Absolutely sick of neighbour’s kids

[cinderelllaa]

Now that it’s warmer weather my neighbours kids have been so annoying.

Firstly they will repeatedly kick the football over multiple times a day, I don’t bother opening the door now and chuck it back days later.

Football is kicked near my living room window and the mom says nothing.

They frequently even throw things in my front yard now.

They play loudly outside my house and often coming onto my driveway.

Put bikes up against our cars (have frequently told them to stop).

What really annoyed me is that for last week they have been off school with illness and they still did my door (I ignored it) which I think is bad mannered with the parents knowing I have young toddlers at home.

AIBU to just ignore the door now and keep the balls?

There seems to be no end to it, as the Ringdoor bell wakes my young toddlers up.

Have you read a single comment on here of what the OP is going through? Kids don't have to be ferals that constantly antagonise neighbours on their neighbours property and you should not be wanting this behaviour protected at all costs! How can so many of you on here be so in love with the idea of having kids that don't receive the tiniest bit of discipline! If you insist on failing as a parent, you force the victim to have to take measures! Nobody is saying that a rare ball coming over has to be destroyed but if your kids are malicious then you no right to expect people to tolerate it.

Bad advice, you leave yourself open to all sorts of accusations as an adult approaching kids and giving them sweets plus you may not be aware of allergies! Also filling them with sugar may make their behaviour worse and make a rod for your own back also because the parents may not care and then you've will be expected by the kids to provide constant sweets and coke.

Other people's kids are the pits!

I can see where you're coming from, but an accusation isn't proof and the strategy relies on being way overfriendly with the parents too. If she doesn't want to create an expectation of gifts, I still think going round and ringing the doorbell to talk about bins, offload unwanted crap masquerading as a gift and then talking off the parents ears will help and would avoid the concerns you've fairly raised.

Children being children, if they aren't committing crime which is usual for children these days sadly, be grateful you only have loud voices and balls

And our summer is usually only for two months

Again, is it really a big ask to tell your children to stay off the neighbours property, not smash balls against the neighbours windows, stop kicking balls over and repeatedly come to the door asking for it back! If you are a parent it's your job to discipline bad behaviour! A rare ball coming over is kids being kids but being a deliberate daily nuisance and trespasser is something else! When parents don't stamp out excessively bad and inconsiderate behaviour, as these kids get older, they become trouble making youth and before you know it they are an adolescent in a custody suite somewhere! Societal decline is massive because of this refusal to parent! If your kids take your kitchen knives and start stabbing their mates, is that just kids being kids? When do you start teaching right from wrong? When it's too late?

That's a pretty low bar! Are you saying we should accept this?

The kids do seem to of calmed down last few days since OH spoke to the mom.

But they are still trespassing and walking past our front window.

I guess we will just have to get big planters to form a physical barrier to stop this.

While people have this sort of attitude the problem will exist. Despite up loading over 50 clips to the ASB team of a local youth booting his balls at my windows, their response is similar to this. Kids will be kids, it’s expected to have the odd ball come over, boys do get excited playing football.

It seems to me that boys can get away with severe antisocial behaviour as long as there’s a football involved. I asked the ASB officer what would his behaviour be considered if there was no ball involved? Would it be acceptable for him to stand outside my house shouting fucking bastard, fucking cunt all day?

Parents who allow their sons to act like this make me sick.

I am torn. Bikes against cars is a big no no and just not acceptable. They need to learn not to do this.

But young kids having a game of football in their own garden in the day time? Isn’t that what gardens are for? I would so much rather have that then get disturbed in the evening or night by music or parties.

And it does literally take a minute to throw a ball back-well literally more like 20 seconds.

The kid is not playing football in his own garden. He’s playing it at ops windows.

But this is footballs being kicked at windows and deliberately into the OPs property numerous times a day! In school holidays it must be intolerable! As I said on an earlier post there are people who work nights and need to sleep during the day, there are plenty of people that work from home and you cannot have people's kids trespassing all day and frequently demanding attention to get a ball back! People that work from home can be in Teams of Zoom meetings or really trying to concentrate on something and cannot be up and down to the door! Their garden is fine as long as they and their ball stay in that garden!

@FlyMeSomewhere ,

I agree about the windows, and deliberately kicking it into her garden.

But, as for work meeting from home, someone a long time ago thought of this brilliant idea of a space where people could work together undisturbed.

I forget what it was called. Oh yes….an office.

unbelievably mean

I knew you'd pull that stroke! My partner and work for organisations where it's become a standard thing to be in 2 days a week and at home for 3! We both work in open plan offices and it would over crowded and too noisy to work if everybody was forced to be in work 5 days a week! My office days cost me £4.40 a day to park and that would add up if it was 5 days a week!
My partner's hospital hasn't got the parking to have everyone in everyday and if he has to make do with a verge or roadside, they fine him £42 a day! It keeps our road risk down in the winter too, my partner's hospital is 26 miles away and my office is 15 miles away, I don't like driving in the dark on rural roads with headlights blinding me or worrying my partner getting home safe and that's another positive thing that workplaces have realised since COVID!
It gives us extra time for our home life because we aren't commuting, it opens out job opportunities for people that they couldn't do if they had to commute a distance 5 dars a week! It increases salaries because there's less fuel costs.
You really didn't have a clue why people work from did you! Just a sad narrow minded view and another defender of badly behaved kids.

Um, isn't that just going to inconvenience these 'poor kids just wanting to play football in their own garden' more when there's no one at home to pester for the ball back?
I suppose they could always ring them at work and they could nip home and retrieve the ball? Leave the door open so the kids can get it each time it's kicked over? Leave them a key?
Or the kids could actually just play football in their own garden, keeping it in their garden and then no one needs to be disturbed multiple times a day? And if it accidentally comes over as occasionally it will, wait until it's returned at the neighbours convenience?

That's what I do, with relish. I even got to stomp a drone once.

They've been warned multiple times to keep their playthings off my drive and out of my front and rear gardens. Now if anything comes over they lose the item.

There's a park a 45-second walk away that even has football goals. F them if they'd rather kick balls over the fence into my garden.

What an ignorant comment.

My organisation gave up its office space in 2021. We all work from home now.

Furthermore the reason one is home is irrelevant to the rock-bottom fact that kids should not be kicking balls or toys into others' property. No excuses.

It’s been said before , get a fence so they can’t walk on your property, make it difficult for them, bin or deflate the balls they will soon realise if it comes over, it ain’t coming back and mum will soon get fed up of buying new ones.
when they ring the door bell, go out and tell them not to do it again or you’ll report them to the police for antisocial
behaviour , they sound feral , unfortunately your going to have to get tough or it won’t end.
I can safely say they wouldn’t do it to me absolutely no way I wouldn’t stand for it.

Yup! We’ve had the same issue with the very young child next door getting hold of GOLF balls and throwing them at our garden and windows whilst in the presence of their (clearly very involved) father. 🙄 When I handed them back over the fence and asked them to please be careful, DF just said “thanks, I didn’t know he had those” and just walked away. I do despair with some people. It’s that time of year I think!

Kicking a ball over a fence is accidental as kids ball control isn’t great! Bet you are the kind of person who complains when kids on their iPads all the time but also complain when they’re outside playing! The bikes on the car is a no no but speak to the parents, posting on mumsnet isn’t going to stop it!

You've ressurected a post from months ago, have you actually read any of it? This isn't just about a ball accidentally going over the fence, it's about kids constantly kicking it over and constantly banging on the door to want it back! I bet you are one of those that has unruly kids that bug people and cause problems and you sit there saying "they are just kids being kids" and swearing blind that everyone was an out of control feral when they were kids!