Husbands phone on silent

[Couldntthinkofausername24]

As the title says basically. His phone is always on silent. Every God damn day. Can never get hold of him and it pisses me off so much.

He just leaves it laying about on. In his pocket, on the settee, in the baby bag, on the fireplace always on silent. Nobody can get hold of him ever. They ring me or text me. He could be out in the garden for a few hours and dosent check when he comes back in.

It's not password protected and he leaves it in plain sight so there is no issue with trust etc it just pisses me off. I can ever get hold of him. He could be at work and just never comes back to me in a reasonable time in an emergency.

Can anyone relate

Oops this is me 👀
I really like to disconnect from my phone to be honest however if I’m away from the kids etc will always turn it back on.
totally understand why it’s annoying 😂

If I knew for certain my DCs were ok I would ditch my mobile.

I'm the same, @Couldntthinkofausername24 . When phones were pocket-sized I carried it all the time, but don't now.

DH is the same. It’s mildly inconvenient but I’ll take that over a phone zombie disappearing to the toilet with it for 30 mins at a time like the other threads on here.

I encourage no phone time at home for us both but this is every single second of every day. 🥴 my phone is on silent or vibrate when I'm at work but I always check it intermittently. He just falls off the face of the earth every day. 🤣

My phone is pretty much always on silent. I do check it reasonably regularly.

DH and I both have our phones on silent all the time. We check them relatively frequently but I hate the idea of being contactable at all times, especially when I’m at home.

My phone is always on silent as well.

My initial thought is, good for him. He’s not addicted to it, although checking in once in a while would be a good thing.

if he’s at work, could you ring a work number and ask for him? If he’s in the garden, could you walk out to him?

Mine is always on silent unless I'm expecting a call like my GP. I hate phone noise!

I think our phones are making us more and more distractible. I keep mine off to aid my own concentration and I'm firmly on team husband's side here.

My husband hates this about me too! I just..
Don't really want to be contactable. I will usually see a missed call within an hour or so, because I spend far too much time mumsnetting, but if its urgent... no chance.

He does not. He just leaves it where ever he used it last. I'm talking hours of a job here. If I'm out and need to speak to him, I get annoyed even before I ring him because I know he will just not answer.

Yeah i totally get that. I like to switch off on an evening etc but this is the second he wakes up until he goes to sleep.

All I want him to do is check from time to time.

Don’t most people have their phones on silent now? I can’t think of anyone who turns the sound on unless they’re expecting a call from the hospital or similar where they use withheld numbers.

My phone hasn't been off silent since about 2013. It annoys my husband but I don't care.

He dosent do social media or anything like that. And that's great but I just wish he would check it from time to time. I often hear my phone if I'm in thr kitchen and will finish what I'm doing to answer it. He could go all day. Yeah I've rang him at work a couple times but I know some work places get funny.

Every day I get calls and texts for him. Its a running joke in the family

My phone is on silent or vibrate during my working hours only. Oh and when I'm in bed. Other than that it's on loud. Not always on me but on loud somewhere downstairs

Couldn't he set it so your calls get through, even if others don't? This would annoy me massively. It's about parenting. Feels like he's avoiding being an equal partner. It's not just a question of being online generally.

my thoughts too, my sister actually sent me a TikTok earlier today laughing at how jarring it is when people actually have their phone on loud - and especially those clicky typing sounds!!!

It's not so much the calls. Its just any form of contact. He wanted a smart watch so he can see anything on his wrist whilst he's at work. I bought him one for his birthday end of last year. The same watch that has been sat under the telly for about a month

Yes the parenting thing bugs me so much. I just know he would be completely out of service if I desperately needed him in an emergency. We have two young children in nursery.

My daughter was rushed from thr GP to the hospital a few month back with pneumonia and i had to ring my friend first to get hold of him because I knew he wouldn't pick up. She works with him.

Some times I just think should I just delete him number cause what's point 🤣

I have my phone on silent when I'm at home. I like to be able to just relax and not have to be in touch with other people at all times.

I try to remember to put it back in noisy mode when I'm at work... but still have to turn off the sound if I'm messaging someone, because the constant noise for every key is really irritating! Also, the size of phones is pretty ridiculous and pockets aren't usually built to accommodate them.

I think if it an emergency it’s fine to just call his work number if you don’t get him on mobile. A lot of people are awol when at work on phones.

some people are technophobes and it’s really hard to get them to change. You have to have some expectations for emergencies or a time of day to check in

I relate with your husband.

My phone is always on silent too.