Absolutely sick of neighbour’s kids

[cinderelllaa]

Now that it’s warmer weather my neighbours kids have been so annoying.

Firstly they will repeatedly kick the football over multiple times a day, I don’t bother opening the door now and chuck it back days later.

Football is kicked near my living room window and the mom says nothing.

They frequently even throw things in my front yard now.

They play loudly outside my house and often coming onto my driveway.

Put bikes up against our cars (have frequently told them to stop).

What really annoyed me is that for last week they have been off school with illness and they still did my door (I ignored it) which I think is bad mannered with the parents knowing I have young toddlers at home.

AIBU to just ignore the door now and keep the balls?

There seems to be no end to it, as the Ringdoor bell wakes my young toddlers up.

Are you for real? Their behaviour is rude, inconsiderate and impolite and you want to facilitate even more of this behaviour?

Totally agree and if the ball did accidentally stray where it shouldn't, tough luck and wouldn't expect to get it back.
Leaning bikes on the cars is an absolute no though. That needs dealing with fast.

If your doorbell is waking up your toddler when they go near it (rather than actually ringing it) thats on you. Otherwise you need to agree some sensible rules, eg they are not to ring your doorbell, if the ball goes over you will throw it back once a day, not more. Theres no need to be mean. It will be your kids in a few years, and then you will realise kids arent aware of things like people wfh and need to be politely reminded many many times.

100% agree. Others people's kids making your life a misery is not acceptable.
I don't return balls anymore as I'm sick and tired of it. A ball being kicked against the fence at 07.45 weekdays (just when trying to have a lie in on a day off work) and same at weekends. Evenings, sometimes after 21.00.
It can seriously damage your mental health.

I had obnoxious, disrespectful neighbour kids.
Every ball or toy that came my way, I destroyed and binned. No second chances. They soon learned to play elsewhere.

In the case of the bike, were it on my property I’d carry it indoors and hold it indefinitely.

The absurdity of people saying it will be the ops children's turn soon to be annoying. Most parents do not let their kids damage other peoples property, make other peoples gardens a no go area, or hammer on peoples doors.

This isn’t really about balls. It’s about the type of parent who watches their son being chaotic and antisocial and calls it fun.

You are the issue with society these days! You want children to be treated like precious gods and never ever told something is wrong! Kids are not in charge, adults are supposed to be! Your reaction is exasperating! You can't be frightened of upsetting your own children by disciplining them!

Not everyone is a zombie parent that's too lazy to teach kids right from wrong! I guarantee OP will not see it as acceptable from their own kids when they don't see it as acceptable from others kids.

Deflate the balls before you throw them back?
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I get the feeling some of you on here have no clue what a ring doorbell is! It's a camera doorbell used for amongst other reasons security which again is needed in many areas because peoples undisciplined kids turn into yobbo youth and robbing adolescents! These doorbells are activated by someone coming on to your property! The neighbours kids constantly going on the property and messing about around cars is triggering the ring camera! You don't let your kids constantly trespass on a neighbour's property for god's sake!

Is it honestly that hard to tell kids not encroach in neighbours property or damage their cars? Is that level of effort in parenting just too much to ask? Don't forget a lot of people have hybrid working now and when working from home do not need the constant distraction of someone else's undisciplined kids! What about people that work nights and need sleep during the day?

Football was kicked against our window today deliberately and we showed the mother the doorbell footage. She was apologetic and promised it won’t happen again.

We will see what happens, but if it continues I think we will end up moving.

When I say the Ringdoorbell goes, I mean the kids will continuously ring the bell wanting the ball back.
I can’t always answer as I maybe changing a nappy or feeding baby etc.

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Their mum needs to tell them to respect your property, not put the bikes up, not come onto your property, stop ringing the bell and that they will have to pay for any damage, how old are these kids

You’ve tried being patient, tried throwing the balls back and now they’re taking the piss because you’ve been nice. People like this see kindness as weakness. Either you or your husband needs to tell her firmly the kids do not ring the bell ever for any reason. They do not kick balls at your windows and she will need to take steps to prevent balls coming into your garden with something like the netting someone mentioned.

If it continues I’d have the local community officer have a chat. This isn’t kids playing, it’s antisocial behaviour dressed up as football.

It's not aimed at the kids. It's aimed at the lazy parenting with the "fuck everyone else" attitude. I grew up the youngest in a big family. We had a great childhood with loads of fun and playing outside, however if we'd have dared behave like some of the kids do now, we'd have been banned in. It's not 'normal' for kids to be nightmare neighbours and have a complete lack of respect.

The kids are 6 and 8.
I just feel like I have no privacy anymore as the kids will go right by my living room window.

The mother has been advised that the kids are not to ring my doorbell and any more.

Im actually worried in case next time the football smashes the window as the boy is quite aggressive (even with his mum).

DH has told me if it happens again then we will have to escalate than further as we have the safety of your children to prioritise.

There is 3 families including this one with children who all play together and unfortunately it is just getting worse.

I am actually considering reporting this to the HA as we pay rent to live here and we don’t even get to enjoy our home and are in fear of property being damaged.

Sorry typo - we have the safety of our children to prioritise.

I think your best defence is a good offence.

Be inviting in a way that makes adults uncomfortable.

Offer them shitloads of sweets and coca cola.

Catch the parents for a long and boring friendly chat every time you hear them enter or leave their home.

Basically make yourself into a nightmare for the parents by killing with kindness and they will soon discourage their kids from going near your house in a way that strong words never will.

Op I'm getting the feeling the parent(s) don't care what the kids do as long as they're not bothering them.If that's the case that's not so easily resolved.

Start handing their balls back stabbed and deflated. That’s what I did and oddly the little fuckers learned to aim their kicks elsewhere, and quickly too.

Don’t let these nasty people ruin your enjoyment of your home.

@Mickeychampionwhatgoodami - I think you’re right.
When the kids get back from school they are out playing until 8pm and she barely goes to checks on them.

They play far away the house and she only goes to get them when it’s bed time.

A few times other neighbours have had to intervene when of the kids have injured themselves, I don’t think she is bothered what the kids get up to just as long as they are out of her hair.

@localhere that’s just mean spirited. Everyone moans about kids getting into trouble etc and so when they’re in their own garden just playing you think it’s acceptable to damage their toys? Some really mean people on this thread.

@TheHerboriste your behaviour is nasty. They’re just kids playing ball not out causing violence or criminality.

Nope.

When they smash my plants, trespass on my property, bash into my car and frighten my pets they are not just kids playing.

If they don’t want their playthings destroyed, they can learn to be more careful.