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To ask when you receive an item from Vinted, you don’t click ‘Accept order’

96 replies

Cherrysoup · 05/05/2025 11:48

Obviously if you are happy to accept it? Why do people not bother? It takes seconds. I prefer to use my Vinted balance if I want to buy something. I always click to accept if it’s as described.

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sprigatito · 05/05/2025 18:59

I have bought a couple of things on Vinted and I have no idea what you’re all talking about! I assumed I just paid and that was it.

I might use Vinted a bit more often if their website wasn’t so appalling. I get sick of backing out of an item and having to scroll through hundreds of things I’ve already seen to get back to where I was.

Cherrysoup · 05/05/2025 19:00

I’ve had messages from the seller almost as soon as I’ve picked something up, then gone straight to the supermarket. No, not going to open it in Sainsbury, sorry! Another messaged asking me to release the money, it was a quid. Again, I didn’t go straight home, give me a chance! In my OP, I should have said within about 24 hours. Am I the only one who likes getting parcels and opening them? A buyer left it to autopay til today, a brand item. I never sell anything I wouldn’t be happy to get myself. Anything less than perfect goes to charity. As for posting, it’s always next day with me. I have a post office opposite work and an Inpost locker on the way in.

Re eBay, I tend to avoid it now due to people not paying for so long, then it has to be re-listed if they decide against paying! It’s frustrating on there. At least with Vinted, you’re guaranteed payment if it matches the description, never had anyone complain, although someone said last week that they didn’t know how low a top was and that it had a glittery material. The photos were really clear, as was the description of a low neck/glittery material!

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Cherrysoup · 05/05/2025 19:16

sprigatito · 05/05/2025 18:59

I have bought a couple of things on Vinted and I have no idea what you’re all talking about! I assumed I just paid and that was it.

I might use Vinted a bit more often if their website wasn’t so appalling. I get sick of backing out of an item and having to scroll through hundreds of things I’ve already seen to get back to where I was.

You get an automated email saying Accept order. Maybe it’s going to your spam folder?

Re having to look at stuff you already saw, click the Vinted logo top left and the page refreshes to show you new stuff or just fresh refresh, the circle thing on the computer/ipad or swipe down on a phone and it refreshes everything.

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Youbutterbelieve · 05/05/2025 19:26

I usually collect my parcels on my way to take the kids to an after school activity and don't get an opportunity to open and inspect them until the following lunchtime.

I always inspect thoroughly and in good light as I've been caught before so not going to do a rush job.

I'm also a vinted seller so I do understand, but I'd rather not be stung.

blindblinds · 05/05/2025 19:32

Things like Vinted show how quirky some
people are!

blindblinds · 05/05/2025 19:34

Am I the only one who likes getting parcels and opening them?

Yes, but I wouldn't open them in public & sometimes you just distracted. I had an Amazon delivery yesterday morning but only opened it a few hours ago because i've been busy and out of the house.

blindblinds · 05/05/2025 19:37

So I have £103 pending, if buyers click a button I would get money sooner?

YearlySubscriptionRenewal · 05/05/2025 19:44

latetothefisting · 05/05/2025 18:35

it's 2 days, get a grip. Sometimes people aren't home when the item is delivered. Sometimes they might have something else to do than immediately check a parcel.

Saying 'you don't know why they sold it, they might really need the money,' is ridiculous. If people are so desperate for the £2.50 they've got from flogging a second hand t shirt then they should use fb marketplace or take it to a car boot sale.

If they can wait the weeks/months/years between putting it up and someone buying it, and the further several days between it getting posted and delivered, then another 48 hrs isn't going to make a difference between life or death.

Edited

Check your privilege.

they should use fb marketplace or take it to a car boot sale. If it was that easy to sell on marketplace and carboot sale, don't you think people would do it?

It might be "only" 2 days for you. For someone else, it's selling what they can because their kids need shorts or any kind of clothes, and they can't buy them until you release the funds.

No need to try to be so superior and arrogant, if you buy second hand things on vinted, you are no better than anyone else. You are just lucky that these £2.50 (sometimes multiply by several items) are not something you need.

I can't decide if your reply is pure CF or just plain nasty.

PlumFairies · 05/05/2025 19:46

MoveYourSelfDearie · 05/05/2025 15:08

I want to wash the item before I have a good look at it. Especially if it smells strongly of fabric conditioner, wet dog, smoke or is covered in dog/cat hair.

If you wash it then you can’t return it anyway so you may as well release the funds.

Cherrysoup · 05/05/2025 19:47

blindblinds · 05/05/2025 19:37

So I have £103 pending, if buyers click a button I would get money sooner?

Yes, as soon as they open the item and want to keep it.

