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To report to the police for obtaining CCTV in a swimming pool

97 replies

Dinodoor · 23/04/2025 15:46

So my partner goes to a gym where a girl also goes. They have a partner who is convinced that they’re having some sort of an affair and despises my partner. My partner and this girl are on friendly terms but he has a number of friends at this gym.

He’s always given my partner dirty looks and blocked him on instagram. Very petty things but it’s recently come to light that he’s obtained cctv, it’s then having a conversation in the swimming pool. How he’s got this I have no clue but it seems insane to me? Is this something that we can report? This seems like a breach on of privacy?

OP posts:
Littlebrick · 23/04/2025 17:12

Dinodoor · 23/04/2025 16:59

My partner is your typical loud, rowdy, body builder that you get in every gym and your regular gym goer doesn’t like (me included) and is a very charismatic person by nature. But I think that is just that, he is a very kind and emotionally intelligent person and doesn’t have the filter from his brain to his mouth to have an affair

Exactly the sort of man I’d want to buy a house with and move in with my two children

loud, rowdy, gym obsessive

Littlebrick · 23/04/2025 17:13

How on earth do you have her phone number op?

JingsMahBucket · 23/04/2025 17:15

@Littlebrick are you being thick? Slow down and think a bit, and actually read the OP's posts. She doesn't have the woman's phone number. They're all communicating via Instagram.

You're also haranguing the OP.

Dinodoor · 23/04/2025 17:17

Littlebrick · 23/04/2025 17:12

Exactly the sort of man I’d want to buy a house with and move in with my two children

loud, rowdy, gym obsessive

Edited

He’s a very, kind and considerate man. He’s spent hours bonding with my children and has worked hard to gain the trust of my suspected ASD son. He just happens to be loud and gym obsessed

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Tulipvase · 23/04/2025 17:19

I think you would get different responses if it was you and not your partner that was on the CCTV.

I understand why he is cross and I would probably ask the gym about it.

pinkyredrose · 23/04/2025 17:24

Littlebrick · 23/04/2025 17:12

Exactly the sort of man I’d want to buy a house with and move in with my two children

loud, rowdy, gym obsessive

Edited

Judgemental much?

Blueblell · 23/04/2025 17:27

I think he needs to talk to the gym first about how he obtained the footage. I think it is partner who really has the problem here.

FleaBeeBob · 23/04/2025 17:42

Imagine being blocked on social media

LemonTT · 23/04/2025 17:43

If your boyfriend thinks he is the victim of a crime he needs to report the crime to the police. Did he report the alleged tyre slashing at the time ? If he did then he should follow it up with his concern about it being targeted harassment and who thinks is doing it. Does he think he is being harassed?

If he is concerned about the use of CVTV footage by his gym he should check his membership information on this matter and their commitment to how it should be used. I don’t think there is anything in legislation preventing the gym publishing or releasing footage of a space where privacy is not expected. Restaurants do it all the time.

If you think this guy is or will harass you then tell him to stop contacting you and block him. If he persists then report the unwanted contact.

MargaretThursday · 23/04/2025 17:45

I was once in a situation where someone claimed that they'd got CCTV recording from our place of work.
It wasn't. They had done their own video and made it look like CCTV. I know because we had no cameras from that angle. We did however have a fake camera up that looked like we could be taking from that angle.

The gym shouldn't give out CCTV, however are you sure it is theirs, or is it filmed live from a screen that is in the open perhaps?

I think you've got more problems than them obtaining CCTV anyway.

YourLoyalPlumOP · 23/04/2025 17:53

Dinodoor · 23/04/2025 15:46

So my partner goes to a gym where a girl also goes. They have a partner who is convinced that they’re having some sort of an affair and despises my partner. My partner and this girl are on friendly terms but he has a number of friends at this gym.

He’s always given my partner dirty looks and blocked him on instagram. Very petty things but it’s recently come to light that he’s obtained cctv, it’s then having a conversation in the swimming pool. How he’s got this I have no clue but it seems insane to me? Is this something that we can report? This seems like a breach on of privacy?

Yes it would be a breach

youd contact the ICO. Who would give advise on how to avoid this in the future.

That’s about it. I know because I’ve just dealt with the ICO myself.

YourLoyalPlumOP · 23/04/2025 17:58

LemonTT · 23/04/2025 17:43

If your boyfriend thinks he is the victim of a crime he needs to report the crime to the police. Did he report the alleged tyre slashing at the time ? If he did then he should follow it up with his concern about it being targeted harassment and who thinks is doing it. Does he think he is being harassed?

