not getting £2500 a month in PIP. The most you can get is £187 a week, which includes the enhanced rate for daily living and mobility, which someone with ADHD would not be entitled to.

To get anywhere near the amount OP is bringing home, you would need to have or be caring for someone with profound disabilities and needing assistance from carers.

No, but if they’re getting PIP or DLA at any level then the benefits cap is disapplied

Whatevernext9 · 08/05/2025 18:20

EasternStandard · 08/05/2025 17:59

What’s the overall spend on this like on comparable basis? Ie do we have more people needing support?

UK spends about 2% of GDP on disability benefits, which is lower than France, Germany, Denmark, Finland Netherlands, Sweden and Norway (the last three are all above 3%). Around 22% of working adults report a disability which is roughly European average. PIP is unusual - in that it’s not means tested, so a broader eligibility. PIP claims have doubled since introduction (in 2013) but hard to draw single conclusion from that. Mental health/neurodiversity is a large proportion of new claims and so we could arguably do better at providing common services and support for mental health/neuro differences, which would negate the need for some PIP claims. But that’s quite a big structural move at a time when public services and physical health care is also pretty fucked.

Whatevernext9 · 08/05/2025 18:26

ParsnipPuree · 08/05/2025 18:07

Yup. Dh is in top 0.1% of earners in uk and we’re considering upping sticks in the next couple of years. I know I’ll be vilified for saying this, whereas if someone on 100k says it they are
seen To be justified. There comes a point when it’s just not worth it.

That’s great news for you and your family. You should do what makes you happy. I’m a bit confused at the way you’ve portrayed it as a negative for the rest of us though.

Ablondiebutagoody · 08/05/2025 19:14

MumofCandRA · 08/05/2025 18:04

Touché - and yours nothing to do with a caring profession.

Aha, it becomes clear. Pure self-interest on your part. High-earning nose in the taxpayer trough.

ParsnipPuree · 08/05/2025 19:48

Whatevernext9 · 08/05/2025 18:26

That’s great news for you and your family. You should do what makes you happy. I’m a bit confused at the way you’ve portrayed it as a negative for the rest of us though.

Great news for us that there’s no point in us staying? I wouldn’t call it that. I’d rather it was worth dh’s while to have his business here and create jobs here.

Dumbdog · 08/05/2025 20:00

rainingsnoring · 08/05/2025 13:55

I agree that wealth has little to do with being particularly deserving, certainly not in a moral sense. Sometimes it is certainly related to an individual working particularly hard, or being particularly skilled, but definitely not always.

But what does 'deserving' even mean? No one deserves a holiday. It is a luxury, not a basic essential, such as a home or nutritious food. A disabled person can't be said to 'deserve' a holiday more than a tax payer who cannot afford one themselves. I don't think the other poster said anything unreasonable. People deserve dignity, care, housing, etc but tax payer funded luxuries is a different matter.

Massively disagree. There is so much evidence that rest, recuperation, change of scenery, shared fun experiences etc are essential to our wellbeing. I don’t subscribe to the bare basics of survival (food, water, shelter) being enough.

the PP made a value judgment about the disabled person being less deserving than the taxpayer, which is untrue.

You could argue neither deserve the holiday more than the other, but I would argue that someone incapable of earning, and whose life is already marred by entirely accidental disability, deserves the holiday much more.

Alexandra2001 · 08/05/2025 20:03

ParsnipPuree · 08/05/2025 18:07

Yup. Dh is in top 0.1% of earners in uk and we’re considering upping sticks in the next couple of years. I know I’ll be vilified for saying this, whereas if someone on 100k says it they are
seen To be justified. There comes a point when it’s just not worth it.

Highest taxes for 75 years have occurred under a Tory Govt... yet its Labours doing!!! unbelievable.

Up sticks then, it really doesn't matter, my DD went to work in Australia, its not a crime to do this, had a great time and had amazing experiences there, really enjoyed it.

The UK has had, still has, more than its fair share of high wealth individuals, yet has seen GDP slump over the last 17 years.. other countries, with far fewer wealthy folk, have done a lot better...

So you re not really as important as you like to think you are.

Shwish · 08/05/2025 20:16

ParsnipPuree · 08/05/2025 19:48

Great news for us that there’s no point in us staying? I wouldn’t call it that. I’d rather it was worth dh’s while to have his business here and create jobs here.

