Feeling upset. Deleted off facebook and actively blanked in a shop.

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Hurryupretirement · 04/05/2025 15:03

I’m feeling a bit upset by it and need to try and understand the thinking. For context I am feeling emotional generally at present as I have a close relative very ill in hospital but even so…
Someone who I thought was a friend, we have a shared interest which resulted in a lit of contact over 3 or 4 years, very pleasant and I also offered support with some difficulties she was having that I have expertise in. I had to leave the setting we met in 2 years ago not through choice but ill health but have remained in touch with several members, mainly exchanging messages on FB.
A few months ago I realized she had removed me from her friend list on FB. Ok totally her perogative as I know some people have culls.
But then today I was out shopping and as I glanced around I saw her, was literally just about to smile/ wave, she immediately clocked me and literally turned around 180 degrees and marched off!!!!
I was shocked to be honest! So rude!!
For context my FB is kept cheerful no politics or anything even mildly offensiveto be found so it cant be that. I am just so hurt and confused!

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BatchCookBabe · 04/05/2025 22:39

DaniO2 · 04/05/2025 22:32

I think "culling" friends is a bit odd. If someone has done something to upset you, or creep you out that's completely different. But cutting people off for no reason does go against most people's idea of social behaviour.

It's not prying. It is just how SM works, tapping into how humans are usually interested in others.

if you are removed as someone's friends on SM I think it's natural to wonder why or think that you might have done something to offend them. Doesn't mean they need to "touch grass" it's just a human reaction.

Of course I don't mean you have the right to know the ins and outs of someone's life. I didn't intend to imply that.

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I don't think people are talking about culling 'friends' though. Just acquaintances/ex colleagues/ex neighbours etc, who we knew more than a decade ago, have nothing to do with anymore, never see anymore, and who never like or acknowledge our posts or photos - or give any kind of reaction to them. They're basically non-entities in our lives now. They are certainly not 'friends.'

I have never unfriended an actual friend, who I know in real life, and who is in my life on a week to week basis (or even who I see just monthly.....) I can't imagine why anyone would do that.

Wishingplenty · 04/05/2025 22:45

If it makes you feel any better, I found out yesterday I was cancelled from a facebook rosary group. I thought that was pretty low to be honest.😀

alsohappenedoverhere · 05/05/2025 09:41

Maybe she forgot to shave her tash and didn’t want you to see it! I delete people off of social media all the time as I occasionally post photos of my family and don’t want people I don’t know anymore seeing them.

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