If he is concerned about the use of CVTV footage by his gym he should check his membership information on this matter and their commitment to how it should be used. I don’t think there is anything in legislation preventing the gym publishing or releasing footage of a space where privacy is not expected. Restaurants do it all the time.

If you think this guy is or will harass you then tell him to stop contacting you and block him. If he persists then report the unwanted contact.

Privacy is expected though on private property

only on public property would it be ok for them to release footage. They cannot legally 10000000% release footage of people in the swimming pool as it’s classed as identifying information.

the gym will be private property that has access to the public.

they cannot hand out CCTV. CCTV has laws on how the footages is stored and shared. They will of broken this

google the ICO.

YourLoyalPlumOP · 23/04/2025 17:59

UndermyShoeJoe · 23/04/2025 15:50

It would be a gdpr breach if they just handed footage to a random.

Though many local shops seem to hand over footage of accidents outside and of thief’s in their shops and nothings ever said about it.

That’s because it covers public land and you’ve no right to privacy on public land.

UndermyShoeJoe · 23/04/2025 18:00

YourLoyalPlumOP · 23/04/2025 17:59

That’s because it covers public land and you’ve no right to privacy on public land.

The footage inside the shop wouldn’t be public property or land.

TorroFerney · 23/04/2025 18:14

Dinodoor · 23/04/2025 16:59

My partner is your typical loud, rowdy, body builder that you get in every gym and your regular gym goer doesn’t like (me included) and is a very charismatic person by nature. But I think that is just that, he is a very kind and emotionally intelligent person and doesn’t have the filter from his brain to his mouth to have an affair

an emotionally intelligent person would have run a mile from this kind of drama.

YourLoyalPlumOP · 23/04/2025 18:20

UndermyShoeJoe · 23/04/2025 18:00

The footage inside the shop wouldn’t be public property or land.

The footage was outside the shop it said

YourLoyalPlumOP · 23/04/2025 18:21

UndermyShoeJoe · 23/04/2025 15:50

It would be a gdpr breach if they just handed footage to a random.

Though many local shops seem to hand over footage of accidents outside and of thief’s in their shops and nothings ever said about it.

’of accidents outside their shop’

AthWat · 23/04/2025 18:22

If someone posts "My partner has been run over by a truck...." half the posters here will go "I bet he was on his way to have an affair!"

UndermyShoeJoe · 23/04/2025 18:28

YourLoyalPlumOP · 23/04/2025 18:21

’of accidents outside their shop’

And of thief’s inside the shop.

TheWickerHare · 23/04/2025 23:28

Littlebrick · 23/04/2025 17:12

Exactly the sort of man I’d want to buy a house with and move in with my two children

loud, rowdy, gym obsessive

Edited

You can't seem to get your head around someone being secure in their relationship can you?

GiddyCrab · 24/04/2025 00:03

I expect your partner is more than friends with this girl.
Tell him to find another gym or he is going to end up injured or worse by jealous boyfriend. Then both of you block the pair of them on everything and avoid them.

AliBaliBee1234 · 24/04/2025 00:23

UndermyShoeJoe · 23/04/2025 15:48

It wouldn’t be a police issue I don’t think more a data controller reporting issue if they have given out footage, however the women herself could have requested the footage under a SAR and she would be allowed it.

Edited

I don't think they're allowed to release footage if it has any third parties in it

AliBaliBee1234 · 24/04/2025 00:27

YourLoyalPlumOP · 23/04/2025 17:59

That’s because it covers public land and you’ve no right to privacy on public land.

This isn't true. See below GDPR guidelines.

Businesses using CCTV that captures images of public areas must comply with GDPR and the Data Protection Act 2018 (DPA 2018).

Businesses should not share CCTV footage with unauthorized parties.

Sharin footage with law enforcement or other authorities should only be done when there is a legitimate reason and with appropriate consent.

raysan · 24/04/2025 01:01

I was confused at first, as i thought someone was getting cctv of someone underage.

Re-reading, she clearly must be an adult woman! Nevertheless, if her partner is this controlling, I'd report him to the gym and maybe police in case she is in trouble and scared to do it herself?

Anotherparkingthread · 24/04/2025 02:15

I think you could make a case for this man stalking your partner. Obtaining private videos of your husband. Sending incriminating things to his family with the intention of causing distress. Did you say damage to tires?!

I would be he pushes the poor woman he's seeing on it all the time.

Men can also be victims of aggressive insecure men, your partner was just unlucky enough to talk to the women with the fucking nutjob boyfriend.