So stay then? Honestly I don't get it. If you want to live as part of a society you contribute fairly to that society. It IS fair (other than the insane cliff edges - they're definitely not fair and it should be tapered) if you are lucky enough to have a massive income (which if your DH is in the 0.1% you are) then you pay a big chunk in. That's just how it goes. My DH is also a very high net contributer (me less so!) but we're happy with that. We have no wish to just hoard more and more money. We want to live in a society. One with healthcare and education and homes for everyone. Even from a selfish perspective I want that. I don't want disease spreading because people can't afford to see a doctor, or massive crime rates because people can't afford to live. I honestly can't understand the mentality of you thinking you'd rather leave than pay tax!

LookingForRecommendation · 08/05/2025 20:26

Shwish · 08/05/2025 20:16

So stay then? Honestly I don't get it. If you want to live as part of a society you contribute fairly to that society. It IS fair (other than the insane cliff edges - they're definitely not fair and it should be tapered) if you are lucky enough to have a massive income (which if your DH is in the 0.1% you are) then you pay a big chunk in. That's just how it goes. My DH is also a very high net contributer (me less so!) but we're happy with that. We have no wish to just hoard more and more money. We want to live in a society. One with healthcare and education and homes for everyone. Even from a selfish perspective I want that. I don't want disease spreading because people can't afford to see a doctor, or massive crime rates because people can't afford to live. I honestly can't understand the mentality of you thinking you'd rather leave than pay tax!

Because the money doesn’t actually achieve those things now. Look around you.

I went back to my hometown in 2013 and was pleasantly surprised by how much it had improved compared to the 2000s when I lived there. I went again last month and was shocked - rubbish and graffiti everywhere, boarded up shops, endless vape/barber/nail bars. It was grotty, felt menacing and a bit sad.

In our new hometown our local library looks set to close as council tax funnels off into social care, and the swimming pool and leisure facilities went a long time ago. The bins in the park are boarded up because they can’t afford to empty them regularly enough, the centre is tired and depressing with the flowerbeds either vandalised or full of rubbish. Gangs of teenagers sit around vaping and yelling obscenities at passersby.

All the money now goes on social care, the NHS and benefits. People are depressed as our quality of life - the leisure time, the green spaces, things to do, a pleasant town to walk through - are all being degraded to prop up an increasingly needy minority who keep demanding more more more, nothing is ever enough for them.

Whatevernext9 · 08/05/2025 20:29

ParsnipPuree · 08/05/2025 19:48

Great news for us that there’s no point in us staying? I wouldn’t call it that. I’d rather it was worth dh’s while to have his business here and create jobs here.

If there’s ’no point’ staying because you pay more tax than you’d like then yes, it is good news for you that you’re making plans for an alternate life. ‘No point’ suggests you don’t have any family or friends or attachments here, don’t enjoy anything about your life here and are focused solely on how much money you have. That sounds like an awful way to live so I hope you can find a better life abroad.

Whatevernext9 · 08/05/2025 20:37

LookingForRecommendation · 08/05/2025 20:26

Because the money doesn’t actually achieve those things now. Look around you.

I went back to my hometown in 2013 and was pleasantly surprised by how much it had improved compared to the 2000s when I lived there. I went again last month and was shocked - rubbish and graffiti everywhere, boarded up shops, endless vape/barber/nail bars. It was grotty, felt menacing and a bit sad.

In our new hometown our local library looks set to close as council tax funnels off into social care, and the swimming pool and leisure facilities went a long time ago. The bins in the park are boarded up because they can’t afford to empty them regularly enough, the centre is tired and depressing with the flowerbeds either vandalised or full of rubbish. Gangs of teenagers sit around vaping and yelling obscenities at passersby.

All the money now goes on social care, the NHS and benefits. People are depressed as our quality of life - the leisure time, the green spaces, things to do, a pleasant town to walk through - are all being degraded to prop up an increasingly needy minority who keep demanding more more more, nothing is ever enough for them.

That’s a pretty depressing picture, but what is it you want money to be spent on that you think would change that?