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AstonUniversityPotholeDepartment · 05/05/2025 19:57

I do my best to always click 'accept' as soon as possible, and normally I have it done within 20 minutes. However, on two recent occasions I have picked up packages from Inpost on the way to work. When I got home, checked the item and logged on to Vinted, I found I'd already been sent snotty messages asking why I hadn't clicked 'accept' yet!

blindblinds · 05/05/2025 20:25

@Cherrysoup It genuinely doesn't bother me if I get it a bit earlier.

blindblinds · 05/05/2025 20:25

I didn't know you could get it sooner tbh

monkeysox · 05/05/2025 20:26

Cherrysoup · 05/05/2025 11:48

Obviously if you are happy to accept it? Why do people not bother? It takes seconds. I prefer to use my Vinted balance if I want to buy something. I always click to accept if it’s as described.

Because I dont always have time to open the parcel straight away.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 05/05/2025 20:26

Because it does it for you, sometimes the item stays in the post box for a few days.

blindblinds · 05/05/2025 20:28

@YearlySubscriptionRenewal Im privileged in that £2.50 today or Friday doesn't make any difference to me but I don't really buy the below. As a seller you can't really chose how fast an items sells so you could be waiting days regardless for people to actually buy your items.

"It might be "only" 2 days for you. For someone else, it's selling what they can because their kids need shorts or any kind of clothes, and they can't buy them until you release the funds"

PeloMom · 05/05/2025 20:29

tbh I often don’t manage to open the package until days later for one reason or another. In the events I open it soon after receipt, I do press ‘accept’. When i sell, very few people press accept promptly as well (maybe 1-2 in 10) so it’s not just me.

40weeksmummy · 05/05/2025 20:31

sweetpickle2 · 05/05/2025 18:49

Well any shop has likely had someone else’s body in the clothes, people try stuff on.

Lots of online shops resell returned items. "New" doesn't mean clean and not worn...

Crunchymum · 05/05/2025 20:31

I very rarely open my packages (usually get them to a locker) immediately so there is always going to be a short delay. I do always do it the same day though.

I hate the way the app itself sends you the reminder and email to accept the offer literally the moment you collect it. No-one is able to check and confirm everything is okay 35 seconds after getting the package in their hands!!

HuffleMyPuffle · 05/05/2025 20:34

YearlySubscriptionRenewal · 05/05/2025 19:44

Check your privilege.

they should use fb marketplace or take it to a car boot sale. If it was that easy to sell on marketplace and carboot sale, don't you think people would do it?

It might be "only" 2 days for you. For someone else, it's selling what they can because their kids need shorts or any kind of clothes, and they can't buy them until you release the funds.

No need to try to be so superior and arrogant, if you buy second hand things on vinted, you are no better than anyone else. You are just lucky that these £2.50 (sometimes multiply by several items) are not something you need.

I can't decide if your reply is pure CF or just plain nasty.

It's 2 days

That's all

2 days which may have a good reason

You shouldn't be relying on Vinted payments to make up that much desperation.

PeloMom · 05/05/2025 20:34

MoveYourSelfDearie · 05/05/2025 15:08

I want to wash the item before I have a good look at it. Especially if it smells strongly of fabric conditioner, wet dog, smoke or is covered in dog/cat hair.

Not how it works. If you’re not that happy with the smell I suppose you can return. Once you wash, it’s no longer ‘as advertised’ as a wash can do some damage etc. you wash after you accept the item.

Bobnobob · 05/05/2025 20:37

Blackcountrychik83 · 05/05/2025 14:01

But then it’s also annoying when the seller spams you with messages as soon as they’ve posted the item .
One woman I honestly felt like she was harassing me . It got delivered at the shop and within 20 mins I got a msg asking me to collect it . I couldn’t I was on the way to work . So she asked me to collect after work . I said shop is shut and then I was Ill in bed the next day and she sent me so many msgs . I collected but I didn’t have the energy to check the item . She got really funny about it . In the end I got up out of bed to try the damn things just to send the money to get her off my back . She must’ve sent me 15 msgs .

in the end I told her if she wanted the money so desperately she should’ve sold them on market place or fb . I’ve never experienced another seller like that one .

This is insane that you actually did it! I would have completely ignored her. What were you afraid of? A 1 star review? She’s not going to give you one- she knows you’ll just retaliate with the same!

blindblinds · 05/05/2025 20:45

Lots of online shops resell returned items. "New" doesn't mean clean and not worn...

How can something worn and dirty be new?!

Mulledjuice · 05/05/2025 20:47

I don't go straight home after collecting. Checking the parcel isn't the first thing or maybe even the twentieth thing I need to do when I get home. Sometimes I only just manage to check it within the 48 hours. Sometimes I am on the fence about whether the item is as described (the definition of "very good condition, barely used" is applied very liberally!).

Then, there are hundreds of things that would just take a minute or so that are more important to me than marking "everything is ok" when the money will go to the seller anyway in a matter of hours.

onwardsup4 · 05/05/2025 20:50

I’ve not used it much lately and had notifications switched off, this reminded me I won’t have clicked accept for my recent three orders. So that would be why I imagine

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