Yo be annoyed husband is hungover

[MummaCub]

fWe're at my in-laws for the Easter weekend, my husband decided to nip out to the pub last night to say a quick hello to old friends from the village, I stayed at his parents and put our 6 month old dc to bed.

He gets in a 3:30 drunk and wakes us all up, I spend the next hour trying to get baby back to sleep.

He's supposed to be cooking us all an Easter meal but he's currently laying on the garden lawn with a bucket next to him.

His mum is bringing him tea and toast, but I have no sympathy.

He thinks I'm overreacting and that's it's funny and i should 'chill out man' ... his parents have bought all the food for him to make the meal, and made a big effort to make everyone Easter bags, and it's our sons first Easter, I know he won't remember but I still wanted it to be special.

So, who's cooking lunch?

Just get on with it. You can make yourself toast for dinner. Your baby must have its meals organised so that’s fine. Let his parents deal with him. Is the place nice? I’d say to go out for a walk and some fresh air.

Pretty embarrassing for a grown man. I think if it was a very rare occurrence I’d not make a big deal
out of it but I can understand you’d be a bit miffed.

YABU for wanting your babies first Easter to be special though.

If it wasn't something that happened often I wouldn't be bothered and would just be glad he had a good time with old friends. We are all entitled to wind down and go off the rails occasionally, whether we have kids or not. We are only human after all. There were a good few times when our DC's were small that either my DH and I left the other one 'holding the baby' while we went out and had a few too many. But we were always respectful to make sure we both got chance to go out with friends and have a good time. Neither of us took the piss.

The lunch thing wouldn't bother me too much either. I would just scale back the plans and still enjoy the day.

@MummaCub more to the point, did he sober up enough to cook the meal for you all????

How has he been the past 6 months ? Helpful, diligent, new dad ? Or is this a regular occurrence.

If the first one - I’d probably accept that he needed to blow off steam, be supportive and tomorrow gently remind him that mums need time off too.

If the second I’d be annoyed.

Fuck me, he's home with his family. Had a rare boozy night out on a BH weekend. probs wasnt planned, but i bet he had fun!!!

Yeh its annoying and im sure the OP is jealous that she cant get pissed etc, but she can have her night.

Its really not worth the drama.

Exactly this - and this nonsense about the childs special first Easter - especially when they can't even be 1yo.

I want to know if the lunch got cooked !

Well I would be so pissed off if DH left me with the in-laws that nothing else would matter. But that’s me. And them.

To be honest, hot headed as I am, i would leave him to stew. Are you practising Christians in that Easter is the most important season for you? If not then baby’s first Easter would not be the big deal.

I would probably help MIL or FIL to cook, then eat, then leave. If he was still on the lawn with a bucket - bonus.

He's finally started cooking, it's looking like it will be a 10pm Easter dinner at this rate.

Had I known he was going to bugger off and leave me in with his parents I would have spent the weekend with my family. At least next year DS will be able to be more involved for my parents turn.

I still put my son in his little Easter outfit and stuffed my face with chocolate!

If he hasn’t been home to see his old pals for a while then it wouldn’t bother me. It’s odd that his parents want him to cook at their house anyway. I would think it should be them as hosts. Either way. No biggie. Let him be. Go and have a night out yourself and let him look after your child the next day too if you need to feel equal.

He's started cooking at quarter to nine? What is he, bloody Spanish or something?

I’m glad that you didn’t step in and do the cooking. Just let him (and his parents) get on with it.

Go to your family next Easter perhaps?!

The people who think this is ok have very low standards.

Yep. As soon as your husband makes anything that could be considered an error of judgement you must divorce. Everyone knows this improves all your outcomes, especially your child’s. When they’re older they’ll love to hear just how high your standards are. He went out with his mates got too drunk to cook diner the next day so that was the end, dear child.

Hope you have a lovely dinner / midnight feast!

Who mentioned divorce? Clearly lots of people have a very odd relationship with alcohol if you think this is normal. You don’t see people doing this type of rubbish in other countries such as Italy and France. I lived in Italy and they take the piss out of the British for being always drunk.

Yeh I’d be annoyed. I think I would have take the baby out and left them to it.

It's really important that fathers of new born babies are free to go out drinking until the wee hours, poor things

He's fucked it big time, would it not be better to keep the lunch ingredients for tomorrow lunchtime.

How else can you demonstrate your standards and boundaries? Ask nicely?

That is truly disgraceful on his part. What the actual fuck did he think he was doing??

You might want to pop your bar up a notch or two.

Men are such disappointments... and always have been. I don't know why we are still surprised by their behaviour