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To think my friends boyfriend has a thing for me ?

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calmbeforethestorm19 · 20/04/2025 20:36

Am I being unreasonable to think my friends boyfriend has a thing for me.. we were at an Easter party in my friends house last night , we were getting a photo and I felt his hand round my waist then he moved it further down . I moved in closer to my friend to get away.. then I got up from the picture and said that will do. When I got up he tapped me twice .. he’s messaging me during the week constantly and when I don’t reply he’ keeps messaging and messaging… last night when I got home from the party he messaged me to say I really enjoyed tonight with you, I hope u got home safe. I messaged him back to say I got home thanks and he said I’m so glad u got home ok.. then he said to me them leggins u had on tonight they looked so sexy on u.. I ignored him. He’s constantly going on to me ur like a sister to me and maybe I think sometimes maybe he just sees me as a close friend but last night when he was going on the way he was going on I’m totally lost.. my friend is going to her mums hen party on Saturday and he said to me maybe me and u can go for a spin on Saturday , for a bit of craic ur like a sister to me.. I really want to tell my friend but I think then maybe he just sees me as a friend and a sister like he keeps saying.. if I say anything to her she might say to me he just sees u as a close friend and I don’t want to loose her.. any advice ..

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Mrsttcno1 · 20/04/2025 20:38

God this is all very 16 year old craic isn’t it. Screenshot the messages he’s sent calling your outfit sexy or whatever it was, send to your friend with the rest of what you’ve mentioned here, block his number and move along. And then I dunno, get ready for your prom I suppose because drama like this surely has to be teenage craic.

wizzywig · 20/04/2025 20:39

Did you feel that you couldn't have made a comment at the time? That's not meant in a victim blaming way.
He definitely is on the sniff. You could play all innocent and send a screenshot of the conversation to your friend. But she may take his side.

waterrat · 20/04/2025 20:40

It is vile how he is behaving. Block him and tell your girlfriend

calmbeforethestorm19 · 20/04/2025 20:43

wizzywig · 20/04/2025 20:39

Did you feel that you couldn't have made a comment at the time? That's not meant in a victim blaming way.
He definitely is on the sniff. You could play all innocent and send a screenshot of the conversation to your friend. But she may take his side.

I said no more pictures that will do.. she definitely will take his side I know what she’s like

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Amanitacae · 20/04/2025 20:43

You’re romanticising this. He’s doesn’t ’have a thing’ for you.

He’s a shagger.

He’s trying to shag you.

shaggers gonna shag 🤷‍♀️

BatchCookBabe · 20/04/2025 20:45

Amanitacae · 20/04/2025 20:43

You’re romanticising this. He’s doesn’t ’have a thing’ for you.

He’s a shagger.

He’s trying to shag you.

shaggers gonna shag 🤷‍♀️

Yeah this. Some men would shag their own shadow if they could.

He doesn't have a thing for you @calmbeforethestorm19 He just wants to see if he can fuck you. Probably set himself a challenge.

Totot · 20/04/2025 20:46

BatchCookBabe · 20/04/2025 20:45

Yeah this. Some men would shag their own shadow if they could.

He doesn't have a thing for you @calmbeforethestorm19 He just wants to see if he can fuck you. Probably set himself a challenge.

Absolutely agree with this. Just block him

calmbeforethestorm19 · 20/04/2025 20:47

If I block him my friend will say why did you block my boyfriend 🙈

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calmbeforethestorm19 · 20/04/2025 20:47

Then she will definitely start asking questions and say I’m the liar

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BatchCookBabe · 20/04/2025 20:48

Then you would be better off without her as well @calmbeforethestorm19

Amanitacae · 20/04/2025 20:48

calmbeforethestorm19 · 20/04/2025 20:47

If I block him my friend will say why did you block my boyfriend 🙈

Show her the messages.

Hufflemuff · 20/04/2025 20:50

calmbeforethestorm19 · 20/04/2025 20:47

Then she will definitely start asking questions and say I’m the liar

Well why do you even want to be friends with her? If that's the case then the whole thing is so juvenile it's not worth even wasting breath on.

Stop replying to him.

MistyMoistyMorningCloud · 20/04/2025 20:53

I would ignore him.

AlertCat · 20/04/2025 20:53

Don’t block him but mute him, don’t reply to anything. If she questions it you’ll have evidence that you’ve not encouraged him. He’s unlikely to question it because he is behaving dodgy and won’t want that to come out!

Zanatdy · 20/04/2025 20:54

I’d just say sorry you’re busy to Saturday, and keep any replies to his messages to a minimum. You’re right in thinking that she could take his side.

HellsBalls · 20/04/2025 20:57

Teenagers/twenty something’s will literally fuck anything. If someone gave him the eye, he’d be off.
Ignore him.

Dinosweetpea · 20/04/2025 21:01

Stop replying to him!

Endofyear · 20/04/2025 23:14

He's trying his luck with you. Just tell him to fuck off or you'll show his girlfriend his messages.

NachoChip · 20/04/2025 23:24

The "you're like a sister to me" is so you let your guard down and preparing for what he'll say if his girlfriend finds out about this "closeness". Do you think he texts his sister saying she's sexy? And like other posters said, this isn't a yearning for a woman he can't have, he's an attempted cheat going after his girlfriend's friend probably for sport. Don't let this flatter you, you and your friend deserve a lot better than this.

You're entertaining it even if you don't realise. Next time respond saying you think these messages are inappropriate and need to stop.

theunbreakablecleopatrajones · 20/04/2025 23:25

Amanitacae · 20/04/2025 20:43

You’re romanticising this. He’s doesn’t ’have a thing’ for you.

He’s a shagger.

He’s trying to shag you.

shaggers gonna shag 🤷‍♀️

Very much this

She sounds like an idiot too

I’d find some better friends

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