DH will no longer do joint posts on Instagram

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As per the title - Easter Sunday is off to a dreadful start with ‘D’ H and I already having had an argument.

Some background, we have individual insta’s but for any major ‘announcements/events’ as such we will use the collaboration feature so the post appears on both our grids. Think engagement, wedding, pregnancy-gender reveal/birth, anniversary etc.

It’s our DD’s first Easter so I’ve got her a brilliant outfit, some props and of course eggs. I’ve also got a personalised sort of sign which says it’s her first Easter.

I said to H I’ll get the photos done after breakfast and we can joint post. He says it’s stupid to do this and doesn’t warrant all the effort as it’s ’only Easter’ so he won’t be putting it on his grid.

AIBU to feel pissed off with him? It will look strange if it’s only on my page.

98% don’t agree. That ought to tell you something.

1970s 🤣

Please don't charity shop it! Nobody is buying Easter stuff after Easter (or Christmas decorations in January, or Halloween costumes in November) so we have to landfill/rag man it at a cost to us.

Hahahaha ridiculous 😂🤦🏼‍♀️

Nope - us early 40s are ‘elder’ millennials - the last to have the privilege of a smart-phone free childhood.

This has got to be Gen Z craziness - the result of being brought up in the age of smart phones without any parental controls!

What props have you bought for your wedding anniversary post OP?
Oooh, we could have some fun making suggestions…

Ball and chain'd be about right.

Anyway, the OP has it sorted now. Her photos have been done. Here's one.

Good lord, seriously? I am 40 so firmly a millenial, have had some sort of social media half my life and cannot fathom this at all. What an utterly miserable existance.

I so hope there are mass class action lawsuits in the future from children who have unwillingly had their entire lives chronicled on social media. The whole thing is so grim.

Perhaps search my actual user name for past activity instead of makng lazy accusations and making yourself look silly. Is that CHATGPT enough for you?

I wonder what will happen to these people who live their entire lives through Instagram when Instagram (as it inevitably will) falls out of fashion or closes down or gets bought.

There are so many people on here who seem incapable of navigating any kind of relationship or life experience without the "filter" (pun intended) of social media of some kind but particularly Instagram. I presume their entire youth, their courtship etc took place through the lens of Insta and now their family life will be built around Insta. Insta will be a hobby in its own right and the family leisure time will revolve around it. Nothing will ever have been real if it didn't take place on Insta. When it goes down the tubes they will have nothing to talk about and no shared interests and it will be like they didn't know each other.

It's a bit like people who met because they had a shared interest in heroin or crystal meth or heavy drinking. If the relationship every survives the addiction it's going to be a hollowed out shell with no points of reference.

Genuinely frightening that children are being raised into this emotionally and intellectually vapid purgatory. I would almost prefer my teenager took drugs than lived like this.

This just screams that you've done the outfit, props etc purely for Instagram. And the fact you're so interested in what people think about it speaks volumes.

Forget about the perfect social media post and let your baby enjoy her day 🤦‍♀️

Not Gen X. My mum is Gen X and she’s 57!

@Sailead · Today 08:17

I think you’re being ridiculous but I guess this is what happens when Gen X become parents.

WTF are you on about? 😆

You are getting your generations mixed up here a bit!

I don’t think that’s reasonable. From this thread, it’s clear most women don’t care either. I certainly wouldn’t buy Easter outfits and props.

I'm guessing 'cute bunny ears'.

What are Easter props? Did you do a staged Christmas insta with props too? Maybe his mates took the piss?

Honestly I think he’s right in this situation. She’s 1 and won’t know what is going on.

You do know it’s a religious festival?

That's ok. He's allowed to decide that.
As are you.

Stop it.

And FYI, me being the ine person not piling onto to someone for.shits and giggles on Easter Sunday doesn't make me a robot.

It doesn't matter what anyone thinks of social media, there is a real mum at the other end of this post so if you don't have anything nice to say, fine, but do you really think you're being funny and clever laughing at someone? Just scroll byninstead of choosing to kick someone while they.are down.

I don’t understand the buying themed stuff so you can post special Easter photos of your baby, but it seems fairly harmless. What’s not harmless is you trying to push your DH into posting things on his SM, that’s a bit too controlling really. Go ahead and do your Easter photos if you want to, but do not argue with your husband about it. It’s not remotely important. Real life is what matters, not the carefully arranged snapshot of your life you want to portray on SM. Don’t cause problems in your real life relationship simply because you’re pretend life on SM is not what you want. Also, be aware that as she gets older your DD may not want to feature in you SM posts and you need to respect her wishes on that.

Young millennials I would say (as an old Gen Zer)

It does scream that. And is entirely fake as the reality is she’s so miserable arguing with her partner over SM and created a MN post about it. Why doesn’t she put the on SM?

ie maybe it would be better to step away from SM and just enjoy the actual day without worrying what people will think?

Joint posts are cringe anyways

I think it’s very good.

Seasonal.
Parody of a particularly vacuous personality type.
Topical - unhealthy obsession with technology and the need for acceptance and praise.
Inadvertently tapped into some sort of generational divide.
Ridiculous controlling behaviour of spouse.
Chocolate for under 2s.
Wrapped up in a beautiful bow of complete lack of self awareness!

I might add, this was done in a relatively short post.

YABU. Props?

Enjoy your time together with your DH and baby, rather than worrying about posting photos.

Unless you’re worried he has an OW.

Seriously? 😂😂🤣

Your poor husband.