People frequently moan about the 'Boomers' who were all able to buy their own homes, had it easy, blah, blah! However, a lot of us were prepared to buy somewhere that was perhaps out of our area a bit, or places you had to do up, or somewhere tiny to just get on the ladder. We bought second hand furniture, and thought all our Christmas's had come at once, if were lucky enough to be offered a second hand washing machine, fridge, or cooker. Now it seems that while so many moan about how hard it all is, no one seems prepared to go without anything, or put up with discomfort of any sort, in order to get where they want to be. Everyone WANTS to buy the house that suits them, and furnish it with brand new stuff, often turning up their nose at the offer of something second hand, but that is the way that a lot of 'Boomers' managed to get on the ladder.
I'm afraid your attitude in response to all the suggestions people have made, makes me mad OP, as you don't seem prepared to suffer even the tiniest hardship, or inconvenience in order to get what you want. Why is that?
When I split from my DH, I moved from a large 4 bedroomed detached house, was used to having a new car every couple of years, and had plenty of spare cash for holidays etc., as he was a high earner. I suddenly found myself, with no job, (I'd been a SAHM) no skills, and no credit score. I got myself a part time job, as it was all I could get. Proved I was good at it, and was offered full time after a few weeks, which I gratefully accepted, even though I didn't like the job much. When the family home had been sold, I got a relatively small lump sum to use as a deposit, and with the help of a mortgage, I was in a position to buy an old, two bedroom house, in a cheap area, that needed EVERYTHING doing to it. My best friend came round to have a look when I got the key, and almost had kittens, asking me what on earth I was thinking buying a place like that. However, over a period of a few weeks, a lot of determination, and doing DIY most nights until 10pm, after a full day at work, I finally had one room which was decorated and cosy. My teenage child and I, lived in that house, while I continued to work all day, and do DIY every night, gradually making that poor little house into a home. I was absolutely terrified of taking on a mortgage on my own, but knew that as long as I was careful, I could pay that and the bills, and keep my child fed and clothed, and that was all that mattered to me.
Now, I am back to living in a large 4 bed house, have a new car, and am happily married to a wonderful man. Which just goes to show that if you're prepared to put yourself out and work hard, instead of whinging and feeling sorry for yourself, you CAN, get the things you want. So please stop moaning and feeling sorry for yourself, and do what you have to, to get where you want to be.