Aibu about these photos?

Isitbedtimeyet101 · 2025-04-19T16:21:08+00:00

Mil keeps giving us photos in frames presumably to put up in our house. The photos are of dh when he was a baby. Dh winning a trophy when he was about 12. Dh at a festival when he was about 18 before I knew him. Sil (dh’s sister) wedding photos. Aibu to think this is very weird and not want to put these photos up in our house? I only want phones of my own children, me and dh. Dh wants to put his baby photos up. Another thing, dh mum gave him a box of his old baby/childhood stuff and there is an old child’s character blanket from when he was a kid. He wants to put it on our bed instead of the throw.

pearbottomjeans · 19/04/2025 17:22

Yeah. That’s stuff for DH’s office maybe 😆 hoping he has one otherwise I’m out of ideas haha.

VeterinaryCareAssistant · 19/04/2025 17:27

Compromise and put the blanket on the bed and the photos in an album

BestestBrownies · 19/04/2025 17:28

MIL: God, this place is full of crap. I really need to de-clutter. Can't throw that pile away though, and the charity shop won't want it....

DH: My mumsy-wumsy wuffs me so much

NoraLuka · 19/04/2025 17:29

The baby photos are of DH though? Do you only want recent pictures? If she’s going to the trouble of putting them in a frame it must mean something to her.

Can one of your DC have the blanket if it’s for kids?

SilverButton · 19/04/2025 17:32

YANBU - I would find this weird. Actually I think the kids character throw would annoy me more than the photos! Can the the photos go up in a room you don't use much? Spare bedroom if you have one?

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Isitbedtimeyet101 · 19/04/2025 17:34

NoraLuka · 19/04/2025 17:29

The baby photos are of DH though? Do you only want recent pictures? If she’s going to the trouble of putting them in a frame it must mean something to her.

Can one of your DC have the blanket if it’s for kids?

If they’re precious to her why doesn’t she put them up in her own house?

Is it a normal thing to have baby photos of yourself and your dh in your own house? I don’t know, maybe it is, but it’s not to me.

He doesn’t want the children to have the blanket, plus they are way too old for that kind of stuff. Imagine like a Thomas the Tank blanket

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Minglingpringle · 19/04/2025 17:35

I don’t see why you both shouldn’t get equal
say about what pictures you have up in the house. He could put up the odd photo of his childhood if he wants. So could you (except you don’t want to).

It’s a bit annoying that your MIL is dictating the style of frame - that should be for the two of you to choose. You’re not obliged to accept her offerings. You could perhaps reframe them if you don’t like the frames. Or choose different photos if you don’t like the ones she’s chosen. I never put up gifts of art because I like stuff I choose myself. It’s also annoying that she is making it so easy for him to put up loads of pictures of himself - more than he would otherwise thought of having. Would I be right in saying that, if she hadn’t done it, it wouldn’t have crossed his mind to do it?

Old photos can be nice, add a bit of historical character to the place.

In my opinion, some pictures of his childhood are fine if that’s what he wants, but they shouldn’t take over the place if they’re not your cup of tea.

The blanket is weird. You don’t want that on your bed. He can keep it in his bedside drawer and suck his thumb to it sometimes.

CheeseWisely · 19/04/2025 17:35

When DH first moved in with me I gave him framed pictures of his parents for Christmas (one deceased and one that lives abroad). I wanted him to feel that my home was his home, and therefore anything he wanted to display was fine by me. We’ve currently got 3 of his vintage framed B movie posters up in the lounge. Used to have a couple of guitars on the wall. I wouldn’t have chosen any of them but I had no better ideas and it’s OUR home. It can’t all be my taste. Perhaps lighten up a bit and let your DH have some agency in his home?

INeedAnotherName · 19/04/2025 17:36

Put the photos in albums or boxes and send the frames to charity.
Put blankie in attic.

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Isitbedtimeyet101 · 19/04/2025 17:38

INeedAnotherName · 19/04/2025 17:36

Put the photos in albums or boxes and send the frames to charity.
Put blankie in attic.

Ha, yes that’s what I’d do, but perhaps I’m heartless.

i thought childhood photos be kind in a box or album then once in a while you can take a trip down memory lane.

Does anyone on here actually have baby photos of themselves in display?

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Moonnstars · 19/04/2025 17:42

YANBU. I have baby photos of my own children on display and actually my mum until recently still had baby photos of me on display (thankfully these have been replaced now with photos of the grandchildren). I agree it's weird to have photos of yourself as a baby on display unless there is a significant reason e.g being held by grandparents who have since died. I would be boxing up the photos or putting in an album. Not sure why DH wants to keep the blanket unless it has significant sentimental reason, but I wouldn't keep it on the bed.

TrelawnyBastian · 19/04/2025 17:42

Isitbedtimeyet101 · 19/04/2025 17:38

Ha, yes that’s what I’d do, but perhaps I’m heartless.

i thought childhood photos be kind in a box or album then once in a while you can take a trip down memory lane.

Does anyone on here actually have baby photos of themselves in display?

