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what do you think happens after death?

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Goldyyup · 24/04/2025 21:40

Only interested in perspectives if you think something happens after death not the perspectives where people think it is just the end.

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TranceNation · 25/04/2025 06:05

I think what happens after death is something that our brain capacity simply can't fathom, and were not supposed to understand in life what happens after death.

Arancia · 25/04/2025 06:41

FridayFeelingmidweek · 24/04/2025 23:43

And this is exactly why organised religion is so awful. Telling people they have sinned is just ridiculous. Enjoy your life. Have fun. Be kind. You're not doing anything wrong or sinful and don't let them think you are. People shouldn't be encouraged to feel shame.

Obviously the exception is that some people are entirely awful human beings. In the animal world, they'd be expelled from the group and possibly killed.

Why is it ridiculous to tell people that their bad actions have consequences? Is it because you do bad things that effect other people negatively all the time and are projecting here?

Also, you sound very narrow-minded and unable to understand a little concept called "different perspectives". I absolutely enjoy life and have fun, my idea of enjoyment and fun just isn't the same as yours. I don't need to do things I believe to be wrong and sinful in order to have a good time. But I AM having a good time 😉

By all means don't follow a religion, but don't impose your views on others, and make judgements and assumptions about their lifestyle. Most of us who sincerely follow a religion do so because we actually agree and align with what our religion is teaching us. We don't need "saviours" like you who think we don't understand what we're following. We're very well aware. Most likely more than you.

Arancia · 25/04/2025 06:45

Tourmalines · 25/04/2025 00:06

so because all these murderers and rapists and whatever else they’ve done should show remorse, that entitles them to a place in heaven ? I just don’t get that . What when they meet their victims in heaven ?

Where have a said any of this? Don't put words into my mouth.

Nobody knows who and what God will forgive, and I never said repenting is a guaranteed ticket to paradise. I just said that if you want any hope of getting there, repenting is necessary.

SparklyGlitterballs · 25/04/2025 06:56

I don't believe in God so thus I don't believe in a heaven with pearly gates and a hell full of flames. At most, maybe our souls exist in another dimension, in a different form of consciousness. Whether we can detect the souls of others who have gone before, who knows?

I really hope reincarnation isn't a thing because this world is already shit, and I don't want to come back to all the wars and wokeness I'd be leaving behind.

Tourmalines · 25/04/2025 07:02

Arancia · 25/04/2025 06:45

Where have a said any of this? Don't put words into my mouth.

Nobody knows who and what God will forgive, and I never said repenting is a guaranteed ticket to paradise. I just said that if you want any hope of getting there, repenting is necessary.

No , you said exactly that. “ non of us will get away with the evils and sins we commit in this life , unless we have repented them sincerely before we leave the earth “ Your own words, not mine .

ToutesetBonne · 25/04/2025 07:06

I see it this way....

Imagine the unborn child. Suppose we could speak to him, alone in the warm, dark womb, and tell him about the huge, bright world, with billions of people, that he is about to be born into? He would say, "How can this be? There is only space here for me!"

This is why we can't get our heads around the idea of heaven. We simply don't have the words, experience or capacity to understand it. But just as the baby's disbelief in this world does not deny its existence, neither does our disbelief in an afterlife.

Goldyyup · 25/04/2025 07:13

Stressed2025 · 24/04/2025 23:03

Asking for opinions but only certain ones.... What's the point?
You stop breathing, you die, end of. It's just biology

Because there is nothing to discuss with it is just the end. So I am not looking for those even though it has been said a few times.

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DeeEyeWhyBecauseIGotta · 25/04/2025 07:13

godsmessage · 24/04/2025 23:51

This is what I think, for no particular reason other than I think about this sort of thing endlessly (because I find it fun 😆) and this is the conclusion I’ve drawn. I reckon we’re all a little chip off the block of a collective consciousness- a bit like god, but the collective consciousness has ‘good’ aspects and ‘bad’ aspects, just like a human. I find myself generally inclined to believe in a higher power, so to speak, but I doubt it’s a wholly benevolent deity given all the suffering in the world. When we die, I reckon we either rejoin the whole, a bit like a raindrop falling back into the ocean, or go round again to continue our contribution to the collective experience.

I love this.

LoudSnoringDog · 25/04/2025 07:16

I have to believe that I will see my mum again.

Katemax82 · 25/04/2025 07:22

I tried to kill myself when I was 14. I was about half an hour away from death when my mum found me. I was taken by ambulance to hospital and woke up in intensive care. However I recalled my trip to hospital in hazy bits, I remember my top that was covered in puke being taken off me in my bedroom, I remember having needles shoved in my arms and being given a coal drink ( this was once in hospital). However the thing that sticks in my mind is being frogmarched into hospital by somone who had linked their arm through mine, I didn't fet a good look at them but they seemed annoyed at me. But I wouldn't have been made to walk into hospital would I? Was was unconscious and would have been on a stretcher. I always think it was my dad in spirit marching me into that hospital. Also my mum only found me because she had bought me this ridiculous hippy 70s make your own beauty products book from a car boot sale which looked like the sort of thing my hippie dad would have liked, otherwise she never came to my room as we lived in a huge 12 bedroom pub which she ran single handedly. I think my dad's spirit intervened that day

Tryingtokeepgoing · 25/04/2025 07:25

ToutesetBonne · 25/04/2025 07:06

I see it this way....

Imagine the unborn child. Suppose we could speak to him, alone in the warm, dark womb, and tell him about the huge, bright world, with billions of people, that he is about to be born into? He would say, "How can this be? There is only space here for me!"

