Absolutely sick of neighbour’s kids

[cinderelllaa]

Now that it’s warmer weather my neighbours kids have been so annoying.

Firstly they will repeatedly kick the football over multiple times a day, I don’t bother opening the door now and chuck it back days later.

Football is kicked near my living room window and the mom says nothing.

They frequently even throw things in my front yard now.

They play loudly outside my house and often coming onto my driveway.

Put bikes up against our cars (have frequently told them to stop).

What really annoyed me is that for last week they have been off school with illness and they still did my door (I ignored it) which I think is bad mannered with the parents knowing I have young toddlers at home.

AIBU to just ignore the door now and keep the balls?

There seems to be no end to it, as the Ringdoor bell wakes my young toddlers up.

Vile misogynistic post. I have reported.

Thanks for the replies.

The ball is thrown in my back garden - I can’t let them come and get it, I have to through my kitchen to get to my back garden.
At first I threw the ball back immediately but it soon became several times a day over Easter, after school and the weekends.

I have young children to look after and can’t just drop everything to throw their ball back.

I just ignore the door and throw it back when I am ready.

I have told the child politely to stop doing it and I have also told her mother that any damage to the car I will be billing her accordingly.

I will be ordering some prickly shrubs over the weekend along side some planters, thank you @mumdafor the suggestions.

I wouldn’t dream or bursting the football or damaging their bikes as they are only young children, and I do feel abit sorry for them as the neighbour has told me that they play up as they miss their dad (split up last year).

I will see how it goes wit the shrubs and planters, and on the plus side planting more shrubs will help the wildlife, I was always going to plant shrubs but it’s finding the time.

Its rude to knock on someones door because you have toddlers?

Next you will be saying buy the kids a ball in your weekly shop everyweek

You do realise the kids are not the ops don't you?

I had horrible neighbours like this… If they’re leaning their bikes on your car you need to keep the ring doorbell. Once your kids are big enough to want to enjoy your garden, I bet the little twerps next door harass and taunt them over the fence. Document each time they ring the doorbell (date:time) and keep the balls “in storage” for them for three months, then deliver them forcefully aimed at their back door in the middle of the night (don’t do that)… ask their parent to come and collect them. Let them know that any more balls in your garden will be considered “discarded” by their kids and deflated and binned.

Oh come on you know perfectly well what she meant!

"Baggy old women"
"Ball-spiking bags"

Wow. Not tolerating our property being damaged by the products of shit and lazy parenting really does bring out the ageist misogyny, doesn't it?

Are you not capable of having a conversation? Knock on the mums door.

@Bestfadeplans yeah it is when the kids have Covid and I have 2 young toddlers.

This. If you can't make a sensible answer, make an abusive one.

That makes no sense. How is anyone knockung on the door supposed to know that

Lol I dont think its rational, so no, I did not

Balls in the garden wouldn’t bother me. Bikes against cars would send me apoplectic, my DH even more so.

Agree the bikes on cars is not on but theyre just kids. Its annoying yes, ive always been hot on telling my kids not to kick balls against fence, that if the ball goes over, thats tough they might not get it back.

Op im sure your toddlers are perfect children and will never be the same “annoying kids next door” when they get older 🙄

We have very low fences and kids accidentally kick their balls over fairly often but have always been very polite about it and don't ring our doorbell very often to ask. I throw them back when I'm out there but also have a gate between and have said they can come and get them which has always been fine! They don't mean to and they're nice kids so it's not something I get annoyed about. The car thing would annoy me.

I have two younger kids and if you have toddlers it could be them kicking balls over in a few years! If it's not on purpose it's just part of having kids next door imo.

The balls that come over now are left for the dog to destroy and binned.

Used to rescue them and put them up out the way and always told the kids they could come in the gate and get them back.
But as the kids have got older the balls are coming over more frequently, with more force and a load of abuse.
My garden is 'detached' the kids play on the street and I'm sick of being hit, my dogs being hit, my clean washing smeared with muck from the balls, my car being hit and the fence being damaged because they can't be arsed to walk to the gate and open it so climb over instead.

Funnily enough now they know if it ends up in my garden the ball obsessed terrier will destroy it, they manage not to hoof it over. All being nice and thinking aw just kids playing got me was the piss taken out of me and my stuff damaged. What goes around comes around, refuse to treat me and my stuff with any respect and you get exactly the same back.

When I had toddlers, the boy next door kept kicking his ball over. It was irritating but that’s life. After a while I said he could just climb over and get it himself.

Years later, he was a teenager, and now my kids were playing football, and ended up kicking the ball over to the neighbours, who were obviously fine about it. Neighbours on the other side weren’t though. They’d hang on to the balls for weeks, despite my kids begging for them back. My son wrote letters apologising but they still kept the footballs.

Fast forward a few years and my boys are teens, not playing football in the garden any more. But nasty neighbours son likes cars, fills the pavement with old bangers that he tinkers with, and revs the engines in the middle of the night. It’s infuriating, but this is life with neighbours.

OP in a few years it’ll be your kids annoying them. So remember you’ll reap what you sow.

Whenever I read these threads I always hope the OP will come back in a few years when their perfect little tots are at the ball-kicking age, and share with us the magical secret of how to prevent 8 year olds accidentally kicking balls over fences.

god kids can’t even play in their garden without people complaining. It’s normal for balls to go over. It’s not exactly on purpose is it.

tell them not to put bikes on your car.

children are part of society, them existing outside and figuring out social norms and interactions is part of growing up.

everyone stop being such misery guts

I’d put a large trellis up on the adjoining fence so high that the ball won’t come over and I’d put a fence round my front drive, so it’s not easy to access.

It would be so much better if they were indoors on screens all the time, wouldn't it?

OP one of the things I learned as a parent over the years is to be humble. These kids may be boisterous but they are playing. They aren't taking drugs, stealing cars or having ubderage sex on the lawn. If yours are toddlers there is plenty of time for them to become the annoying neighbours themselves in future.

The ringing on the doorbell , is that to get their ball back? We have two boys next door, we have told them to just go through and get it without disturbing us. Works fine for us.

(Edited as I initially thought they were ringing and running away)

Could you speak to the kids parents? We've had a similar problem with NDN kicking the ball into our back garden and at our windows, the last straw for us was on of the kids friends climbed the brand new fence that we paid for! one evening to try and retrieve the ball. We then spoke to the kids parents and have had no issues since.

Leaning bikes against cars and playing or you drive are clearly wrong but I’d hold off complaining about the balls until you see if your toddlers grow up to be children who also kick balls over fences despite parents begging them to be careful

We had a sporty kid next door and balls would come over. There was a gap in the fence and we just told him to come over and fetch them himself.