To be pissed off!

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Every single week children’s dad is late picking them up, I start work at 7:30 on a Sunday and he started picking them up at 8:30 so I changed it to then and now he still isn’t here even though I rang him to wake him up! The kids are at the window waiting for him and he turned it on me saying I need to get checked out for a mental health issue as I cannot deal with lateness! No I am just sick of this every single week!

I don’t understand in what world he thinks I care when I am ringing him when he is late to pick the kids up.

You might need to work on your maths 😂

He has just picked them up now

Can you change the contact times so he picks up from school and drops them to school? No need to come to your house then and he can’t mess about with the times.

As he can’t have them on a Saturday etc I don’t see how that could work. I would rather that then deal with this though.

He is just odd, he just kept saying I really don’t want to be speaking to you, just turn up on time then! Christ sake

What he like with maintenance?

It’s still early for adding!

but the principle of the message stood! Before the update of it being a 2 night weekly visit.

Keep a log of the actual pick up times.

He’s doing this on purpose to make life difficult for you, so he isn’t going to change. You might have to go to court.

Alternatively, is there a nearby relative who would be happy to take the children on a Sunday morning for a couple of hours, so if he’s late he has to collect them from there?

It’s not advice!
It’s tongue in cheek if she wanted to be petty!

I don’t understand this. You mean you don’t know where your children are going? You have an absolute right to this information. If he won’t provide it I would not be allowing contact.

Terrible, I had to go through CMS in the end as always had to ring him due to him
being late with the payment

I can’t stop contact legally, he really does not need to tell Me where he lives I have already been down this road

Have you already been to court and is there a court order in place addressing this?

I haven’t but I spoke to a solicitor to get legal advice.

I'd like to know where they are staying. I think it's common decency. Sew an air tag in to a coat/teddy/bag?
The lateness is rude at best but more likely just being a prick to you because he can...
Good luck navigating this

Solicitor here. Get some better advice!!

I even called him to wake him up and he was still bloody late!

It's all control and he wants you to react.

Each time you call him about being late, he will be telling people you are calling as you're obsessed with him. Its really shit for you but all you can do is let him away with it as otherwise you'll come off as crazy and you can't stop him seeing his children.

Unfortunately he knows this is bothering you as it would anyone..so this is why he does it. Try to remain as unaffected as you can on the outside,to him . Sorry op

Why does he want to make it difficult though? It makes no sense, what if he doesn’t do it on purpose? He has met somebody new so I don’t think he has feelings still but I don’t understand

Stop asking yourself this question. It doesn't matter.

Though if you broke up with him, this will be control because of his hurt ego.

Everything will always be your fault in his eyes.
Stop reacting and calling him.
What will be will be. You cannot make him arrive on time. Showing your annoyance is what he wants.
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He has met somebody new so I don’t think he has feelings still but I don’t understand

He'll be telling this new girlfriend all about how horrible you are and have been to him. You calling and texting will "back up" his story to her. Stop calling. Let him show up when he shows up. You're playing into his hands.
I know you have to work but thankfully you're at home and can open the door when he does drop them. Sorry it's like this.

Maybe he wants to believe that I am obsessed with him. Don’t understand why people just don’t want an easy life

I don’t know if I care about what his gf thinks of me but it breaks my heart watching the kids waiting for him at the window

They must always be the victim. You must always be the perpetrator.