This is why we can't get our heads around the idea of heaven. We simply don't have the words, experience or capacity to understand it. But just as the baby's disbelief in this world does not deny its existence, neither does our disbelief in an afterlife.

That’s a lovely way of reconciling the real world with the imaginary, and I’m happy that it gives you comfort. But the leap from what we know about how life is created, how the world works and what death is, regardless of whether we understood it when we were younger, and which are all things that take place in the known universe, to an imaginary world based on events that took place millennia after human life on earth first existed is a leap too far for me :)

localhere · 25/04/2025 07:33

My mum died yesterday. What happens is exactly what she wanted to happen: God called her home to heaven. When I die I’ll be restored to my purest form; energy. We’re at the command of our own beliefs about what happens and that, to me, is the greatest comfort.

Goldyyup · 25/04/2025 07:36

localhere · 25/04/2025 07:33

My mum died yesterday. What happens is exactly what she wanted to happen: God called her home to heaven. When I die I’ll be restored to my purest form; energy. We’re at the command of our own beliefs about what happens and that, to me, is the greatest comfort.

I am very sorry for your loss ❤

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FridayFeelingmidweek · 25/04/2025 08:09

Arancia · 25/04/2025 06:41

Why is it ridiculous to tell people that their bad actions have consequences? Is it because you do bad things that effect other people negatively all the time and are projecting here?

Also, you sound very narrow-minded and unable to understand a little concept called "different perspectives". I absolutely enjoy life and have fun, my idea of enjoyment and fun just isn't the same as yours. I don't need to do things I believe to be wrong and sinful in order to have a good time. But I AM having a good time 😉

By all means don't follow a religion, but don't impose your views on others, and make judgements and assumptions about their lifestyle. Most of us who sincerely follow a religion do so because we actually agree and align with what our religion is teaching us. We don't need "saviours" like you who think we don't understand what we're following. We're very well aware. Most likely more than you.

I know I've done nothing 'bad' or 'sinned' as I've not been told what to think by an organised religion. Sadly, many people who are religious are shamed and spend their lives feeling they are less than (I know, I grew up in a Catholic community). Not for me. I do feel sad for many people as, unsurprising, the vast majority of religious followers are from incredibly poor countries converted by missionaries and don't know any different.

Good luck to you, it sounds like you have strong beliefs.

unsync · 25/04/2025 08:11

What do you think@Goldyyup ? You haven't said.

FridayFeelingmidweek · 25/04/2025 08:12

Arancia · 25/04/2025 06:41

Why is it ridiculous to tell people that their bad actions have consequences? Is it because you do bad things that effect other people negatively all the time and are projecting here?

Also, you sound very narrow-minded and unable to understand a little concept called "different perspectives". I absolutely enjoy life and have fun, my idea of enjoyment and fun just isn't the same as yours. I don't need to do things I believe to be wrong and sinful in order to have a good time. But I AM having a good time 😉

By all means don't follow a religion, but don't impose your views on others, and make judgements and assumptions about their lifestyle. Most of us who sincerely follow a religion do so because we actually agree and align with what our religion is teaching us. We don't need "saviours" like you who think we don't understand what we're following. We're very well aware. Most likely more than you.

Also, you'll see I'm judging the organised religion, not the person - you have judged me and made personal comments to me specifically which is a brilliant example of how toxic organised religion is.

It's really important in this day and age to be kind to people, not make negative personal comments but - you do you if it makes you feel better.

Craftysue · 25/04/2025 08:16

When my husband died the McMillan nurse opened the window to let his soul out. Id never heard of this before but it was a nice thought.

XenaBallerina · 25/04/2025 08:21

In my opinion you just cease to exist. Oblivion. Like having a general anaesthetic but not waking from it. It’s either sudden like an accident or a medical episode or more gradual as your body shuts down and you have your thoughts.
Near death experiences must retain a level of subconscious but once you’re really gone ….. you’re gone!

AlwaysFreezing · 25/04/2025 08:30

I think our energy dissipates and we are returned to the universal state of just energy. Without the body and without consciousness. But persisting as universal energy.

Goldyyup · 25/04/2025 08:52

unsync · 25/04/2025 08:11

What do you think@Goldyyup ? You haven't said.

I don't think death is the end of things. At the same time it is mind blowing to try and comprehend.

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Viviennemary · 25/04/2025 08:53

I wish I knew. Sometimes I think totally nothing and complete oblivion. That's the most logical thing.

marmaladeandpeanutbutter · 25/04/2025 08:59

I think your body disintegrates and returns to the earth.

Millyjanice · 25/04/2025 09:05

JifNtGif · 24/04/2025 21:44

How did you feel before you were born OP?
Prob that innit.

I get this but on a deeper level, it could be that once you take on a physical life you just don’t remember what came before. Equally when we die we don’t know if there is a spiritual existence after life. No one knows.
I did used to think it’s the end until one night shift at work several years ago, my colleague and I witnessed a “ ghost” who just disappeared into a wall.
Am I crazy ? Was she crazy ? The thing is most people who didn’t experience that will think we were affected in some way by “ hysteria” or dreaming. My son has since come up with a “scientific” explanation. But we know what we saw.
So the point I’m making is no matter what people say or think, we just don’t know. But I think there is “ something” but don’t know what.

Letmehaveabloodyusernameplease · 25/04/2025 09:09

I do believe in an afterlife where you're reunited with your loved ones.
I've lost many family members over recent years and have had lots of signs they are around.