I live in a very deprived part of the country that is going through a period of fashionable regeneration. A fairly recent change in the council has meant a lot more investment in social housing, in grassroots health and wellbeing projects and arts education. It’s a long way from perfect but there are improvements - not because there’s more money but because it’s being managed differently.

Shwish · 08/05/2025 20:44

LookingForRecommendation · 08/05/2025 20:26

Because the money doesn’t actually achieve those things now. Look around you.

I went back to my hometown in 2013 and was pleasantly surprised by how much it had improved compared to the 2000s when I lived there. I went again last month and was shocked - rubbish and graffiti everywhere, boarded up shops, endless vape/barber/nail bars. It was grotty, felt menacing and a bit sad.

In our new hometown our local library looks set to close as council tax funnels off into social care, and the swimming pool and leisure facilities went a long time ago. The bins in the park are boarded up because they can’t afford to empty them regularly enough, the centre is tired and depressing with the flowerbeds either vandalised or full of rubbish. Gangs of teenagers sit around vaping and yelling obscenities at passersby.

All the money now goes on social care, the NHS and benefits. People are depressed as our quality of life - the leisure time, the green spaces, things to do, a pleasant town to walk through - are all being degraded to prop up an increasingly needy minority who keep demanding more more more, nothing is ever enough for them.

But the massive social care budget is due to an aging population primarily. Which pretty much every country (with a few exceptions in Africa) is also experiencing. Why do you think it'd be hugely different elsewhere? We need to pay MORE tax. But we also need to look at taxing wealth and removing some of the freebies that are given to wealthy individuals just because of their old age. Also national insurance is a joke. It should be added to regular tax so that everyone pays it. Makes no sense it's only paid by workers.

nearlylovemyusername · 08/05/2025 20:50

Snailiewhalie · 08/05/2025 07:48

"I'm a bit baffled as to why a daycare centre receives so much tax payer funding that they can afford trips to Disney land?! I'm shocked tbh.
Why do folks on benefits deserve a trip to Disneyland when those who paid the taxes can't afford it?
I could understand if the family paid for it, but not taxpayers, whilst the NHS sinks..."

What a disgusting post.

why?

rainingsnoring · 08/05/2025 21:23

Dumbdog · 08/05/2025 20:00

Massively disagree. There is so much evidence that rest, recuperation, change of scenery, shared fun experiences etc are essential to our wellbeing. I don’t subscribe to the bare basics of survival (food, water, shelter) being enough.

the PP made a value judgment about the disabled person being less deserving than the taxpayer, which is untrue.

You could argue neither deserve the holiday more than the other, but I would argue that someone incapable of earning, and whose life is already marred by entirely accidental disability, deserves the holiday much more.

I think you have misunderstood what the other poster said and also what I said.
The other poster said that someone who cannot afford a holiday themselves should not be funding a holiday for someone else. They didn't say that a disabled person is less deserving.

'There is so much evidence that rest, recuperation, change of scenery, shared fun experiences etc are essential to our wellbeing'
Agreed. I said very similar in an earlier post. You don't need to go to Disney Land to achieve these things though! That's a luxury and told unnecessary for anyone's well being.

Dumbdog · 08/05/2025 21:37

rainingsnoring · 08/05/2025 21:23

I think you have misunderstood what the other poster said and also what I said.
The other poster said that someone who cannot afford a holiday themselves should not be funding a holiday for someone else. They didn't say that a disabled person is less deserving.

'There is so much evidence that rest, recuperation, change of scenery, shared fun experiences etc are essential to our wellbeing'
Agreed. I said very similar in an earlier post. You don't need to go to Disney Land to achieve these things though! That's a luxury and told unnecessary for anyone's well being.

I don’t read the post like that. I (and others who have called it disgusting) interpret it as her saying the disabled person deserves it less than the taxpayer.

But it’s a bit pointless arguing the toss.

Disneyland is a luxury - but so what? Plenty of money is spent on things other people consider unnecessary. Street parties, IVF, making tax digital, Christmas lights, LTNs. Everyone has their own opinion on government spending, but of all the ‘wastes of money’, a disabled kid going to Disneyland seems lovely.

rainingsnoring · 08/05/2025 21:43

Dumbdog · 08/05/2025 21:37

I don’t read the post like that. I (and others who have called it disgusting) interpret it as her saying the disabled person deserves it less than the taxpayer.

