To report to the police for obtaining CCTV in a swimming pool

[Dinodoor]

So my partner goes to a gym where a girl also goes. They have a partner who is convinced that they’re having some sort of an affair and despises my partner. My partner and this girl are on friendly terms but he has a number of friends at this gym.

He’s always given my partner dirty looks and blocked him on instagram. Very petty things but it’s recently come to light that he’s obtained cctv, it’s then having a conversation in the swimming pool. How he’s got this I have no clue but it seems insane to me? Is this something that we can report? This seems like a breach on of privacy?

Eugh did she ask

Approach the gym, explain you’ve been sent the clip and ask how someone has been able to record.

I imagine the next thread from this op will be “the discovery”

I’m sure if he was having an affair, with the extent that this boyfriend has gone to their would be more evidence that cctv of a brief chat in the pool and a quick splash in her direction. I’m more than welcome to go to the gym but I just honestly couldn’t think of anything worse and prefer an early night with a book 😂

So it turns out that he knows the gym owner so he’s emailed them to see what they say

So all this about how he talks to everyone at the gym etc etc all comes from him rather than you’re own experience ?

And how did that come about?

No, I’ve been with the him to numerous gyms numerous times but I’m just not a fan of it as they all just gossip like a bunch of old ladies whilst doing the sterotypical ‘gym bro’ thing. I still go on the odd occasion but try and wheedle my way out of it if possible.

How old are your children op?

He asked one of his friends who the owner was and it turned out they had worked at a previous gym that he’d been to and they were friendly

Odd that he spends most of his recreational time there and doesn’t know who the owner is!

Either way op

nothing for you to do

so just wait it out and see how pans out

I wouldn’t be rushing that house purchase though

Tell your partner to STAY AWAY. This is very disturbing behaviour and will only escalate, you have no idea what this person could be capable of and they've already shown they're more than a bit unhinged. You also have no idea what the woman's intentions or involvement in this is either.

The cctv thing is a separate issue, but I'd say stopping all contact, even moving gym temporarily, is the immediate priority.

That’s doesn’t seem to be remotely on the cards

Sadly, some people just know how to paint a target on their backs, then seem cluless when it all blows up in their face. Trying to tell someone that they're being manipulated and fished-in is like a moth to a flame sometimes, I'll never understand it.

It was more your suggestion the OP’s partner doesn’t return to the gym

that is not remotely on the cards it would seem. He spend much of his spare time there and appears to be quite obsessed

Why does it have to be THAT gym though? Surely he can see it's a bad idea, jealous stalker husband with an axe to grind, and someone filming people and realising their images? Jfc, what does it take for some people to twig.

Well exactly

This isn’t a recent thing
and he continues to go 6x a week for 2 hours a time

Yikes, well they're all welcome to thier little Eastenders plot. I'm sure it's proving a lot of entertainment for their SM group.

Sad thing is… the OP is about to buy a property with him and he’ll be living with her two children.

So it’s best that op probably gets clarity asap

I feel sorry for this op
I suspect she has suspicions but is desperately trying to convince herself otherwise