To throw DD(2) knickers away when she has an accident?

[GingerLiberalFeminist]

That's it in a nutshell.

She's 2 and 4 months, she initiated potty training a month ago so we went with it and she is broadly dry. However she has stopped doing poos on the potty and is doing them in her knickers 🤢

She seems to wait to do an enormous poo and it's often quite soft (she eats a lot of fruit) and it goes everywhere 🤢

I'm honestly sick of scooping sh*t out of tiny little knickers and then them still coming out stained from the wash. The pair today I put in a nappy bag, poo and all, and binned.

NB we do put her on potty routinely (going out potty, coming home potty, after dinner potty) but her poos have lost all routine (maybe she's withholding?!).

Am I being unreasonable?!!! And any advice?!!

It would never occur to me to bin pants when you can just wash them clean again. But then, I’m another with cloth nappy kids so I’m used to washing soiled things.

Nope I never binned them, gave them a rinse and the they went in the machine. Always came out clean and fresh. I cannot believe people chuck them! I would have chucked at least 20 pairs. Washing machines are very efficient tbh

Of course you chuck them!!! Best advice about potty training given to me was buy loads of cheap pants in primark before you start.

I still chuck the dds pants if they come out of the machine stained from period accidents.

Both dds have a huge stack of period underwear so I've reduced landfill where I can!

Do you mind me asking what worked in the end? Currently 2 years in...

She’s probably a bit too young for potty training hence the accidents every day

I limit legumes to every 3 days at the most and this turned them more solid and gave her more time to go to the bathroom.

It might be a different food that’s causing it in your case, but it’s like to be something that has too much fibre so if you try to increase their meat consumption instead you may get it less squishy. good luck.

I’m trying to think when else you’d be guilt tripped for not wanting to handle faeces? I wonder how many hundreds of thousands of bags of dog poo/ cat poo/ incontinence pads/ nappies are sent to landfill every day? This isn’t what will make the difference.

My toddler also used to do these big massive slushy poos that would soak through. Honestly I did try but it wasn’t easily tippable and by the time you’ve cleaned the loo and then the sink after rinsing and the gloves/ your hands and on a memorable occasion my feet when a bit dropped out 🤢. I figured it was about 30p for a pair of pants in a multipack, it’s been a decade. My time was worth more than that. For most children it’s not a long phase. I think I bought 30 pairs of pants and still had some left. I’d always recommend lots of cheap pants to start then move on to some beloved character and when more reliable.

I can’t believe the amount of posters that regularly bin pants 😳
I don’t recall ever binning any. Just rinse them out and wash them!

Re: the amount of wholegrains and fruit in the diet.
Fibre adds bulk and makes poos more runny. You have to reduce fibre to reduce runniness.
It's counterintuitive and most people think it's the other way round. Google it!

I guess we value our time differently. I'd rather spend 50p on a new pair of pants and save however long of lugging a shite filled pair of pants home and then trying to scrape it out and rinse them clean.

Definitely bin if really bad.

We binned a pyjama set this morning due to a blowout overnight. It wasn't just a small bit, her mattress is in the garden right now drying and we used a whole bottle of disinfectant.

It hurts my heart to throw away any fabric but needs must, especially when a 5 pack of knickers is £1.50, I'm not too bothered about buying a new pack.

I'm quite shocked by these replies. Incredibly wasteful. All those pairs of pants going to landfill for no good reason.

Yeah... life will be short if humans carry on being this wasteful.

Stop being so bloody delusional - your kids will be paying for your laziness.

I agree. And it's older people like me, who used cloth nappies, who get the blame for being reckless with the planet.

It would not occur to me throw out clothes rather than wash them. YABU

I binned
My gag reflex wouldnt have survived not binning
reuseable was never an option lol

oh there is a good reason - covered in shit
thats a very valid reason

@AtomHeartMotherOfGod

at the end of the day you can’t make other people clean shit if they don’t want to in order to save the planet 🤷‍♀️ If you wanna do it, fine but you can’t expect others to.

No, they're perfectly washable.

Well if you can afford to just throw them, otherwise don’t

Sounds wasteful. Could you bleach them? Or boil them?

I think the very existence of clothing so cheap it can be consigned to landfill if it gets dirty is wrong and unsustainable.

Jeez.
Value our time differently? It’s rinsing and chucking them in a washing machine. Literally minutes!
No wonder this planet is fucked.

If it's a big mound of sloppy shit how are you meant to rinse them? If it's hard you flush it down the toilet. If it's diarrhoea you can't really rinse it under the tap because you're going to block the drainage underneath with poo. Cloth nappies have those inserted liner bits that you throw away after changing so you can't really compare it to those.

Using a washing machine is hardly being an eco warrior, we do a few loads a week, 2 mins to rinse soiled clothes then stick them in the wash I was going to run anyway.

We didn't use disposable liners, poo went In the toilet and liners and nappies were washed. It's amazing what you can remove with a cheap plastic spatula.