But it’s a bit pointless arguing the toss.

Disneyland is a luxury - but so what? Plenty of money is spent on things other people consider unnecessary. Street parties, IVF, making tax digital, Christmas lights, LTNs. Everyone has their own opinion on government spending, but of all the ‘wastes of money’, a disabled kid going to Disneyland seems lovely.

Agree that there is plenty of other appalling waste and decision making about how to spend tax payer money. My general view is that cut backs inevitably need to be made now and that essentials need to be prioritised over other things on a personal and societal level.

NeedASafeSpace · 08/05/2025 21:50

Notonthestairs · 08/05/2025 14:41

The Op's disabled brothers daycare centre has had received funding to take some disabled adults away.

There is no detail as to where the funding has emanated from.

There are of course some centres run by local councils but there are others that are run by charities and some centres that will have applied for funding from other sources (like the National Lottery, Comic Relief etc).

Jumping to the assumption that its taxpayers money isnt particularly helpful.

There is a day centre near me for adults with LD. They go on group trips abroad once a year.
You can look up charities on the Gov.uk site, where it shows where their money comes from. The one I mention had £54k in government grants last year.
I hope the service users had a bloody good time.

Dumbdog · 08/05/2025 21:51

rainingsnoring · 08/05/2025 21:43

Agree that there is plenty of other appalling waste and decision making about how to spend tax payer money. My general view is that cut backs inevitably need to be made now and that essentials need to be prioritised over other things on a personal and societal level.

Yeah, but how do we make those decisions? And whose priorities are we following?

Are we cutting SEN funding and disability visibility because it’s cheaper to go back to institutions? Mental health provisions because asylums were more cost effective? IVF because having kids is a luxury? Shooting stray dogs because the pound is too costly?

The other way to deal with not having enough money is to get everyone to put a little more in the pot.

monktasmic · 08/05/2025 22:23

I mean, it’s not a good calculator as you’ve been told. I pay a tonne of tax (more than I earned a few years back) but I think that’s what people in a civilised society do.
im paying to educate teachers and doctors of the future, the building of roads, schools and hospitals- the pensions of ever increasing numbers of OAP’s and for them to receive care.

It’s what those of us who can pay, should pay for.

ParsnipPuree · 08/05/2025 23:37

Whatevernext9 · 08/05/2025 20:29

If there’s ’no point’ staying because you pay more tax than you’d like then yes, it is good news for you that you’re making plans for an alternate life. ‘No point’ suggests you don’t have any family or friends or attachments here, don’t enjoy anything about your life here and are focused solely on how much money you have. That sounds like an awful way to live so I hope you can find a better life abroad.

Unfortunately it isn’t good news for the economy, Is it, if high taxpayers take their business elsewhere, which is exactly what is happening. We have a great life here.. plenty of family, friends and attachments, but the way things are going, most of them will come with us so it’s a win-win.

Easy to be so righteous when it’s someone else’s money I guess.

Frequency · 09/05/2025 00:25

ParsnipPuree · 08/05/2025 23:37

Unfortunately it isn’t good news for the economy, Is it, if high taxpayers take their business elsewhere, which is exactly what is happening. We have a great life here.. plenty of family, friends and attachments, but the way things are going, most of them will come with us so it’s a win-win.

Easy to be so righteous when it’s someone else’s money I guess.

There is always someone in your shadow ready to step into your place, no matter how special you believe you are.

Out of interest, does your husband pay his workers the real living wage, or am I and other taxpayers propping up his wage bill?

Whatevernext9 · 09/05/2025 00:45

ParsnipPuree · 08/05/2025 23:37

Unfortunately it isn’t good news for the economy, Is it, if high taxpayers take their business elsewhere, which is exactly what is happening. We have a great life here.. plenty of family, friends and attachments, but the way things are going, most of them will come with us so it’s a win-win.

Easy to be so righteous when it’s someone else’s money I guess.

Well, that depends doesn’t it. The number of high earners has grown over the last decade or so, but the economy hasn’t. I’m sure we’ll manage fine.

it’s great news for you if you can go somewhere else, keep even more of your money and take all your friends and family with you. You seem so bitter for someone who also seems to have such a great life with so many options. Guess money really doesn’t buy happiness 🤷‍♀️