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I do because its a lovely photo of me and my lovely Nana and we do of my partner and his mum also as he lost his mum young, its all personal preference. If your husband wants his photos up i don’t see the problem, the blanket maybe is a bit weird maybe let him have it for a while and when you change the sheets take it off, he probably wont even notice 😂

Davros · 19/04/2025 17:43

Let HIM put the photos in an album. I wouldn’t have them in my house unless I had a music room with a grand piano where tasteful photos in nice frames could go. The fact that she’s giving them to you in frames means that she’s trying to influence how your house should look. That blanket would be in his pants drawer or the bin

Createausername1970 · 19/04/2025 17:43

Isitbedtimeyet101 · 19/04/2025 17:38

Ha, yes that’s what I’d do, but perhaps I’m heartless.

i thought childhood photos be kind in a box or album then once in a while you can take a trip down memory lane.

Does anyone on here actually have baby photos of themselves in display?

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I am going to get flammed for this.

tightens straps on hard hat...

Yes, I have a photo of me with my lovely dad when I was about 2. It's a lovely photo of my dad, and me......... and a confused looking monkey in a woolly jumper struggling to get away.

Whinge · 19/04/2025 17:44

Does anyone on here actually have baby photos of themselves in display?

Does it matter what other people do? Your DH would like the photo on display.

INeedAnotherName · 19/04/2025 17:45

I have loads of photo albums in my bookcase but they rarely get looked at despite being very accessible.

I have a couple of school photos of dc and one family one. They are over twenty years old now 😬 but I do have lots of paintings so the walls aren't bare.

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Isitbedtimeyet101 · 19/04/2025 17:46

Moonnstars · 19/04/2025 17:42

YANBU. I have baby photos of my own children on display and actually my mum until recently still had baby photos of me on display (thankfully these have been replaced now with photos of the grandchildren). I agree it's weird to have photos of yourself as a baby on display unless there is a significant reason e.g being held by grandparents who have since died. I would be boxing up the photos or putting in an album. Not sure why DH wants to keep the blanket unless it has significant sentimental reason, but I wouldn't keep it on the bed.

That’s how I see it, you put picture up of your own children. Maybe your parents if there is something particularly sentimental. You don’t fill the house with baby photos of YOURSELF.

I actually love looking at old photos, but do I want a photo of dh in a nappy above my fireplace? No I don’t!

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Onlyherefortheentertainment · 19/04/2025 17:50

I have a small frame with a school photo of DH alongside one of me aged about 5 in the same frame. I display it on the landing windowsill next to a photo of us as adults.
I wouldn’t want several childhood photos of either of us displayed.

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Isitbedtimeyet101 · 19/04/2025 17:54

Onlyherefortheentertainment · 19/04/2025 17:50

I have a small frame with a school photo of DH alongside one of me aged about 5 in the same frame. I display it on the landing windowsill next to a photo of us as adults.
I wouldn’t want several childhood photos of either of us displayed.

That is quite sweet actually

This thread was supposed to be semi lighthearted. I think what makes it worse it that there are several of these bloomin photos and nearly all of if dh in a nappy, or dh and his sister in the bath.

The one is of dh at a festival with some other people that he doesn’t even see anymore 🤣

As for the Thomas the tank blanket on our bed. It’s not a turn on.

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GardenGaff · 19/04/2025 17:59

Does anyone on here actually have baby photos of themselves in display?

Yes, we have a 3 photo frame, with a picture of me, DH and DS in each one, all of us around 9 months old. It's uncanny how much DS looks like both of us, top half of his face is me, bottom half is DH.

But yeah, just that one set of photos.

DH's nan keeps sending photos over of him when he was a child, we've put them all in a box intending to put them in an album at some point.

Kittykittymeowmee · 19/04/2025 18:03

BestestBrownies · 19/04/2025 17:28

MIL: God, this place is full of crap. I really need to de-clutter. Can't throw that pile away though, and the charity shop won't want it....

DH: My mumsy-wumsy wuffs me so much

Sums it up perfectly!

My MIL is similar (not as bad really) and my husband is very good at saying ‘No thanks!’ to his mum 😅

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Isitbedtimeyet101 · 19/04/2025 18:04

GardenGaff · 19/04/2025 17:59

Does anyone on here actually have baby photos of themselves in display?

Yes, we have a 3 photo frame, with a picture of me, DH and DS in each one, all of us around 9 months old. It's uncanny how much DS looks like both of us, top half of his face is me, bottom half is DH.

But yeah, just that one set of photos.

DH's nan keeps sending photos over of him when he was a child, we've put them all in a box intending to put them in an album at some point.

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That is nice. We do sit and look at our photos and look at the dc and see who they look like and see how much everyone has changed.

I just don’t want all of these photos everywhere, there’s no room besides anything else.

I think dh is doing it partly to wind me up as well.

We will have to come to a compromise.

I might suggest something like this and then some can go in a box.

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Acc0untant · 19/04/2025 18:06

So you get to decide what goes on the walls but your DH can't? Why does he not get an equal say? Where is the compromise?

GingerLiberalFeminist · 19/04/2025 18:08

I have DH's various graduation photos up, some are 20 years old. Mine are up too! We also have pics of our siblings. Baby photos I'd put in an album and give the blanket to your kids.

2025willbemytime · 19/04/2025 18:10

Before I packed everything as I am moving I had a photo of me in the hall when I was around two. The reason being I have less than a dozen photos of me as a child, nothing else such as a blanket etc, felt unseen and unheard by my now ex h, barely even part of the family and I don't have any family. It felt nice to have me there to see how cute I used to be.