Offended by friend’s comments about party food

[LinsMum22]

We hosted my friend, her husband and three kids yesterday afternoon. Our sons are in the same football team and we said we’d put some food on at ours after and watch the Liverpool match who they both support. My friend agreed to party style food being the best option as everyone could pick at it as and when.

Amongst other things, there was - Indian selection, tempura prawns, sausage rolls, mini pizza’s, mini sausages, chips, breaded chicken. So a good mix all from Iceland where we’ve had positive comments on the food before.

I could tell my friends’ youngest looked unimpressed when they tried one of the items, and pulled a face to my friend. She made no
attempt to get them to try another item and basically said ‘I know’. I noticed five minutes later she had barely ate anything herself either.

15/20 minutes later, the youngest moaned again and this time my friend said ‘don’t worry, we will stop at McDonald’s on the way back as I’m hungry too.’

I text her after they left to say sorry if they didn’t enjoy the food. She replied to say they didn’t realise it would be that sort of food and that they’d have got something else before coming round if they realised!!

AIBU to find this really snobby and ungrateful? The fact she then took the kids to get a McDonald’s makes no sense!!

There was nothing at all unprocessed, fresh, healthy or colourful.

OP is neither a dietitian or an illustrator for children’s books.

Tbh I wouldn't have liked any of that either. Party food is salad bits, sandwiches, crisps, cocktail sausages, scotch eggs etc. Not Indian food

Yeah I think they will be earning their own money by then, don't you? But anyway, of course I'll be there for then if they need me, age doesn't change that.

Too exotic! There were mini pizzas, breaded chicken (which I take to be nuggets or goujons or similar), cocktail sausages, chips and mini pizzas. How is any of that exotic? As for the samosas, onion bhajis etc, you do know that the number one favourite dish in the UK for a long time now has been chicken tikka masala?

Exactly! You want things you can snack on and eat with your hands; you don’t want to be browsing an extensive buffet when you’re trying to watch the game. What if you miss a goal while you’re deliberating over dip?

Plus, if you run out halfway, half time is just long enough to cook another couple of trays’ worth without missing any action.

Seriously?! You’ve really never seen samosas at a party?!

Ha so true.

I am in my 50s and we entertain quite a lot. I have never tried to ‘shine as a hostess’! Hyacinth Bucket with a dash of the seventies on this thread.

When you go somewhere to eat, you try and eat what is offered and you smile politely and say thank you. That’s it.

And I am also allergic to the phrase ‘picky bits’. Ugh!

She invited her son's friend to watch the match and invited the family over too.

She didn't invite anyone to a dinner party.

She was quite probably also watching the match, but was kind enough to bung some food in the oven as the match was going on over a mealtime.
I call inviting people to watch a pretty special match that isn't on terrestrial TV to be pretty kind. The fact she fed them as well, made it more generous.

I think this post possibly wins top prize in a thread full of people quite blatantly showing off and being openly snobby. Good grief.

Just because I've seen them doesn't mean I like them! I wouldn't have eaten any of the food mentioned and would have eaten after.
It doesn't mean the food was bad our that by not eating I was being rude. It just means that different people have different tastes.

Runner up goes to the poster who'd have been outside with the BBQ while everybody else was inside glued to the match. Just think how popular she'd have been calling everybody outside to get their food just at a crucial moment.

Isn’t macdonalds frozen food ?

I feel a good many on this thread would not be keen in the slightest to learn from me, and that's fine, we're all different. However, since you ask, we don't have a car and are unlikely to take holidays that involve flying again. You can get a long way by train if you don't mind taking your time over it. We don't buy all that much beyond food because at our advanced stage of life we have most of what we need already. I quite freely admit that we don't live on turnips and cabbages, but I do try to buy British where it's feasible.

I wouldn’t like this type of food either, but I would do my best not to be rude about it. I’m more a carrot sticks person. The fact they went to Mac Donald’s afterwards baffles me though, that’s also frozen food. So her comment about frozen food makes zero sense. Sne’s just being snobby about her frozen food.

I’m a fussy eater and probably wouldn’t have eaten much of that myself, but that doesn’t mean to say I’d be rude infront of you all. I guess clarity on both parts would have been the wise idea here. She’s also teaching her kids to be rude which is the worst thing about this OP.

We get those 4 for 3 Party food packs from M&S at Christmas. Apart from one or two, they over-promise and under-deliver. They are just not that great.

Lol at ‘Parma ham and melon’ to feed kids on front of the footy! Only on Mumsnet! 😂

The guest saw the packaging.

But I actually can tell frozen and defrosted- though not which supermarket it came from!

Baked Camembert! God this is all too funny.

I think people might have meant prawns etc. And the breaded goujons might have lacked the total “ l never actually was a chicken“ feel of the McDonald’s ones.

I find Iceland party food (actually most Iceland food) pretty grim, having lived around the corner from Iceland once and been fooled by nice looking pictures far too many times. I don't think I ever found anything good.

But...I never would be rude enough to comment if someone else served it, I'd even eat it. Not sure my kids would, but I wouldn't be happy with them if they made rude comments about it either.

They were very rude but to me, party food would be a cheeseboard, bread, crudite & dip, maybe popcorn, maybe sausages. I like the sound of a baked cheese!

Whether you like them or not is irrelevant - you said they weren’t party food. They clearly are.

I think this says more about her than you

Jeez, don't shoot the messenger. I didn't say I would find it too exotic!