DD is the 6th 4 year old I’ve raised including SC and I’ve worked with children in the past so am not an anxious FTM.
School haven’t shared any concerns, everything is just put down to her being the youngest but there are several children with SEN and as she’s doing well academically and not particularly disruptive I do think she gets overlooked.
I’ll try not to make it too long but this is an overview of my main concerns.
-She hasn’t made any friends. She’s not shy and is perfectly good at communicating just chooses to run around and play on the obstacle trail on her own at school
If I ask her about who she likes and who she talks to she only has bad things to say about everybody. She doesn’t want anyone from her class at her birthday for example.
-She has a very active imagination, spends a lot of time making up really detailed stories in her head that she remembers months later. She can entertain herself for hours with a pen and paper writing stories and drawing pictures. This has lead to a lot of lying, most of the time it’s just that she saw something flying or an animal spoke to her but she has said more serious lies such as someone hurting or saying something horrible when they didn’t. Sometimes I don’t know if she knows that she’s lying.
- she doesn’t really have any fear or risk aversion, will climb and jump off anything.
When she falls she just gets up, she hasn’t cried from pain for over a year despite always being covered in bruises and scabs.
She also doesn’t really ever seek out comfort or reassurance.
-She’s quite morbid and obsessed with ghost and monsters. She will talk about things like death, fights, fire and people getting hurt often which has upset other children and which she doesn’t seem to understand.
- She’s very critical of others and herself, will say she/they are stupid and pointless for not being able to do certain things. She’s also said things like someone isn’t allowed to do something nice or fun because they didn’t do something else well enough.
AIBU to be concerned? Does this sound normal to you?