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Argued with husband in front of our friends

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JessicaJJ · 22/04/2025 14:59

I am at my wits ends with my husband. We’ve both taken today off of work to give us a long weekend with with the BH, and met up with another couple we are friends with who have done the same for a walk and nice lunch. He usually works long hours M-F and is often working away so today was the first time he has done the school run since September. I am not joking when I tell you this is a conversation he had in front of all of us:

H friend - I bet you are glad you survived the school run
H - you never told me there was a new headteacher
H friend - what do you mean?
H - I’ve not seen tits like that since the sun stopped doing page three
H - If I’d have known before, I’d be doing the drop offs every morning

I ripped into him at this point, he went bright red and said he was joking. I didn’t care that our friends were there, this was so disrespectful and humiliating for me.

We’ve been home an hour now and he is still sulking saying I should have waited until we travelled home to bring this up. I disagree and think these sort of comments should be called out there and then.

He thinks I have had a sense of humour failure…

OP posts:
suburberphobe · 23/04/2025 01:21

I hope you don't have daughters OP....

caringcarer · 23/04/2025 02:13

He sounds gross. Was he doing it to show off in front of your friends? I'd be telling him yes, he is welcome to take DC to school everyday.

Runnerinthenight · 23/04/2025 02:24

You are married to a sex pest mysogynist wanker.

PrincessOfPreschool · 23/04/2025 05:22

Crikeyalmighty · 22/04/2025 16:08

What did his friends wife think - is she ok with her H speaking like that ?

I don't think friend's dh said anything wrong in the conversation above.

Evaka · 23/04/2025 06:02

I can't believe what I'm reading. What an utter pig.

Notmyrealname22 · 23/04/2025 08:39

He spoke like that to his mate in front of you & his mates wife and is upset that YOU didn’t keep quiet until you got home? What a twat! Well done, I would have ripped into him too. That is disgusting and disrespectful to you and the Head Teacher. I can’t swear that my DH would not say that if I wasn’t around (I don’t think so but you never really know), but there is no way in hell that he would say it in front of me.

phoenixrosehere · 23/04/2025 08:55

Cucy · 22/04/2025 19:59

The thread title literally says - argued with DH in front of friends.

And so for that, yes I think what OP did was worse.

You can say somethings inappropriate and then have an argument about it later on.
You don’t need to make everyone feel uncomfortable and ruin the situation over it.

It takes two people to argue. He could have apologised instead of doubling down and saying it was just a joke. How is it a joke? What about it was funny?

Doesn’t read like he considered why his wife had issue with what he said only that his wife embarrassed him over his “joke”.

Doubt he’d find it funny if OP said something similar, especially since she usually does the school run.

NCForThatForumM · 23/04/2025 08:58

Doubt he’d find it funny if OP said something

Pretty sure he would find it funny, most blokes would.

restbite · 23/04/2025 11:05

Mrsphilmiller · 22/04/2025 17:48

No you wouldn’t! 🫤

of course I would if he is fancying another woman, ffs

DramaQueenlady · 23/04/2025 11:10

Doubt I'd divorce him! Hopefully this was a one of. Let him come out of his huff. Sounds like he his mortified and was probably just trying to be funny. Obviously not. But just move on if this is not normally how he acts.

BlueSpikeyPearls · 23/04/2025 13:34

He is vile. He is disrespectful to the teacher, to you, to his friend's wife. I certain hope you don't have a daughter, because she would learn from her father's attitude that her only "value" lies in her looks.

I also disagree that he is a good husband. A good husband doesn't show such blatant disrespect towards the woman he claims to love. Imagine if you discussed another man's looks in such crude terms. He would blow a gasket.

Crikeyalmighty · 23/04/2025 15:05

@PrincessOfPreschool yep I misread OPs post !!

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