Yo be annoyed husband is hungover

[MummaCub]

fWe're at my in-laws for the Easter weekend, my husband decided to nip out to the pub last night to say a quick hello to old friends from the village, I stayed at his parents and put our 6 month old dc to bed.

He gets in a 3:30 drunk and wakes us all up, I spend the next hour trying to get baby back to sleep.

He's supposed to be cooking us all an Easter meal but he's currently laying on the garden lawn with a bucket next to him.

His mum is bringing him tea and toast, but I have no sympathy.

He thinks I'm overreacting and that's it's funny and i should 'chill out man' ... his parents have bought all the food for him to make the meal, and made a big effort to make everyone Easter bags, and it's our sons first Easter, I know he won't remember but I still wanted it to be special.

Yes, it’s absolutely ridiculous. One thing when you are 20 and home from uni. Very different when you are an actual adult with a baby. What if you had done the same? People would not be so forgiving of you ditching your baby to go to the pub and being unable to cook Easter lunch for family.

It sounds like staying with his parents, with his mum to pander to him and indulge him, he has reverted to immaturity and boyhood.

He has forgotten he is now an adult with a wife and young child.

It's one thing for him to meet up with his pals for a couple of drinks but what on earth was he doing up until 3.30 in the morning? Was he out clubbing with them?

I think you are right to feel upset and let down OP. And you need to have a serious conversation with him.

That’s ridiculous, meeting up with old friends at the pub and having a few drinks ,perfectly fine. Being so hungover that he can’t now cook as promised, unacceptable.

What are you going to do about it?

If he's lying about with a hangover then he's also just expecting you to pick up the childcare with no discussion. I despise that in men.

Maybe you and baby (and in-laws if they want) should go out for a few hours - a nice walk, the park, feed the ducks, whatever. Tell him you'll be back for lunch.
He has a self - inflicted hangover. He's not dying. You can still enjoy your day even if he feels unable to participate.

Has he apologised to anybody at all?

@S0j0urn4r agree with what you say !
And tell him to power through his hangover and make lunch while you are gone.

Whatever else happens, absolutely do not give in and cook that lunch.

If his mother chooses to, it's on her, but if you do it, you're setting a precedent that you'll take on his responsibilities.

@CookingFatCat him cooking was a given 😂

I would be furious!

Going out for a few beers to catch up with old friends, absolutely fine. Getting so sloshed that he can't function the next day, unacceptable.

He’s acting like that because he’s being enabled.

It’s one thing to go out and get pissed but it doesn’t mean he doesn’t get to suck it up and get on with things the next day.

He can have some tea and toast and a shower and then get on with cooking the meal as planned.

I would be raging that he woke the baby but I’d be more annoyed that he’s acting like a baby and being taken care of by his mummy instead of just getting on with it.

If is a a rare event I would not be bothered

Unacceptable, I would be furious. Inconsiderate childish behaviour when you’re at his parents with a baby.

Getting arseholed, fine.
Waking you and baby, not fine. Prick.
He now needs to fucking grow up, get over himself and cook. I bet his Mum does it though...

It’s so depressing the 100s of threads along the same theme…

I guess he is very young and hasn’t actually internalised that he has a partner and a child. Somebody better tell him.

Honestly? Not great but I don’t think it’s a big deal in the big scheme of things. He had a nice time with old friends.

I’d be fed up to be the one looking after the baby for 2 days but really, what are you going to do? Feel angry, have a go at him, get him or his mum to sort out an alternative dinner but it’ll be forgotten about soon enough

Let his mother look after him. Definitely don't cook. Have a drink yourself if you feel like it. Don't let him ruin your day.

I’d be pissed off at being woken up but as for the rest let them all crack on wouldn’t bother me
leave baby with in laws him to cook and go for a walk

as for the special Easter we’re all different but I couldn’t buy into that the baby won’t even know it’s Easter perhaps in a few years with an Easter egg hunt but your wasting your time this year

Personally I wouldn't be bothered if it was a one off and probably find it funny , but can see your point it's,supposed to be your dc first Easter , I'm sure a nice meal can still be had and fun and laughter too

Order a takeway and move on, really not a big deal.

Yes it’s ridiculous. A few drinks fine, hungover and lying on the grass waiting to be sick not fine.

Why don’t you take the baby and go home?

Leave his mummy to look after him like the baby he is.

He can make his own way home when he’s straightened himself up.

Why is he laying on the garden lawn? @MummaCub

Realistically, how would this work? You’re highly likely to end up in a Conflict with his parents, and it’s not their fault either.

sometimes you just have to suck things up, you can’t go around stropping and tantruming. Believe me, I’ve been there 😂